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I find that for me it is SUPER easy. I have been a SAHM since dd was 15 months old. I was also a student for a while and worked part time while I was in school. But now I am home full time and DH works full time.<br><br>
I do NOT find staying home to be hard or even challenging <span style="text-decoration:underline;">for me</span>.<br>
(I sometimes get really emotional about our money situation which will make me somewhat crabby <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> but thats it stress wise. )<br><br>
Do you find it hard? I do laundry and my home is nice and clean as are my kids, they are always dressed nice, my daughter is smart as a whip (and is NEVER not talking unless she is asleep <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> ) and my 6 week old is the best little boy ever. I am truely bless.<br><br>
My daughter starts pre-school in 2 days and she will be gone for 4 hours everyday.....I have NO IDEA what I am going to do with that time <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br>
(thats what got me to thinking about this. Everyone seems to think that I need this time alone and its a blessing that she is going to be out for a while. Im going to miss her <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> )
 

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I have found my job to be much harder since adding a 3rd to the mix. My kids are 3.5, nearly 2, and almost 3 weeks. I also run a business from the home that I did not take any time off from after the birth and have an unusually high order volume for the past month or two, which has been challenging to keep up with. We also started homeschooling my oldest today for preschool and that is another demand on my time not only in teaching/planned activities but also planning our activities, etc.<br><br>
Our home has never been immaculate. Since adding a third, it's been cluttered. I dont' expect my husband to help out at all around the house so if something needs to get done it lands on my shoulders... Quite honestly keeping the hosue clean is not high on my priority list right now, other than the things that HAVE to get done. I am gearing up right now to do a major decluttering again... Just waiting for my motivation to kick in full force. Once I ponder things for so long my body says ENOUGH and i'm driven to get it done. So that's what I' mwaiting for :)<br><br>
When I only had two and was not pregnant with our third, the house was kept much cleaner and things got done much quicker. Back when I had my oldest and her brother was a newborn, life was good, but it got more busy when he got older and had more demands on our time. Right now I'm enjoying the calm that a newborn brings and am preparing for chaos once she's older :)<br><br>
Now I can't even IMAGINE life with one child... Back then I felt challenged every once in a while... But I guess the more kids you have, the more you adjust without realising it :)
 

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It's come very naturally to me as well. I was actually a SAHW for most of our marriage prior to DD anyway, and being a SAHM was a priority for us anyway. It wasn't until DD was older (probably shortly after a year) that I have since had a few (literally, only a few) days where I REALLY felt like I needed DH to take over so I could go somewhere...and usually it was more because of things that had NOTHING to do with being a SAHM anyway.
 

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I say if it comes easy for you then consider yourself blessed.<br><br>
It is the hardest thing I have ever done in my life. I don't know how I had time to work. I have 3 ages 5, 3 and 15months. Each and everyday is a challenge. DH is a firefighter and works a part-time job so he is away from home most of the time.<br><br>
I am an obessesive compulisive organizer so living witht the chaos that 3 kids brings drives me insane. However, I wouldn't have it any other way.<br><br>
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It has been easy for me. But I wasn't born a domestic goddess, or anything. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I just had the good fortune to spend most of my life learning the domestic arts and child care so that they are second nature to me.<br><br>
It has definately gotten a little harder with the third child, but I think that is because they are all so close in age (4,2, and 4 months) so that the oldest isn't quite old enough to be a really big help to me, though he does try to help me a lot, bless his heart.
 

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Its not <i>easy</i> in the sense that I dont ever get frustrated, or struggle at times. Its easy as in that I do not ever wish that I am doing something else even during the hardest times (trust me, I DO have some hard times). So I guess I would say that its easy for me to <i>be</i> a sahm, but it aint all easy <i>as</i> as sahm.<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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It's not exactly been easy, no. When it was just Autumn, it was a breeze, even doing part time college. When Aiden got added, it was still pretty easy, even though I had also added a job. Except for the times when Andrew was deployed. He deployed when Aiden was 5 months, Autumn was 2 1/2, I was working part time and was doing part time school. That was one of the worst times of my life. It was also hard when Andrew was gone for a year, though not as rough. But the kids were older, which helped. Now that I have 3 (7,4,6mo) it is not exactly easy or hard. It just is.<br><br>
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Hmmm, well some things are easy. I do not struggle with a loss of self, boredom, a desire to return to work, etc... I switched gears from working full time as a RN pre-DD1 to a SAHM easily. I am not a domestic goddess, nor do I aspire to be. Our house is usually clutter free, I try to keep things flowing through, but I do not consider keeping the house my job, and well, I don't do the cleaning, I do handle everything else.<br><br>
My job is to keep the DD's from mauling each other, transportation to dance, gymnastics, etc... , to make sure they get a bath each in a while, fed, and have some sort of clothes on, and I do that, some days. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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Some days are easy, some days are not. My first few years as a SAHM were spent with a whirling dervish and an elective mute who, in addition to being such a perfectionist he refused to talk until he could do it well, also had to be taught many basics that other children know intuitively - happy, sad, hot, cold, pain, laughter..and had to have everything extremely organized.<br>
5 years later he appears in sync with others until something's off in his environment - mugs with liquid are <i>always</i> hot to him, for example.<br><br>
He's an odd duck, to be sure, but even the extra stresses of those first few years I was home were easier than my old job.
 

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Being a SAHM is much more enjoyable than any other job I've held, although it's without pay.<br>
I wouldn't say it's easier, because I've had some really easy jobs, and I've had harder jobs, but it's nice being my own boss!
 

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Not always easy, no. I started as a single mom of twins. Then I married a man I had just met a few months earlier, and moved across the country. It was difficult emotionally at that time, basically getting to know my dh and learning to be a wife and mom. Then we moved, had another baby, moved to a different state, and now I'm pregnant again. In my "free" time, I became a doula. Anyway, I'm lucky that my dh does not mind a messy house and he does love to cook. I'm not much of a domestic goddess. That's probably the most difficult part, I *want* to be a "perfect" sahm and keep a beautiful house and create beautiful meals and have the most well-mannered and well-groomed children in town, and never need a break or want a break from my kids or cleaning, but that is not me.<br><br>
So... no.
 

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Oh, well, I don't think being a SAHM means being a maid, cook, etc.<br>
I think it means being a full-time MOM.<br>
I do almost all the housework, anyway, but not as part of the SAHM description.<br>
I do it because I hate a messy house and my husband is a sloppy, untidy person.<br>
He'd never clean, and didn't when we didn't live together, either.<br>
He lives like a pig and loves it.<br>
I like things uncluttered and organized, and generally tidy and clean, so I do it, with the help of my daughters. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes">:
 

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I think the transition to a SAHM was very difficult. I spent my entire life planning which career path was right for me, going to the right college, and then getting a great job with potential for being my dream job. Children weren't even a thought for me. About 7 years into my career I decided something was missing and maybe it was having a baby. So, I made a plan to get pregnant in about a year from the date I decided to. Everything went according to plan and I got pregnant. My DH was thrilled and I was just hoping I would like being a mom when the time came.<br><br>
The day after I found out I was pregnant my DH decided he wanted to take a job transfer to Germany (from Ohio) for 2 years. We decided this would be a great way for me to be a full-time mom. At 7 months into the pregnancy we moved over here. It has been a very stressful move for me.<br><br>
I have found it very hard to go from a full day at work with lots of social interaction to staying at home with a baby. We don't live in an area with any other North Americans, I barely speak and German, and I find it to be rather lonely. I would say my stress level is much higher and at the same time totally different.<br><br>
It has gotten better as my DS has gotten older. The last few months of my pregnancy and first few months of DS life I thought I was going to die of boredom. We are moving back to Ohio in about 3 months. I expect that to completely change my thinking on being a SAHM. I cannot wait!
 

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It comes naturally, but its hard, i dont get days off or sick days, ds is special needs and challenging, even when dh is home ds barely gives me breaks. I also sometimes deal with depression and mood swings, so some days thehouse is spotless, otheres let the dishes pile up until dh does something with them.<br><br>
with all that said, right now, i wouldnt take a job even if it paid $50 an hr, i do love being a sahm
 

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I feel blessed that I'm in a position that allows me to chose this way of life, but it has been really hard at times.<br><br>
I just started homeschooling my twin sons (K) and I have a 10month old daughter. Right now it's chaos. There's no flow/rythym to our day. Everything hinges on my daughter who is going through an extremely clingy period. School/play stuff is way more important than looking polished and coiffed in my world, and my house has been falling apart from clutter. I love my family, they are my true focus.<br><br>
There are those days that I wish I could sit down on the toilet in peace and quiet. The thought of picking up something to read for pure pleasure is beyond decedance to me these days.<br><br>
But I also realize what a privilage and honor it is to guide 3 little people towards living their own dreams, supporting them in any way I can. It's a very important job. Life is so fleeting, they grow up so fast. So I usually just say screvv the housework!<br><br>
I don't have any issues with losing my identity as I never really attatched that importance on my career being some sort of extension of myself. I have dreams, they are delayed for now but they will be realized when the timing is right and I push for it within myself. I love just being a mommy. It's my job, my life and I'm happy for it. My children are really teaching me a lot about myself these days.
 

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Being a SAHM is the most difficult job I have ever done!<br>
I have thought about why this is a lot lately, and I think it comes down to the fact that prior to becoming a parent, I was a typical firstborn child - high achiever, highly competent, academically gifted. Along came DS, and all of a sudden, I find myself completely incompetent, and starting at the very bottom of the learning curve. Nobody could help me become a competent parent, as my relationship with DS is unique (as is everybody's relationship with their child) - so for me to figure out how to become his mum, I just had to <i>be</i> his mum.<br><br>
I had always dreamed of being a SAHM, of looking after my family's needs, of keeping the household running smoothly. And because I underestimated how much time an infant would require, I have been disappointed with myself that I do not have dinner cooked each night, a spotlessly clean house, with veges growing in my garden. My DH does not expect these things of me - I expect them of myself. I am still in the process of learning to readjust my expectations.<br><br>
For the first 4 months of DS's life, I honestly hated being a SAHM, which horrified me because it had always been my dream. In the last few weeks, I feel like I have gotten into a bit of a groove, and as DS grows out of his reflux and finds his own groove, our days are a lot more fun together. I am starting to enjoy this SAHM-gig!
 

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When they were younger it was much easier but at these ages (a 2 and a 3 year old) easy is not how I would describe it at all.
 

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It's gotten a lot easier again now that dd is back in school. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> DS is a super easy baby, so I'd say my job is pretty easy right now. I'm sure that'll change as he gets bigger and into everything.
 

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It's easier now that Katie's a "real" person (ie...she has interests and interacts in a meaningful way). The first year was hell...I'm not a big "infant" person, so, for me, sitting around with a baby I really couldn't put down for anything longer than 30 seconds drove me crazy. I've been enjoying it the past few months, although I was working part-time (bringing Katie with me) until a couple weeks ago.<br><br>
I do some housework, but I don't have high standards. As long as the house isn't in too great a danger of being condemned, we just roll with it. If I'm inspired, I'll clean, but, it's only going to get dirty again, so, I'd generally rather spend that time reading or cooking or playing or going for a walk or...you get the picture.<br><br>
I do get very bored if I don't get out of the apartment during the day. I have some hobbies, but some aren't very compatible with a toddler (ie...I can't sit down long enough to do cross-stitch, I can just see her swallowing my sewing pins, puzzle pieces would be scattered everywhere, taking four hours to make a five course dinner isn't realistic with her around, etc.) I actually do look forward to her going to pre-school in a couple of years for a few hours a week.<br><br>
It's not "hard", per se, but it's a total adjustment...I used to work two jobs (for fun!) and then still have time to pursue *my* interests...now, somehow I don't "work", but I don't have *any* significant amount of time for my desires...it's a big compromise...I don't regret it, but I like seeing things *slowly* returning to "normal" (ie...I *can* sit down and read for 15 minutes or so sometimes, or I *can* cook for a half hour or so...)
 

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I envy those of you who find it easy. I am homeschooling my children (6.5, almost 5 and 1.5) and I find being a SAHM/homeschooler the hardest thing I have ever done. I am a really, really independent person. I love tons of alone time and I don't get that, obviously, as a SAHM. I am also a messy person and I have a really hard time keeping the house clean. Overall I have often said I wish I didn't know better. By that I mean I truly believe with all my heart that it is best for my children to have a SAHM and to be homeschooled. Sometimes I wish I DIDN'T believe that so I could just go off to work and put them in school without guilt. But that isn't going to happen so I keep on trucking and trying to find joy in the small things.
 
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