My DS, 10.75 yrs, has decided that he wants to go live with his Dad for the upcoming school year. I was shocked! He has lived with me his whole life. I had him when I was 16. His Dad and I were married for 3 yrs (when he was 2-5 yrs old) but he worked night shifts and spent the rest of the time getting into trouble, so very little time was spent with DS. Since then, he has been in and out of the picture, mainly because he couldn't get his life together. The past 9mths-1yr, he has become much more involved in his life, but still disappoints DS on a regular basis by not coming to ball games, not doing things as promised, etc. I think that DS thinks that if he lives with him, he will just naturally do things to fill up the enormous void that he has from all the time missed. I think that would be great, but is probably very unlikely. I don't really feel like it's the best thing for him to go live with him, but he is pretty sure that he wants to. He's been out there for the past 3 wks and seems content. We have to decide soon, as school will be starting, and we live just far enough apart that he would have to go to a different school. I want to respect his wishes, and not have this thrown in my face later, but my gut says it's not in his best interest. What to do?