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Is EC a team effort with you and your DH/partner? or do you, the mama take care of all pees/poops?<br><br>
For us, during the day, of course, I do it all <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">. But my DH is also very good about catching and cuing our ds when he is home from work and on weekends.
 

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So far, DP refuses to participate. (DS is 3 1/2 months, and I started doing some EC around 2 weeks.) He wouldn't do it at first with DD, either, but once she started going diaperless a lot, around 6 months, he had to take her to the potty while he was watching her, if he didn't want himself or anything else to get peed on. He quickly got used to it, and thought it was more convenient than using diapers. So you'd think he'd be happy to help out with the new baby, but he's just as afraid of handling him as if we hadn't already had one baby. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"> Oh well, I'm sure he'll eventually be forced to participate and will adjust to it, just like last time.
 

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DH helps out a lot. He potties her at night and when he watches her while I'm at work (that's almost over with though!!!). Dd's "adopted" Grandmother potties her too <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><br><br>
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Dh has tried a few times, but hasn't caught a pee yet. (We've only been practicing EC for 2 weeks). I think once he has some success he'll be more enthusiastic. I wonder if he'll ever be able to "sense" ds's need to go.....<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/headscratch.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="headscratch">
 

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Whenever DH watches him, he'll potty him before putting on a fresh diaper and after eating. He agrees that a poopy butt is a lot easier to deal with when it hasn't been sitting in a poopy diaper. :puke
 

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Hehe, it is totally all me. I have never even thought about it really. DH used to change some diapers when she was a newborn and I was still healing. He has only put her on the potty a few times right before giving her a bath. I wouldn't have it any other way really, call me old-fashioned but I would be like "Hey! That's my job!"
 

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It was ALL me. DH loved that I was doing it, but felt really incompetent and I encourage the activities he feels really comfy with and "safe" in because I want him to FEEL like a good Daddy ALL the time. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> LOVE that man! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br>
Anyway... it wasn't so bad. I'm sort of nervous about starting from infant and doing it alone. It'll work out, though. DH will probably feel more comfy the second time around and since the baby cannot do what our 10 month old could, to some extent, he'll sort of NEED to help him/her. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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DP is really helpful but not so good at "hearing" ds' cues, but if i let him know that ds has to pee he will take him....dp caught the first poop (we started at birth) because i was still healing...i think this has everything to do with the fact that we have been successful since day one.
 

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both pretty equally.. at first it was more me but once he recogognised how great it was and started to pick up on the signals he got really into it. i think he still gets peed on more often than me ( and pooped on a few times <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> ) but he is really great and consistant about it <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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it's mostly me, but dh is willing to do it. he just thinks he doesn't pick up the cues, and sometimes ignores them then says "i *knew* it" when he misses it.<br><br>
i think he'll start being more active in this process soon.
 

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It's mostly me because I'm the one here all the time, but DH does it when he is with her in the evening (although he tends to double and triple guess himself, so takes her to the potty much more than necessary).<br><br>
But I have a great babysitter who caught on right away, so she does it too when she is here.<br><br>
It is so much easier for us with the second baby, I think because the cues are so much easier to catch now that we have experience. My DH actually is much more relaxed and easy about it now than he was at this point last time.
 
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