[alijased]

Last night I had a few too many beers on the porch with DH after DC went to sleep. She has been sleeping 7-8 hours so I was relaxing. WELL, she woke up and I brought her to bed and nursed her. I don't really remember much, like I must of blacked out because DH said that he woke her when he came to bed later.
I feel horrible...

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[Joannarachel]

Do you customarily drink so much that you black out and can't remember chunks of time? If you do, you need to get yourself into a treatment program ASAP.

Co-sleeping is a natural and healthy thing to do, but co-sleeping while impaired is foolish and could hurt or even kill your dc.

 

[EVC]

I wouldn't call it child abuse, but I would call it very risky behavior....

 

[MiamiMami]

Co-sleeping and alcohol or drugs do not mix. You obviously feel very badly about this. Make sure you don't overdo it again.

 

[smeep]

Quote:

Originally Posted by MiamiMami Co-sleeping and alcohol or drugs do not mix. You obviously feel very badly about this. Make sure you don't overdo it again.

I agree. Take this as your "wake up call" to be more careful next time.

 

[Ruthla]

The fact that you feel horrible is a good sign- it means that you recognize that what you did wasn't right and you don't want to repeat the behavior.

You can't change the past or undo what's already happened, but you CAN learn from your past mistakes and take precautions to keep it from happening again. It's your responsibility to make sure this never happens again. You were very lucky that nothing bad happened to your baby last night.

If this was a once-in-a while occurrance, then, quite simply, don't do it again! Don't have more than one or two beers in an evening, or don't drink at all.

If you can't control the drinking, or you can't limit yourself to 2 beers once you start, then you need to get help, either through AA or a mental health professional. Until you're clean and sober, don't co-sleep. If you're too drunk to care for the baby properly, then you shouldn't nurse until you're sober- the alcohol level of breastmilk is approxiomately the same as in your bloodstream.

 

[alijased]

I don't normally do that, I must have had about 4 beers and then was going to go to sleep. I feel really bad, and will realize that I was lucky this time and not to do it again.

 

[Tonia80]

I rarely drink but when I do, if it is going to be more than just a half a beer or a small glass of wine I make sure to arrange for Dh to give DS a bottle of EBM. And no co sleeping! Make sure to plan ahead when you drink so you don't act on something while intoxicated and not thinking clearly. It is difficult to make right choices when you are intoxicated. I am glad no bad came of it for your child and I think it woudl be abuse only if you did it often or had no remorse over it.

 

[hubris]

I wouldn't worry about the level of alcohol in the breastmilk as much as I would worry about impaired judgment while intoxicated, blacking out, and cosleeping while intoxicated.

(((hugs))) mama. You made a mistake and you recognized it. Learn from it and move on. You're a good mother for being concerned.

 

[mama_b]

One time, no. Habitually, yes. Sounds like this was a one time thing. Just realize your mistake, and don't do it again.