Here is my dilemna. I have a 16 month old dd w/ special needs and I have a 5 week old. There are several times during the day that they both need me at the same time. Since I am only one person, I try to pick which one needs me most and let the other one fuss for a few minutes. I don't know what else I can do. I can't hold dd #1 in my lap if dd #2 is in the sling, so that is out, alot of times I will sit on the couch and try to hold them both, but that isn't always possible either. So my question is if I have to put them down for a few minutes to take care of the other one and let her fuss for a few minutes, is that okay? I feel like a horrible mom, but I really don't know what else to do. If anyone has a good idea of how to better handle things I'd love to hear that too. Thanks.