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OK, mamas, I need some advice. I am a SAHM to my 14 month old DD. I have had problems in the past with depression and anger management. Now, Im glad to say, those issues arent as big and I am able to handle them when they do arise. My days with DD are pretty cool, shes a sweet, funny, intellegent child. She naps like a dream with me, I can handle her little tantrums when she wants another cracker to feed to the dog but I wont let her have one and so on. My problems dont start until DH comes home. He loves his DD of course, and she loves her daddy, but the only one who can put her to sleep (unless shes VERY tired) is mama. If she wakes during the night (but before I have gone to bed), one of us has to go and get her back to sleep. If DH goes she will usually cry and call for me, sometimes to the point of hysterics. Lately, she had been going tothat hysterical point consistantly so Ive been going in, instead of him. Last night she missed her 2nd nap and threw everything out of whack so she was up till 11 and then kept popping up while half asleep and wriggling out of my arms. I got so frustrated with her and myself, I put her in her crib (she cried) I walked with her a bit (she started waking up) I put her on the bed (crawled around giggling) back in the crib (cried). Im very ashamed to say that I wanted to spank her (my anger issues in the past were often physical) but I DIDNT. I know it wouldnt have helped one bit. I know when I get to that point with her though, that my frustration is very evident and I do get a little rougher with her, like when changing positions or putting her in the crib. I know she can tell somethings wrong with mommy. So, DH took her and put her to sleep while I went outside withthe dog. I know she cried for me a little but she was very tired so she went to sleep quickly. What do I do when I need a break, I know Im at the breaking point, but I know that she will CIO with DH? (He doesnt just stick her in the crib and let her cry, he holds her and comforts her.) DH is more than willing to help and is a wonderful father, but I feel very guilty about "making" him do it or about making her go through what she goes through. I hope this post makes sense, Im still pretty tired from last night..... Just looking for some advice.