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I ask this because I have a friend who continually amazes me with the things he is either completely unaware of or knows nothing about. The first shocker came when he told me he thought that when a woman was having her period was when she could get pregnant. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/headscratch.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="headscratch"> Hmm....that's awfully messy and I don't know many who would want to dtd then.....What exactly are they teaching in sex ed nowadays? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> So I had to explain to him the complicated yet simple process of the human reproductive cycle. The next one came when we were discussing music we like to listen to, and discussing a particular song. I asked if he'd ever seen the music video for it and he told me he's never seen any music videos-ever. Alright now I can understand this to a certain point. We don't have cable or satellite here and either does he, but there IS the internet! In 2007 can one really have never watched MTV??? In fairness I understand where all this came from. His parents are very religious and from what I gather very conservative. He went to public school, though. But I'm thinkin he was verrrrrry sheltered growing up. Oh well, at least he has a good relationship with them. Heck he's got a whole house to himself and an excellent job but won't spend the money to get his own washer and dryer. He takes his clothes and washes them at his parents' place. He also takes his trash out there to burn it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: But we just WON'T go there....<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Welcome to the "real world", my friend!<br>
In some ways I think its nice that he isn't all corrupted like the rest of us, but it also makes me worry because he's so naive and that makes him vulnerable, kwim?
 

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i have a friend who i grew up with since grade school who is like that. so much so that when i was pregnant with DD, she asked how it happened! well i wasnt married, so how could i be pregnant. still even to this day (we are 27 now) she is still is very niave about so much going on in the world. i feel really bad for her, but i know that part of it was the way she was raised, and now it is all just her. her 3 brothers have done and seen soooooo much, but she still doesnt have a clue.
 

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That is probably more sheltered than someone I know. How old is he? I live in a very rural small town area so am probably quite naive when it comes to certain things as well. However when my relatives visit from the cities they are constantly asking what I think are common sense. I think people tend to stick to their element and get quite confused when out of it. I would have no idea how to navigate a subway, cabs, or train system yet I can drive a boat, camp, know about farm animals and other rural stuff.<br><br>
I think the most sheltered person I know was a girl that was homeschooled up to 10th grade and then joined public school. Disclaimer this is not about how sheltered homeschooled children are. Anyways in 10th grade her mom was expecting her 9th child and she refused to let her daughter sit in on sex ed class because she didn't feel she was able to handle the information about what her mom and dad did to make a baby. Also "R" had never seen The Little Mermaid because her parents felt it was too revealing with Ariel wearing sea shells.
 

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He could also be the most sarcastic person <i>of all tim</i>e. "No, I've never seen any music videos. Nope, not one. Ever. Huh uh." <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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If I grew up among a no-TV family rather than a pack of couch potatoes <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> , I'd probably not have seen music videos either ... I was only interested in them as a kid; they're definitely not something I'd seek out now.<br><br>
I rather like coming across things I thought "just everyone" knew or did only to turn out to be wrong. Cross-cultural conversations along those lines are the best. "It's a Beatles song." "Who?"
 

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just last week my very with it girlfriend asked me if i had ever heard of myspace. she had no idea what it was and someone had mentioned it to her the day before.<br><br>
mind you, she is on the internet all of the time.
 

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When dh was in college he volunteered as a peer counselor. He told me that once, a 17 yr. old freshman came to the counseling office all freaked out because she was bleeding from her vagina.<br><br>
After explaining the details and getting checked out by a nurse it was clear that she'd simply gotten her period for the first time and had no idea what was happening. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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I have 2 acquaintances and both of these revolved around food.<br><br>
Person 1 did not know that you could *gasp* make cupcakes from a cake recipe. She thought you had to use a cake mix that showed the little muffin tin. About a year later I was talking in a group that she was at about how I made pizza buns and froze them for my kids to take to school. she had no idea what pizza buns were. I looked at her and said "it's a pizza.....on a bun" then she wanted to know how to make them.<br><br>
Person 2, she does not cook. She eats every meal out, she has 4 kids. She had no idea that you could make waffles. She knew you could make pancakes but thought if you wanted waffles you had to buy them in a box at the store.<br><br>
oh, I have a few more.lol<br><br>
Person 3. she is not quite 5ft tall and around 212 lbs, so overweight. She has 2 girls who are chunky, not what I"d consider overweight but definitly at the high end of the range for their age possibly over a bit. We were discussing weight loss(adult) one day. She was telling me that her family ate everything high in fat because to lose weight you had to consume alot of fat. I couldn't think of an answer to that one.<br><br>
Person 4, sadly lives next door. They moved in their place in August, in the middle of an almost 7 year drought. Everyone's grass was brown unless you watered it. He raked his yard, then poured GAS onto the grass pile he made and lit it on fire to burn it. First in the middle of a drought you shouldn't be burning the grass to begin with but it's BROWN you don't need gas.<br><br>
That same person, OMG I wish I had seen this. I don't know how dh kept a straight face with this. He borrowed dh's post hole digger. Dh walked outside and stared at him as the neighbor was holding the digger and spinning in circles to dig his hole with it. Dh asked him how the digger was working. The neighbor said it was working good but he was getting dizzy. Dh said well when I use it I stand still and turn the digger this way. So the neighbor starts doing that and says oh that works much better.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">When dh was in college he volunteered as a peer counselor. He told me that once, a 17 yr. old freshman came to the counseling office all freaked out because she was bleeding from her vagina.<br><br>
After explaining the details and getting checked out by a nurse it was clear that she'd simply gotten her period for the first time and had no idea what was happening. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"></div>
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Was her name Carrie? If so, don't piss her off, whatever you do.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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A friend of mine and I went out to lunch. They had those disposable pepper mills and salt mills that you turn to grind fresh pepper/salt. She kept SHAKING the thing and and finally said "what's wrong with this thing!" I guess she'd never seen a pepper mill.<br><br><br>
I'm pretty sheltered, but mostly with movies or social customs.
 

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My SIL grew up in a home that was tv-free except for PBS. (My brother and her now live<br>
cable free). Instead of tv her Mom read to her and her brother after dinner well into high<br>
school. I love the idea of this, I read to dd a lot, but I do enjoy tv as well. My SIL is greatly<br>
one of the most intelligent people I have ever met, and her brother is a rocket scientist.<br>
The first time she told me that I thought she was joking like "oh my brother is a rocket<br>
scientist", and so I laughed, then she was looking at me wondering why I was laughing. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/footinmouth.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="footinmouth"><br><br>
There have been several times when I have brought things up that she has no idea what I'm<br>
talking about. It's all pop culture stuff. Like when I said something about Doris Day and she<br>
had no idea who that was. Or the Brady Bunch, she's never seen any of the Brady's. But on<br>
the flip side ask her anything about literature, music, science, and she'll be able to fill your<br>
mind with wonderful facts.
 

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I worked with a woman in her early 30's. She had endometriosis (sp?) and it had finally gotten bad enough to have surgery. After the surgery she kept talking about the ultrasound pictures and "did you know your uterus is like a little box...". I can't imagine anyone at that age, especially with a long-term "female problem" being so ignorant of her own anatomy!
 

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Yes, it is. I was in college before I understood the ovulation cycle; I thought a woman could get pregnant any time she had sex except when she was on her period.<br><br>
I don't think I have ever seen a music video. I could be wrong. In fact, I think I probably have seen videos that were part of something else, because I have vague memories of it, but I have never sat down and watched music videos on purpose.<br><br>
On the cupcakes one, I also thought you needed a special mix for cupcakes. Of course, once it was explained to me, I felt pretty stupid. I also thought bread crust was compositionally different from the rest of the bread.<br><br>
There are lots more. And no I was not homeschooled.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Was her name Carrie? If so, don't piss her off, whatever you do.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"></div>
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You're so funny <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nod.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nod"><br><br>
I've met people in college this ignorant... one girl had been homeschooled ~ the BAD kind of homeschooled ~ extremely sheltered, etc... she had been attending for 7 semesters already and she still was so ignorant about the world.<br><br>
She was majoring in Math but ended up dropping out of college because her science courses conflicted with her moral and religious beliefs. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"><br><br><br>
On the other hand, I'm pretty ignorant of pop culture stuff. (Who IS Doris Day?? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/bag.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Bag">: )... I watch a ton of movies and TV shows off of iTunes but for the life of me I can't remember any of them, the character names or plots or anything. I can seriously watch a movie 5 times and still not be able to tell you anything about it other than whether I enjoyed it or not. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/sulkoff.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="tiptoe"><br><br>
But I read a lot and talk with lots of people so I remember what's *really* important, like which senators give a hoot about issues I care about and which ones will give us the brush-off, and I can discuss current political history and philosophy.... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br><br>
While we all have our strengths and weaknesses though I do think it's important to know the Facts Of Life, yk? People need to possess at least a little street-wisdom to get on in the world.
 

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<a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Doris_Day" target="_blank">Doris Day</a><br><br>
She sang "Que Sera, Sera".<br><br>
Que Sera, Sera,<br>
Whatever will be, will be<br>
The future's not ours, to see<br>
Que Sera, Sera.<br><br>
She was in a lot of silly movies in the 50's and a talk show in the early 70's.
 

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I'm sure I have been this ignorant at times... I can remember not getting what folks were talking about, but can't for the life of me recall specific examples now... but I was just very innocent <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/loveeyes.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Loveeyes">:<br><br>
BUT my fav is hanging out with other teachers-- mind you, NOT all that old, and they think things like MySpace are horrible and newfangled and are just catching on to them... I just kinda <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/whistling.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="whistle"> and don't tell them I have a site <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I'm just amazed that some don't know anything about basic tech stuff, and I know I've fallen way out of the loop in recent years as I've been too busy-- must be a teacher thing!--so it's not saying much.
 

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Ahh I know that song. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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I grew up VERY VERY sheltered.<br><br>
I had no idea that there was any underwear except for white briefs and white bras. My college roomates took me to Victoria's Secret my first semester in college and had to explain to me what a thong was and how you wear it.<br><br>
I had no idea about most of the world until<br>
#1 I got to college (Boy was that an eye opener<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> )<br>
#2 Then I started working the night shift as a police dispatcher during my second year of college. All my innocence went right out the window with that one.<br><br>
You don't even want to ask my DH how funny he thought I was when he met me because I was so sheltered. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment">
 
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