Is it tacky to have a joint b-day party?

I don't think it is tacky at all. My dd and one of her friends birthdays are a week apart. We invite mostly the same kids so we have done a combo party a couple of times.

I think it really depends on the kids. If both kids would be okay with a joint party- then cool. If one really wouldn't though then it's not cool.

-Angela

I agree with Angela... I would just ask the kiddos if they minded/wanted that.

My two had joint parties at 2/4 and 3/5. This year they decided that they wanted a party each, so that's what we are doing.

It didnt occur to me that it could be considered tacky. If the kids are happy with it, then I think it's lovely. I was so pleased that my girls wanted to share their day. (We did a small family outing on each actual birthday too, which they chose - the zoo and a children's park, so both had an individual 'special' day too.)

HTH

My sons are 5 years apart and their birthdays are 2 months apart. Because we were moving right after my younger sons first birthday and before my older sons 6th birthday I had a joint party for them. I invited all of older sons friends plus all of our family. It was really a party for older ds but after his friends left we celebrated with family younger ds.

I don't think there is anything wrong with it as long as both kids are fine with it.

My feeling about birthdays is that they are a special day to celebrate the person and make them feel special. If your boys don't mind sharing and having their celebrations occur on days not even very near to their actualy birthday, then I don't think it's a problem. I personally am not grown up enough to be able to share my one special day like that, but then I've never really gotten over how not-special my childhood birthdays were.

Ok first when I read that post, I thought you said is it tacky to bring a joint to a birthday party lmao..... now that I got that out of the way. My oldest and middle child's birthdays are a week part, he was due the day after her birthday. We have only had a joint party once. She was turning 10 and him 2. We had just moved to a new home and didnt know a lot of people so it was pretty cool to do it that way. I think at the age your kids are at it wouldnt be a terrible thing to do. But as they get older they might want their birthday just for themselves.

My first (dd) and my third(ds) have birthdays 1 day apart, and his dad's is actually the next day...(November 13, 14, and 15) and we had double parties for them for years. They had their own friends, their own cakes, and their own presents. It was fun, we had tons of kids in the yard. When dd got into her teens, she wanted to do her own thing, and that was usually not a party, but we still did a cake for her at home with the family and she still attended her brother's party.

I started a "Date Night With Mom" tradition for their birthdays as well. Each child on his or her birthday gets a night out with me all to themselves. They choose what they want to do, what movie they want to see, where they want to eat dinner. They really enjoy our dates together.

i feel bad for kids who dont like it, it should be their one special day....but my kids b-days are 6 days apart, and they will probably have a joint party. on their actual b-day, we will celebrate seperate as a family, of course....but to drag family and friends out twice in less than a few weeks is a bit much, i think, FOR ME AND MY FAMILY!! I am overly sensitive to 'putting people out' though, i do admit.

of course they will have seperate cakes...etc.

One suggestion that might help alleviate the jointedness. When we were growing up, we got bigger celebrations about every other birthday, then smaller ones the following. So at 11 I had a big slumber party, at 12 it was a small family thing and a couple of friends, 13 was planned to be another big slumber party, etc.

My sisters are twins and they always shared a party, at least until they got some different friends in high school. But at that point they could plan their own so it wasn't on mom, kwim? They were each allowed to invite a certain number of friends, and again, they didn't get a big friend-party every year.

I didn't do a party for DD at all last year. This year she has specifically asked, so we'll probably do some sort of small family thing with presents, and I'll take a treat to her daycare class.

I do not think its tacky as long as ds's dont mind.
I'm thinking you're gonna do something special for them individually on their b-days.
To make the party special let them each have a cake (or whatever you choose)...we always have 2 cakes at dd's partys b/c we have a big family...and we love to eat.
Actually at DD's 1st party we had 5...yep 5 cakes
She was born on my b-day so it happened like this
1.My friend made dd an elmo cake(mama likes elmo
2.I ordered dd a cake from bakery...so there would be enough for ALL of family 3. bakery gives free small cake for 1st b-days
4 my friend made Me an Elmo cake too so I wouldn't be forgotten
5. MIL bought me a cake too
And the kicker is my mom and g-ma left before any cake was cut....so I took them a cake(not a piece, but a whole cake)