[tnrsmom]

Is it tacky to give used dipes as a gift? As I said in my other thread I am putting together a stash for a friend due with her first. I was going to do a combination of new and very gently used (no rips, stains or tears, like new) dipes. I am doing a large variety and figured I could buuy more if I could get some of them used. My sister said she thinks it is bad to give used anything. For the most part I would agree but for some reason dipes seem different. I just wanted to give as many as possible so she could see what works for them and sell the rest to get more of what they like. My mom and dh both think it is fine. They know how expensive dipes are (though in the long run we know they are not) but my sis has no kids and has said even if she ever does she will not BF (whole nother story) or use CDs. She is supportive of my doing it though, just not for her.

So what do you think? Should I buy used or keep it to new stuff?

 

[mommy2boys]

my first instict would be to say yes buying used diapers is a little tacky. But after hearing everything else, I actually don't think it's that bad of an idea, because you can get more variety. I would causually bring it up and see if she has an issues with using used diapers. But I say go for it.

 

[Maggie'sMomma]

I think it depends on the person that you are giving it to. Is she the type that would never shop at a second hand store? If so, then you should probably stick to new dipes only. And, you could always ask her what she would like. Then you'll know for sure!

 

[blazfglori]

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Originally posted by Maggie'sMomma I think it depends on the person that you are giving it to. Is she the type that would never shop at a second hand store? If so, then you should probably stick to new dipes only. And, you could always ask her what she would like. Then you'll know for sure!

I agree with Jamie.

Also, if you do give used dipes and would feel akward giving them at the shower, then I would give them to her at another time.

 

[Peppermint]

I agree with the others, ask your friend how she feels about used diapers. Give her new ones at the shower, and if she is open for used (which is good to find out now anyway) you can give them to her at another time.

I have been known to give used books as gifts, I gave my SIL all kinds of used books on BFing for her shower, along with making her a nursing cover, and buying her nursing pads, storage bags, etc. I told her ahead of time, and she said used books were totally ok, cause then I could buy more, and that's how I think

 

[ctdoula]

I agree with Lori... I would wrap up a few nice new ones for the shower, and bring the used ones in a bag. I'd just say "here, I brought these for you, since dd/ds has out grown them and thought you could borrow them until you figure out what you like

" That way it's more like a loan/favor than gift.

Amy

 

[clothcrazymom]

I agree. I think it totally depends on the person. Some people really want everything new and others would prefer used items, and some are fine either way. And I think it can also make a difference as to it being the first baby?

Then too I think part of what comes into play is if she's even thinking towards cding (you may have posted about that and I missed it?) If she's not even really thinking about it then it would probably be more weird to get used cd. If she's interested in cd then it's a whole different ball game...she probably knows how things are.

Maybe you could make up a box and write a note to let her know your thinking?

I didn't really think anything about it. But I was looking through the TP and mentioned something to my daughter (11) yesterday about some diapers I was wanting to try out and thought used would be a good way to see fit and such. My daughter said EWWW and then I said something to my dh and he said "yeah I think that's weird!" But then they don't have any problem with hand-me-downs from the cousins or such. And I bought a ton of gently used clothing from Ebay before Alexander was born.

But one thing they did mention that I do think makes sense...we are really sensitive to different detergents and such. Some of the clothing that we got from before still has a slight scent from the detergents the other mom used, even though it's been washed several times now.

hmmm this popped into my mind....would you give her a box of used clothing? I know some would say used diapers are worse..and some would say used diapers are better. But maybe that could be a point of referrence. Some of the name brand clothing is really pricey...would you gather up some of them from say Ebay (or wherever) and give those to her?

ok enough rambling from me!

 

[Jilian]

That is a great idea. A friedn of mine is expecting and wants to try cloth so I plan on doing this too. I will make her a nice shower gift of new diapes in a basket and then when she gets closer to her due date I will give her a mini used stash to try out and see which she likes best.

QUOTE]Originally posted by blazfglori
I agree with Jamie.

Also, if you do give used dipes and would feel akward giving them at the shower, then I would give them to her at another time. [/QUOTE]

 

[mehndi mama]

I also think it depends on the person. The last 2 baby showers I went to, I gave HUGE gift baskets made up of gently used diapers, because I had a wide variety, and knew that the moms would want to try out different ones before deciding on anything. I buy used books for new moms, check out the thrift shops for those baby clothes that look like they got outgrown before the baby ever wore them....
I do think that most of my friends are the kind that gloat about thrift-shop finds, though, so they think it's awesome when I can put together a big basket 'o stuff for like $10 or something.

 

[mamamoo]

I don't think there is anything wrong with it, but then I asked specifically for used things for my shower. I agree with the above posters, if she is into thrifting, then it would be a go, if not, then loan then at another time...

 

[Artisan]

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Originally posted by ctdoula I agree with Lori... I would wrap up a few nice new ones for the shower, and bring the used ones in a bag. I'd just say "here, I brought these for you, since dd/ds has out grown them and thought you could borrow them until you figure out what you like " That way it's more like a loan/favor than gift. Amy

This is what I would do too. When I find incerdible deals on clothes for my neices and nephews, I don't wrap them up and give them as a gift -- I give them in a bag or box and tell my sister that I found some really cute clothes. I recently sent some used CDs to a friend, but I didn't make a pretense of them being a "gift" -- just something for her to try.