[Thing1Thing2]

My ds is turning 10 months in 5 days.

He has suddenly become the most awnery lil thing you can imagine.

He cries when I take something dangerous away from him, he whines all day long about various little things that never seemed to bother him before.

He whines and cries and reaches for my food like he is starving to death! When I dont give him my food, he screams and stretches until he gets some.

He wants my breasts to ready at a moments notice - and seems to want to nurse all day long if I would let him.

He wont even let me put him down for a moment, yet whines and cries from being in the wrap and not being able to grab anything or crawl around.

His personality just completely changed.. he used to be the sweetest thing - but I dont know whats happening.

Is it true what my non ap friends say.. that Ive "spoiled" him?? There has to be some other explanation for this.

 

[icy02]

Is he teething? If so that would deffiently explain his cranky behavior and wanting to nurse all day long.

 

[~Charlie's~Angel~]

NO, they are not right. You have not spoiled him, as I dont think a child that is not even a year CAN be spoiled.

Is he teething? My son was an absolute BEAR around this time until he was about 14 months, when most of them finally finsihed popping through. He also started to figure out walking, which I think was making him frustrated before. So it could be a number of things that is causing your lo to be a bit MOODY right now. It will pass. They grow in stages, dont forget.

 

[fruitfulmomma]

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Originally Posted by BonnieNova Is it true what my non ap friends say.. that Ive "spoiled" him?? There has to be some other explanation for this.

Well it is true if you respond to his needs/wants when he makes certain cries/motions that of course he is going to continue making those same cries/motions in order to get his needs/wants met. But it does not equate that you have "spoiled" him.

It may be that you will want to teach him other ways to express himself or that sometimes his wants will have to wait for a little while. But that can be done gently without making him cio, ignoring him, or whatever and will happen over time as he develops speech, etc...

In this particular situation I suspect a growth spurt. Or possibly something in his diet changed that is making him not feel well.

 

[sapphire_chan]

Sounds like the 10 month olds I've known and their parents certainly weren't AP.

It's a phase. Just like sleeping through the night at 2-3 months and not wanting a diaper change at 2 years.

 

[~Charlie's~Angel~]

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Originally Posted by sapphire_chan Sounds like the 10 month olds I've known and their parents certainly weren't AP. It's a phase. Just like sleeping through the night at 2-3 months and not wanting a diaper change at 2 years.

Oh man is that a tough one.

!

 

[tanyam926]

my babe started doing those things too, a complete personalit change, then we figured out he's teething.

teething tablets to the rescue on the worst days and hes' back to my little happy guy again.

 

[Thing1Thing2]

hmmmm.. maybe he's having a growth spurt. Definitely not teething b/c he usually drools like crazy. He also just started to be able to clap his hands and wave Bye bye". It seems he is working on walking as well. He has been cruising for about a month now...

 

[alfabetsoup]

My friend's little boy went through a really ornery period around the same time, and then he got about 5 teeth all at once and it was like the sun had come out again. I remember her say 'I'd forgotten what a lovely little boy he was.'

 

[Lynn08]

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Originally Posted by BonnieNova He cries when I take something dangerous away from him, he whines all day long about various little things that never seemed to bother him before. He whines and cries and reaches for my food like he is starving to death! When I dont give him my food, he screams and stretches until he gets some. He wont even let me put him down for a moment, yet whines and cries from being in the wrap and not being able to grab anything or crawl around.

My 8mo DD is like this - it just started in the past week or so, right around the time she REALLY started teething. And she's more mobile, but easily frustrated when she can't get to where she wants to be.

And what is this about not wanting diapers changed at 2 YEARS?

Lovely has fought diaper changes since she was big enough to squirm! And now that she's crawling/cruising, I have to chase her down as soon as the dirty diaper comes off!

 

[meemee]

any time you notice some new behaviour be prepared for a big development - either growth spurt or being able to do something big like language explosion. it happens at all ages. 18 months 3 years, 4 years 5 years.

 

[sapphire_chan]

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Originally Posted by Barbie64g Oh man is that a tough one. !

Because of watching how my little cousins acted, I've already learned how to change Lina's diaper while she's standing up.

 

[sapphire_chan]

I've found this
http://www.livingcontrolsystems.com/...t_ww.html#ch06

to be fascinating.

It tells the typical times for babies to do major steps forward in development. And right before those times you're going to see clinging and fussy and grumping.

 

[rachel7628]

My daughter will be 10 months next week and I think it's just the age. She's learning to walk and assigning meaning to sounds and a million other things. She's definitely teething and I wish the stupid thing would just pop through already.

Really, though, I think she's just become even more aware of the world around her. She wants what she wants when she wants it. It's more difficult to re-direct her to something else because she knows and remembers what she wanted originally. It has nothing to do with spoiling, but is all about maturing.

 

[RiverSky]

I TOTALLY agree that it must be teething. Not to worry, it is temporary, and the best thing you can do is pamper your baby as much as you can to help him get through it. I used to make apple juice popsicles in the freezer and let my children have them, it seemed to give them some relief if they were in a really off moment. I think Hyland's teeth tablets are another fantastic suggestion that a previous poster gave you. Also, if baby wants to nurse more frequently, just try to relax and let baby nurse. Sometimes it's hard because there's always so much to do, but if you can try to leave an extra half hour or hour a day (for a while) to focus on comfort nursing, perhaps baby will be happier overall.

 

[syd'smom]

Children are spoiled by things, not by love!!!

It's a frustrating time for little ones (and their mamas) when they know what they want and can't express their feelings. Hang in there, mama, and follow your heart/gut!

 

[OkiMom]

DD got that way during teething and developmental leaps. It seemed the more she walked the more she clinged.

No worries, your baby isn't spoiled. The best things a ped once told me is that its impossible to spoil a child under 2 so just do what comes natural.
Yea, 2 and diaper changes just weren't going to happen over here. She decided she HATED diapers and screeched when I got near her with one. She is perfectly happy though to use the potty.

 

[WyattsMom2008]

I've had my moments of feeling insecure about AP, too, when my ds got whiney and clingy. I've always been able to discern a reason, though. Teething made him really whiney. Needing to poop sometimes makes him whiney and clingy, too. Now whenever he gets that way, I try to figure out the reason. If I can't, I just comfort him or distract him to help him cope with whatever is making him uncomfortable. He always goes back to being happier and more independent, on his own, once he feels better.

 

[limabean]

Developmentally appropriate. My DD started acting the same way at 10 months.

AP is a life-long parenting philosophy; it's not about having "perfect" children all the time or trying to make sure there's never a difficult moment.

 

[sgmom]

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Originally Posted by BonnieNova Is it true what my non ap friends say.. that Ive "spoiled" him?? There has to be some other explanation for this.

AP is about responding appropriatly to a baby's needs, rather than responding innapropriately to a baby's wants (ie. hey, that was my toy! give it back!).

I agree with others that it sounds like teething, but to be honest my first thought was that he's hungry. Is he on solid (nb. table) foods? Making a fuss to share your dinner isn't a big deal to me, and you're CERTAINLY not spoiling him by sharing. Or it could be a combination of both hunger and teething...?

It's always bothered me when people dismiss behavior by saying their kids are a royal pain "because they're 2" (or whatever age). While it may be true that they go through developmental phases, they're still trying to communicate something, and AP parenting is about listening (then acting appropriately).