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Hi Everybody!<br><br>
I was just wondering if anybody knows anything about this! Is the length of your mom's labour predictive of how long you will be in labour? I'm expecting my first baby in mid to late July. I was talking to my mom on the phone tonight and I asked her how long she was in labour with both me and my older brother (it's just the two of us, no other siblings). She said with my big bro she was in labour about 4-5 hours before he popped out, and she was in labour with me about 2-3 hours. With my brother she delivered vaginally, but had an epidural. With me, it was an all-natural vaginal birth.<br><br>
Do you think this could mean that I might have a shorter than average labour? In the prenatal class dh and I learned that, on average, labour lasts about 12-13 hours. I am planning on an all-natural home birth, assisted by dh and midwives.<br><br>
Any ideas?
 

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For me, it was predictive. My mom's first labor (my sister), was fast. She almost didn't make it to the hospital. My first one was the same. Dd was born 20 minutes after we arrived. My mom's second labor (me), she got to the hospital a few hours before I was born. With ds I really didn't want to do the "afraid I'm having the baby in the car" thing again, so as soon as I even thought I was in labor, we left for the hospital. I was 7cm when we got there and he was born a few hours later. No woman in my extended family has had a labor longer than 5 hours.
 

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for me that was not at all true. My mom had a 14hr labor with me. She had a stillbirth between me and my brother that had to be induced, so it is difficult so say how long labor was-- induction took 3 days. She had a 2hr labor with my brother, and a 3-4 hr labor with my baby sis.<br>
I on the other hand had a 30+hr labor with my oldest, and a 24+ hr labor with my little one. ys, I have looong labors, but I have big babies as well-- think it just takes a bit for them to descend.<br><br>
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My mom had short labours, and my labour was 36 hours.
 

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My first labor was much like my mother's labor with her first and my sister's labor with her first. They are eerily similar.<br><br>
Good luck to you!
 

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I think you make of it what you want.<br><br>
I know that labor is a head trip. You do inherit different things from your mother, but she will convey an attitude about labor and delivery and all things feminine to you.<br><br>
About inheriting things genetically: you do inherit things from your mom, but keep in mind that you inherit genes from your dad also. Therefore, you could have your dad's mother's pelvis and uterus and muscle tone; however, this is not the kind of conversation that most sons have with their mother or grandmother, so that kind of information is often lost.<br><br>
So if that part of your family is still around, you may want to ask.
 

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I think it has to do more with your body, how in shape your uterus is, the shape of your pelvis, the size/position of the baby. Even your stress level. There are so many factors to consider.<br><br>
In my case my mom and most of my relatives on that side had very long, difficult labors with lots of tearing. Mine were 8 hours and 10 hours long, easy to birth, no complications.
 

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My mom had ridiculously short labors, 6 hrs w/my sis and 30 mins with me. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/scared.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="scared"><br>
My sister had an average labor, 15 hrs. I had a short one, 7 hrs.
 

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My mom had 18 and 24 hour labors and mine was 9. She also had a 44 weeker, 8lb5oz (me) and a ~37 weeker, 6lbsomething (my bro). I had a 40w1d, 8.13. So not very much in common. But we do have totally different birth attitudes, too. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"><br><br>
12-13 hours average? What kind of average? Okay, I never took stats so I'm probably going to bungle this, but is it the sort of thing where practically everyone is 12-13 hours and only a few are shorter and a few are longer? Or the sort where people are all over the spectrum in equivalent numbers and that's just the middle of where they fall? Kinda like the "due date" thing? Anyone want to sort out my bungled question here? :LOL
 

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I was my mom's 2nd child and the whole labor and delivery was 3 hours. She said it was easy. My 2nd child took 14 hours total and was anything but easy.
 

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What I have always heard is that you labor more like your sister. So, if you don't have any sisters............well, it's a dice throw. :LOL I know for me the sister thingy was true. The three of us who have had children had normal to very long prelabors, but went extremely fast at the end. Like from 5cm to 10cm in 20 minutes, 3cm to 8cm in 30 minutes and so on. And all of our babies required very little to no pushing to pop out of there, LOL! Literally, my first dd was pushing her own way out while the hospital staff wasn't ready and kept telling me to hold on! Yeah right! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/eyesroll.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="roll"><br><br>
Anyway, that's my old wives tale, er, I mean wisdom <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br>
Light and Love and lots of positive vibes for a wonderful birth experience!
 

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I was my mom's first born and she was in labor 24 hours with me (but in the hospital w/ epidural and pit) I was in labor 20 hours with ds. She was only in labor for 2 hours with my sister so I'm hoping my 2nd will go like that too <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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not for me.. my moms labor with me (her only child) was longer then my 3 births together ..<br>
her labor was 22 hours.. I was breach & was turned by doc in labor<br>
my labors where 6 hours, 2 hours ,& 4 1/2 hours<br><br>
however.. I was 3 weeks 2 days early & 7 lbs 1 oz<br><br>
my first was 3 weeks 1 day early .. 7 lbs even<br>
2nd was 3 weeks 3 days early & 7 lbs 4 oz<br>
3rd threw that off a bit.. she was induced a week & half before due date & was 7 lbs 9 oz
 

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I had my four children at home. No problems...<br><br>
I have six sisters.<br><br>
Three have no children.<br><br>
The other three all had Caesarean Sections in the hospital. Of those three only one started her labor at home. The other two went to the hospital.
 

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My my mom had five births- from very short labors (with me- I came out before the doctor got there) to very long, hard (with my youngest brother- he got stuck- I think his hand was by his head) and the others in between.<br><br>
I had one long labor (over 13 hours- posterior baby) and one short one- 2 hours.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I think you make of it what you want.<br><br>
I know that labor is a head trip. You do inherit different things from your mother, but she will convey an attitude about labor and delivery and all things feminine to you.<br><br>
About inheriting things genetically: you do inherit things from your mom, but keep in mind that you inherit genes from your dad also. Therefore, you could have your dad's mother's pelvis and uterus and muscle tone; however, this is not the kind of conversation that most sons have with their mother or grandmother, so that kind of information is often lost.<br><br>
So if that part of your family is still around, you may want to ask.</div>
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GREAT post, applejuice! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/clap.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="clap"><br><br>
My mom's first and only labor was 6 hours start to finish and my first labor was 17 hours start to finish (I should note my son was posterior and never did turn over and his hand was beside his head, so that could have slowed things down a bit). We both had practically identical promodial labor though -- the ctx were patterned and would get as close as 2 mins apart lasting a minute... but we weren't actually in labor. She had 2 false trips to the hospital with me. I had one false call the MW with my first baby and MANY other times where I thought I needed to call the MW.
 

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Peggy Vincent, who wrote "Baby Catcher" (great book, BTW!) said that women birth more like their sisters than their mothers. Since you have no sisters, that's not much help. I do agree that length of labor has so many contributing factors -- it's hard to predict what role genetics will play.<br><br>
My mom had an 18 hour labor with me (her first), and my first labor was 5.5 hours. Her second was birthed in 9 hours, my second was 3 hours. My sister had longer labors than me, but she was in the hospital with an audience (like 15 people), legs up in stirrups with an epidural. She pushed for 3-4 hours before finally turning off the epi, kicking out the visitors, and getting down to business. (And the baby was born shortly after.) Her second birth (no audience) was MUCH faster -- more like 4 hours.
 

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I don't think it was predictive for me. My mom's labor with me was 36 hours. I was induced, posterior, and pulled out with forceps. She said her labor with my brother 6 years later was a breeze at 18 hours. She used to tell me what torture her labor was. I had a doctor tell me I had a small pelvis once and I would have a hard time giving birth. Until I started studying for birth I thought I would have a horrible birth too.<br><br>
I had an unmedicated birth with no complications. I was in labor with my dd for a relatively easy 11 hours. I pushed for a little over an hour. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> to that doctor
 

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This is all very interesting. I believe your labor depends on your body and genetics, not much to do with your mother because you are made from many people, not just your mom. Mom, dad, grandma and grandpa on both sides, then up and up and up the family tree. Well, and how you are 'allowed' to labor or choose to labor. Flat on your back = bad, different possitions = good, support = good, doctors telling you what you are allowed to do and when you are allowed to do it = bad, etc.<br><br>
However, I seem to be carrying on the long labor traditions in my family. My maternal grandma was in labor with my mom for 3 days before they realized she was breach, butt first. She finally pushed her out with some 'help'. Her next labor was better, but still very long.<br><br>
My mom's first labor was 24 hours, her second was 18 hours (me), her third was 13 hours before the baby went into distress and had to be removed, he had the cord around his neck 3 times, her fourth labor was an elective c-section (not sure if she had a choice, but she wanted her tubes tied anyways). Luckily 4 very healthy babies.<br><br>
My first labor was 45 hours (3 hours of pushing, 18 of that flat on my back w/epidural which wore off when baby started decending, never had the desire to push). I am hoping that a more relaxed birth, hopefully at home <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/fingersx.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="fingersx">: , will speed things up drastically.
 
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