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My son is 5 1/2. He's generally happy, funny, enthusiastic AND he is attached to his 'guys'. His 'guys' are smallish stuffed animals, which all have names and thoughts. My son tells us what they like and don't like and he vocalizes for them in this REALLY screechy voice and they talk and answer questions and refer to my son as 'Dad.'<br>
He plays all the time with his big sis who's a year older than him, he gets annoyed by his younger sis and is very caring and kind to his baby brother.<br>
My question is: how much of an 'outsider' is he? Are all the other boys playing sports and good at interacting with other kids (not through freaky stuffed animal voices?)<br>
The other thing is; he's super smart with reading and numbers and he's homeschooled but frequently in playground and playdate scenarios with other kids. My hubby thinks it might be a good idea to keep the 'guys' at home or set aside while other kids are here to play. Sometimes he talks with the 'guys' more than real live friends.
 

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The way I see it, every one of us could be considered a "weirdo" for something we do. And with some kids being the mean, judgmental, conformist little twerps they are, yep, I'd guess those ones might consider your son odd.<br><br>
But so what?<br><br>
Not all 5yo boys are good at sports or even interested in sports. Some of them are interested in sports and not at all good at interacting with other kids. They are what they are, you know?<br><br>
I do think that modeling and encouraging interacting with others is important, and if your son is having playdates where he's ignoring his friends in favor of the "guys" than yeah, you might want to talk about how excluding people from your games isn't kind, yadda yadda.<br><br>
But other than that, I wouldn't worry. Your son sounds like a real kick!
 

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I would say that your son is very sensitive, caring and creative.<br><br>
Here's a question. If your son were, in fact, a daughter and she played like this with her dolls, would you be so worried?<br><br>
As far as what "all the other boys" out there are doing, really, don't waste your energy worrying about it! Sure, some of them are out there playing sports and climbing trees. Others are busy studying bugs, others wanting to learn how to cook. You can't spend time worrying about what all the other kids are doing, because they are all so different.
 

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surfing in from the main page - still bored.<br><br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/upsidedown.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="upsidedown"> yeah for weirdos! wouldn't have any friends if we didn't have weirdos!! You son sounds imaginative, caring and intuitive! I'd rock it out!<br><br>
at least his "guys" are tangible, my sister had <i>hardcore</i> imaginary friends. that was a trip, you couldn't do anything without one of her "boys" (that was her name) in your way. she once yelled at mom for driving too fast because the "boys" couldn't keep up!
 

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My DS is five and he could be a weirdo. He loves to draw, paint, makes up vivid imaginary scenes, and his blue stuffed bunny talks to him. He's not good at sports and isn't interested. But he's social, smart, funny, sweet, creative, and gentle.<br><br>
Sounds to me like your DS is fine, OP. As long as he can play with other kids, if he wants, then I think it's fine. Even if not, there's such a huge range of "normal" that I wouldn't worry (easier said than done, I know!)<br><br>
It's so hard in a world that expects little boys to be "just so" to accept that our little guys don't fit that mold.
 

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My son is only 4.5 but he is really into his "friends" as well. They go everywhere with him. He is extremely creative in his interactions and I see him using them to play out a lot of real life scenarios that might be hard for him. He likes playing with other kids but usually only one or two at a time. I guess the way I see it is that I value the imagination over "fitting in" exactly to his peers (if fitting in exactly were even possible. It sounds like he socializes appropriately for his age and the "friends" don't seem to be causing any great grief (unless I missed something in the original post). I would talk a little more with your DH to see what his specific concerns are or if he sees things very differently from you.
 

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Well my son is almost 5 and he has a very wild imagination also. Not only does he have stuffed animals that "talk" and go on "adventures" with him, he has baby dolls that he nurses and plays house with. He pretends to be different animals and sometimes a baby. Heck, he puts his dollies in his shirt and pretends to be pregnant with twins and then "births" the babies. Then says something like, "see they were both breech and I did it!" He's not interested in organized sports too much yet, but I haven't been pushing it either. I think this age (esp from 4-7) is all about imaginative play, and the soccer matches can come when they're ready for it.<br>
That said, he also loves his "boy" stuff, like building with legos, playing with his cars and their road/parking garage setup, playing in the sandbox, drumming, etc. He's also an avid hiker and biker.<br>
So, no, I don't think your son is a weirdo. And he won't be as long as you don't think he is!<br>
In my circle, most of my friends have girls his age or boys that are older or younger. So naturally, playing house is never a problem for him!
 

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My 5 1/2 year old boy hides his lovey in his school backpack so he can take it with him. He never takes it out at school, but just likes knowing it's hidden in there. I don't think he's a weirdo. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
I think your son will grow out of it, but in the meantime, I'll bet there are plenty of other closet stuffed animal lovers in Kindergarten and 1st grade!
 

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My ds (8) has his "guys" too. He is very attached to them. Right now, they are Ben10 characters. He only plays with them at home, or if we are going somewhere (like the grocery store). He doesn't want them at school, or if he goes to a friend's house. He has lots of friends, and gets along really well with anyone. He doesn't like organized sports either, even though all of his friends are into them; but he loves swimming, bike riding, gymnastics, and wants to try tennis.<br>
I wouldn't worry about it. Try some individual sports!
 

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He's fine! I volunteer in DD's kindergarten every once in a while, and the boys *and* girls are all really into Webkinz (which are little stuffed animals like you describe), and behave just like your son . . . they all talk to them and the animals answer in really screechy voices. I never thought boys did that kind of thing until I saw it over and over again with my own eyes <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">. It's so sweet!
 

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My ds is 9 but I wish you could all come play. He is having a very hard time at school this year and he would have fit right in with your boys!
 

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I guess I didn't really make myself clear here. I'm not really concerned with the 'girlish-ness' of it. I didn't mention that because it didn't occur to me that it would sound that way. Sure, he plays house and also nurses babies (or, he did when he was younger). For the most part now- he's into 'Boy' things- his guys are little pokemon characters or animals...nothing very typically for girls. What I was HOPING to hear is about all the other young boys who are talking with and to their animals in adapted voices and opting for that play over REAL friend play sometimes.<br>
That's the part that freaks me out a little...<br>
I'm enjoying hearing about all your fun boys though!- Thanks!
 

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My 6.5-year-old still does things similar to what you're describing. He's always been "different" than his peers, but who cares? Different is cool. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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My son turns 5 in a week. His "baby" is Sarah, a Cabbage Patch doll that his baby sister got for a Christmas present. Sarah is dressed up like a Christmas tree, complete with a gold star perched on top of her head.<br><br>
He has carried Sarah everywhere since he claimed her at Christmas (he tossed one of his dolls at DD in exchange - and she was too busy with his Hot Wheels to care, anyway <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">). He introduces Sarah to everyone he meets, and informs them that she is seven (or sometimes eight) years old. He tells people he is her mama. He will not even go to the bathroom without carrying her along.<br><br>
Just recently, he has started "speaking" for her, talking in a high, screechy voice to signify that it's her talking. He sings for her, has whole conversations with her, and expects me and DH to also converse while he is talking in this irritating, high-pitched voice. He makes me say good-night to her and go through the "I love you, you're my best friend" litany with her just as I do with him.<br><br>
He doesn't socialize as much as I'd like because he's currently at home with DH all day, so he does not get to talk to or play with other children. However, when he does have the chance, he will interject with his Sarah doll just as if she was a separate person there with him, and will occasionally ignore the other kids to carry on with her.<br><br>
I don't make much of it. I see him play with other kids, and I know he can communicate just fine. I believe in my son's case that Sarah is his substitute for age-appropriate playmates, given that his dad doesn't take him anywhere during the day. And then when he is around kids his own age, he may turn to his doll if he doesn't feel like he quite fits in, or maybe just because he is so comfortable with her - it'd be like going to a party hosted by strangers, taking your best friend, you're going to talk to the person you know and are comfortable with most of all, even if you're not exactly antisocial to everyone else.<br><br>
I think he'll outgrow it. One day, I'll have Sarah up on a shelf to embarrass him with when he brings over his girlfriend. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"> In the meantime, I just let him be himself. I don't think the OP's boy is a weirdo either. I think all children are just weird to adults, because we probably can't recall ever being that "strange." (Probably because in our own minds, we weren't... though our parents might tell different stories!!)
 

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I don't think that is abnormal, though if he is extreme you may want to have him checked out for aspergers or something along those lines.
 

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My son is 7 and still does this from time to time.... DS also is showing an interest in theater and acting. DS has always liked theater and art instead of traditional boys thing
 

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Too funny--your son sounds just like my kids, and like me at that age (and older)! My older brother and I played games with our "snugglers" until we were in our early teens. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/bag.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Bag">:<br><br>
My twins still played silly talking-with-snugglers games until they were 10 or so. I have the funniest videos. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
I wouldn't worry about it at all. Five is such an imaginative age. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><br><br>
One of my favorite things to do is lie in bed with my 9-year-old (or my 13-year-old!) and use the stuffed animals to dance and talk. We love it!
 

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my ds(4) has his animals. maybe 10 of them. they go with him everywhere and he talks to them all day long. everynight puppy gets changed into a shirt and sleeps in his shell( my winter hat) baby galileo, cardinal, and birdie get to read the book with us. birdie is always sad because he lost his mother , but is very happy with us because we love him and take good care of him. last night we forgot to bring cat with us, ds started freaking out so i told him maybe cat stayed home cuz and he was sick. he agreed and thought we should bring him some hot cocoa to make him feel bettter, he wanted me to tell everyone( the people in the grocery store, at the library and my dance class) that cat was sick. these new additions to our family have started to delay all functional things... getting dressed, bath, leaving , etc... and i was losing patience and a bit worried because he is anti social with other children... but then i started to embrace it. it is nurturing his emotional intelligence, creativity( he is way more creative than me!!), and he is acting out everything he has learned. (all the books and videos or tv that he has seen are about animals who speak and function like people!)<br>
i am proud that he is acting this out and not forms of fighting and war. i am very proud of the fact that he is 4 and doesn't know what a gun is. i think it is perfectly normal for your ds to have these guys that he can express his feelings to and through. they are building his inner strength.<br>
we see a friend of his regularly at my dance class and he usually wants nothing to do with her and will hide his animals form her. but last week out of the blue he decided to play with her again. i would just give your son space to work through whatever it is that he needs to.<br>
my son defintitely prefers his animals to his live friends<br>
so, no i don't think you son is a wierdo!! i think he is building his inner strength!
 

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my ds is almost 4. He has an imaginary friend....named carrot.<br>
carrot lives in the "old city" , we live in the "new city" ....I think your son is just very imaginative and creative.<br>
sometimes i worry about my ds.....but I know he is just very bright, and intuitive and very sensitive. That usually keeps me grounded in the fact that he is going to be just fine.<br>
alot like his mama , when she was little. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 
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