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<div>Originally Posted by <strong>UrbanPlanter</strong></div>
<div style="font-style:italic;">who, me? or you? who are you referring to?</div>
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I want you, the OP, and the others who agreed that night-weaning and CLW are mutually exclusive to know that _I_ night-weaned my son and that I do not plan to force weaning on him. I thought it was clear in my post that the "someone" was me; and the "you" was "y'all". When it comes to labels for the relationship, I believe that CLW does apply to us.<br><br>
The OP and PPs may not intend to do so, but this board has an air of exclusivity. As a "moderate" CLW who nightweaned and set limits during the day, I get harshness from both sides.<br>
Non-nursers (or the ones who stop once a tooth or two come in) think that I am a weirdo. I have had close family say things like, You need to get that kid off of the boob (in front of DS), and everytime we get together they ask me if he's "done" yet.<br>
On the other hand, here at MDC, which I like to think of as a safe haven, my choice to night-wean means that I can't be part of the CLW forum?? I wouldn't post a night-weaning question or start the topic in this forum, but it sounds as though I just "don't belong."<br><br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div>Originally Posted by <strong>UrbanPlanter</strong></div>
<div style="font-style:italic;">. . . and I think it is up to the mother to meet the needs of her child within reason.</div>
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Nightweaning was very much within reason once DS was 18 months.<br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div>Originally Posted by <strong>UrbanPlanter</strong></div>
<div style="font-style:italic;">If there is such a great need for a child to nurse at night, a mother learns to sleep through it, or deal with loss of sleep and nap during the day when the child naps, or seek help if possible from other people, or whatever.</div>
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This is what was true in your case. My experience was that I didn't learn to sleep through it. I could not nap or "deal with" it. I did not get help from other people, or whatever. i did what was best for us.<br><br>
My son will decide when to stop nursing. That's why I call it child-led. The nighttime curtailing (which led him to finally sleep through the night and finish off the nightweaning on his own) was a limit I initiated. Not an end to nursing. BTW, he definitely made up for it during the day those first few weeks without nightnursing and i was happy to fill'er up.