[papschmitty]

We were diagnosed w/unexplained IF when TTC our first child. After almost 2 years, 2 rounds of clomid/IUI/trigger shot/acupuncture/TCM we conceived DD. I've always wanted to have 2 children about 2-3 years apart. I have always secretly hoped that we'd have an "oops" pg after DD was born since we aren't wasting $ on birth control anymore. She's almost 16 months old and no "oops" yet. Originally we had planned on starting IF treatments when she was 18 months old. We aren't hurting financially but decided it would make better financial sense for us to wait a year so we could pay off my car and student loan. FWIW I turn 30 this year. Three weeks ago, my mom was diagnosed with metastatic bone cancer. We don't have her prognosis yet but I'm not very hopeful that she's going to beat it. Of course I'm devastated beyond words as we are very, very close. I can't stand the thought of my mom not knowing all of her grandchildren. I can't imagine going through pg and birth without her there. This has made me start rethinking when to start treatments. Then, last week, I was 2 days late for AF. I should know better than to get my hopes up but I was feeling nauseated and so tired. I restrained from POAS and finally AF came. I was really sad, much more so than I expected to be. Here's another wrinkle in my story. I'm so blessed to have an employer (crappy as they may be) who pays quite well for IF treatments. I get a $25,000 lifetime maximum to spend on IF treatments. It covers everything but meds. I work for our local health department and they are in a serious budget deficit. Many people have already been laid off and there is a very real possibility that I could be losing my job sometime in the next year. I really want to get pg before I lose my IF benefits since it's highly unlikely that I'll find another employer who covers this. I know it could take a long time to get pg the second time around. I just don't know what to do. I know no one can make that choice but me but WWYD if you were me? Sorry to ramble, I'm just so torn.

 

[nummies]

If it were me....

I would go for it! It is only two months sooner than what you planned. Not to mention the fact that you have insurance right now! That is amazing!

Sorry that you haven't got your "oops" yet. I am really really hoping we get an oops too. Good luck with everything!

 

[mamastotwo]

Sorry about your mom. Cancer just sucks!

My personal opinion is that IF throws all sort of planning out the window. And sometimes you just have to go for it! We "Planned" on having our kids exactly 2 years apart - and low and behold they are 3 years apart

We also "planned" on a third 18 months after the second and as i do a lupron shot no number three yet and it's over 2 years.

Good luck!

 

[papschmitty]

I'm definitely leaning towards going ahead and starting IF treatments again. I'm a little worried about caring for my mom if/when I do get pg. The hormones aren't going to make coping with her illness very easy emotionally speaking. My sister is 37 weeks pg now and is so worried about being able to help care for my mom with a new baby. I also worry that all the stress will decrease our success. I just keep going back to the idea of my mom not knowing all my children. My sister and I both just want 2 DC each. She's pg with #2 now so my next pg will be the last grandchild. I'm also so worried I'll get laid off before I can use my IF insurance benefits again. For all the crappy things about my employer, the benefits are amazing. I want to milk them for all they're worth!

 

[jillybeans]

I'd most definitely go for it. We too had a "plan" and none of it is turning out! And you have amazing insurance. You couldn't ask for better! Use it while you can! And I know it must be scary wondering if you can care for your mom, but I'm sure she would want you to do it, and have the possibility of seeing her grandchild!