My ILs, whom I love, are have some right wing leanings that personally offend me. My FIL tends to get fired up about whatever the conservative fools on tv are spouting at the time. Lately my ILs have been slipping in advice on how to parent dd. My FIL had a long conversation with dh about how it's ok to spank her. My MIL told me the other day when I was talking about how to get dd to nap on her own without CIO to remember that I "am the boss." Um, yeah, I know I'm in charge here and I could force dd to cry herself to sleep every day, but what I'm looking for is a way to make sleep time pleasant, not stressful. In general, I think they think we're being to soft on dd and she's getting spoiled. I don't agree, but it bugs me that they're thinking this. We visited dh's grandmother last month and I know she thought we were too soft. She even had a conversation with my FIL (her son) about how she thought we should spank. Everything dd did on our visit was perfectly normal for her age. Dh's gm actually said at one point, when dd was asking over and over for great-gm to read to her, "Go ask Daddy. I know he'll give in to you." Give in and read a book? How horrible, we might raise our child to like reading. I guess I'm just venting here. Maybe I need a good comeback, though. I don't want my ILs to think of dd as a brat.