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O.k, I'm starting another thread here, the last one didn't help much. 19 month old dd had been biting me after every single nursing session for almost two weeks now. She actually <i>latches off</i>, then bites, sometimes employing what we've started to call the "eating an artichoke" bite. Very uncomfortable. So, I started not nursing her for a few minutes afterwards, telling her "I don't like that!" and on and on... it's not helping, she thinks it's funny.<br>
So, anyway, she started to take one or two sips and then bite, and then show no sign of wanting to nurse more (this for a few days now).<br>
I actually started night weaning her last night (after weeks of her voluntarily going to sleep with only a few sips from me-and after talking to her about it a lOT) because I couldn't stand being bitten to a bloody pulp in my own bed (an exaggeration, but it <i>hurts</i>!!) It was terrible, she cried and cried and I tried so hard to soothe her but it was bad!<br>
ANYWAY, so now TODAY, she has only nursed once, and that was a short one. My breasts are painfully engorged, she's not really interested. I want to be consistent with the night time thing, so I don't want to nurse her at night (she'd probably just take a few sips and then bite me anyway), but I'm worried that my supply will drop, and I'm wondering if she's weaning herself.<br>
It seems a sad way to end our beautiful nursing relationship... with all this biting. Do toddlers ever self wean like this? I really don't want to wean during the day, but its seems to be what is happening.<br>
Sorry if this is jumbled, and sorry it's so long, but HELP!!!!
 

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Any chance she is teething? My dd will unlatch and purposefully bite the breast when she's teething (which she is currently) and refuse the breast at times. (She also refuses solids, so I'm thinking it just hurts her mouth to move it for nursing or eating.)
 

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Im kinda in the same boat as you. DD is 17 mos and is showing no intrest in day nursing. only at night and I don't think I fully let down and she pulls off.<br><br>
I do know she is teething something feirce. I think in my case (HOPE) it is a strike from teething.<br><br>
I hope it gets better.
 

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I just replied to another biting thread, but it sounds like we're in the same boat! My DD had been biting constantly and I'm starting to think she's not interested in nursing anymore, but she's only 13 mo. She loves food and isn't even interested in the expressed bm I try to give her. I feel your pain and hope we don't have to end our nursing relationship this way with all the biting! I'll be watching to see if anyone else has some wisdom on this topic!
 

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I've continued to stop nursing and say NO, That Hurts! When she bites and it's finally getting a lot better. When she doesn't bite I thank her profusely. I'm in a rush now, but wanted to respond quickly to say that it IS getting better and she's still nursing a lot, especially since I night weaned (God, it was hard, but We're all sleeping more which is awesome!!).
 

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I would also pull her off and say "OW, thats hurts mommy" and make a sad face, then try again, asking her "do you want to drink milk?" and if she does it again, put it away again say "ok, let me know when you want to drink milk" and try again later. You may already be doing this, but instead of saying "no biting" tell her "drink some milk," emphasizing to her what it is you want her to do while at your breast, instead of emphasizing what you do not want her to do, since little ones often focus on the behavior we are saying no about, rather than what we are trying to encourage, and then it (the no behavior) often becomes the game and main focus of the moment. Which is why they then think it's funny and do it over and over, because of the reaction it receives, and then they forget what it is they suppose to be doing there and instead it becomes about the no behavior. As with other everyday situations. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink"><br><br>
Also, maybe give her something in her hand to hold onto and focus on, when she is feeding which will minimize her focus on the biting and playful behavior, maybe a shiny stone or small hand doll. Or try relaxing to some of her favorite lullaby songs, which might also draw her attention. Best of luck to you all.
 

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I too am looking for a solution. I can tell you all the things that haven't worked. My precious beautiful baby is biting me everywhere...my shoulder, my sides, breasts, face...everywhere. I have tried the "ouch, that hurts mommy", the "NO, biting", the ignoring and suffer siliently and honestly the last seems to work the best. Yes, he is teething something fierce; 4 teeth in 3 weeks. I give him something hard and crunchy to bite on before we nurse. And when I wait on him to come to me for milk we have a much better ending. Night time is pretty horrible. He wakes up and nurses for maybe an hour off and on the breast but sort of nibbling more the suckling...I try to sleep through it but goodness it's starting to wear on me. I understand that he has no correlation between my reaction and his biting, not at this age, but I don't want to give up this precious time together. Any other suggestions?
 
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