[adoremybabe]

Sometimes I go CRAZY living next to my inlaws and it would be nice to talk to others who are in the same boat!

 

[MamaTaraX]

-- that's be me!

Namaste, Tara

 

[ConfusedPrincess]

This was me up until the end of May and now I'm free!!

But I have many

: stories to share

 

[G&B'sMama]

I don't, but just the thought of it makes me

:. So I just wanted to pop on and give those of you who do a

 

[adoremybabe]

Sometimes I feel like I am an unreasonable person when it comes to how I feel about them always being around. I can be thankful that they aren't in our house much at all. We live in the country and own a barn and other buildings but they have animals in them so they had the balls to walk through our yard every day to get to the barn. This wasn't necessary as they could have taken a few extra steps to walk behind our shed. Anyway thats ust one of the things that prohibited my little family from feeling like we had our own place. I grew up in the city and didn't feel nearly as invaded upon as this.

 

[Marlet]

Do we count? They aren't next door but they are about two blocks away.

 

[Heavenly]

I'm going to be living WITH my in-laws for 3-4 years. We got married right out of highschool so neither us went to college. Now 3 kids later finances are horrible so my inlaws offered to let us live with them and they'll cover our expenses so DH can go back to school full time. We will have our own apartment, they are quite well off and have a 3 bedroom apartment in their basement. We are moving in one week. We have 3 bedrooms, living room, kitchen and bathroom. Normally we get along well but there are a lot of problems too. Hopefully the sacrifice will be worth it.

 

[Shahbazin]

Oh yeah - we live on the same property as my parents (but in a separate house); dad lives in another state, due to his job, so it's just mom next door, but she also has employees living on the same property in a trailer next to the main barn (she has a horse boarding business). She's always had the knack of rubbing DH the wrong way, & he can't STAND her or some of her lifestyle choices. Thing is, in southern CA, we really can't afford to move - rent is cheap from my folks, & I'm now a SAHM to boot (heck, we couldn't afford a house when we were DINKs!) I feel like I have to play referee all the time, & DH is *constantly* complaining about mom (I tell him to live his own life, forget her) - & sure, she's got some really major faults, but if I can live w/them, why can't DH!? Aargh. I have serious hopes that we can move elsewhere before the end of the next 5 years (or sooner!) But if DH wants to move so bad, why does he insist on wasting money on frivolous stuff, instead of paying down debts & working on savings? I've just this month taken over finances for us both (we did have separate accounts & income), so we'll see...

 

[adoremybabe]

Shahbazin - I can totally understand how your DH is feeling But I do agree that if it is really important for him to move to a place of your own then money should really be budgeted to make that happen.

Othermother - Of course you count! Although feel lucky that your inlaws can't peek out their window to spy on you. Or that they don't walk into your yard to tie up a trellis that is leaning over, two minutes before you are going to do it yourself!....Hopefully they don't do that!

 

[MamaTaraX]

I'm back. I'll try to keep it short but here's our thang:

DH and I got married while I was in high school.
My in-laws own a little over 7 acres of land, upon which sit six sets of doubles which they rent out. During my Sr. yr of high school (our first year married) DH rented one of the doubles. When I graduated, I moved in with him. Nine years later, we still live in a double rented from his parents, though we did move next door to a larger one witha basement

(ah crap, kids interupting...be back)

Namaste, Tara

 

[MamaTaraX]

back.
So yeah, we rent from my in-laws. There are pluses and minuses of living here. We have free reign of the land (which includes a creek, woods, open spaces, a small bridge, and tons of wildlife). It's very safe here. My kids can run to see their grandparents every day of the week. THe grandparents like having them over. The kids help the grandparents on the land with gardening and such. There is lots of space. I have a clothesline people drool over. My DH and I cannot drive; my in-laws take us places (we live far from anything -- nearsest store/gas station is 10 minutes by car) My own mom used to be a tenant in the double that DH and I lived in until money troubles ate her up and she moved in with us (she moved out a few months agi though)

The major downside is my MIL. She's a controlling

. I'm not saying that to be funny, it's true. When I was pregnant with our firstborn, she called me a whore, said the child coudln't be her son's, and disowned the baby. Now she's a doting grandma to all three of my kids. Over the years she has done so many evil things. Some of it is well-meaning, I do beieve that. She hired me a cleaning lady, then fired her when she decided I wasn't keeping the house clean enough. Last year she bought my son's school clothes...then insisted on washing them, keeping them, and only handing out one outfit at a time. She respects me because I don't let her get to me and she kind of likes me. She has way too much control of our lives. UNtil a year and a half ago, she was DH's boss (family business). She's still out landlord and currently our only source of transportation. My DH is attached at the cord still. He would probably call the woman and ask if he could go poop if he dind' think she'd be offended. Whatever she says is obviously excellent (to DH). She critiques everything I do. She's a super neat freak wacko cleaner. She was an abusive parent (my DH lost his eyesight because of her). I could go on and on...

Why are we still here? DH. Plain and simple. E very time we've tried to find a house and move, something has stopped us. Now it's to apoint where we just cannot stay here anymore. It'll be hard to give up the land, the safety, and the grandparents next door, but 9it's not fair to me (who needs human interaction to function) or our children to stay here. But DH won't budge. He doesn't wnat to leave his comfort zone.

Ugh, I said I'd keep this short, and I didn't (I've probably only writtn three "short" posts ever on MDC though

) Thanks for bearing with me

Oh and also, my FIL is great! No problems with him. DH and he work together on motorcycles and he totally loves his grandsons. (I should poit out one nice thing is that even though MIL is a wackjob cleaner, she's very supportive of the fact that I breastfeed and had zero problems with my homebirth)

Namaste, Tara