So yeah, we rent from my in-laws. There are pluses and minuses of living here. We have free reign of the land (which includes a creek, woods, open spaces, a small bridge, and tons of wildlife). It's very safe here. My kids can run to see their grandparents every day of the week. THe grandparents like having them over. The kids help the grandparents on the land with gardening and such. There is lots of space. I have a clothesline people drool over. My DH and I cannot drive; my in-laws take us places (we live far from anything -- nearsest store/gas station is 10 minutes by car) My own mom used to be a tenant in the double that DH and I lived in until money troubles ate her up and she moved in with us (she moved out a few months agi though)
The major downside is my MIL. She's a controlling
. I'm not saying that to be funny, it's true. When I was pregnant with our firstborn, she called me a whore, said the child coudln't be her son's, and disowned the baby. Now she's a doting grandma to all three of my kids. Over the years she has done so many evil things. Some of it is well-meaning, I do beieve that. She hired me a cleaning lady, then fired her when she decided I wasn't keeping the house clean enough. Last year she bought my son's school clothes...then insisted on washing them, keeping them, and only handing out one outfit at a time. She respects me because I don't let her get to me and she kind of likes me. She has way too much control of our lives. UNtil a year and a half ago, she was DH's boss (family business). She's still out landlord and currently our only source of transportation. My DH is attached at the cord still. He would probably call the woman and ask if he could go poop if he dind' think she'd be offended. Whatever she says is obviously excellent (to DH). She critiques everything I do. She's a super neat freak wacko cleaner. She was an abusive parent (my DH lost his eyesight because of her). I could go on and on...
Why are we still here? DH. Plain and simple. E very time we've tried to find a house and move, something has stopped us. Now it's to apoint where we just cannot stay here anymore. It'll be hard to give up the land, the safety, and the grandparents next door, but 9it's not fair to me (who needs human interaction to function) or our children to stay here. But DH won't budge. He doesn't wnat to leave his comfort zone.
Ugh, I said I'd keep this short, and I didn't (I've probably only writtn three "short" posts ever on MDC though
) Thanks for bearing with me
Oh and also, my FIL is great! No problems with him. DH and he work together on motorcycles and he totally loves his grandsons. (I should poit out one nice thing is that even though MIL is a wackjob cleaner, she's very supportive of the fact that I breastfeed and had zero problems with my homebirth)