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My kids (ages 4 and 8) have some toys they have outgrown or no longer play with. I would like to involve them in cleaning out the toys, rather than sneaking them out (like I usually do). In part this is because my 8 year old is having real problems staying organized at school, so I am trying to involve him more in organizing our home. (Up until now, I am the one who weeds out his toys and clothes, so I think he has never really learned how to get rid of things.)<br><br>
Anyway, my kids have trouble if I say "pull out all the toys you don't use any more" or even "pick X number of things to get rid of." I was thinking of trying this: I make a pile of all the stuff I know they no longer play with, then let each of them pick 2 or 3 items from the pile to keep.<br><br>
Has anyone tried something like this? What am I getting myself into?
 

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my oldest is 2 -- i still just take stuff away when he is asleep <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"><br><br>
But -- DN is 8 and the other 6 -- one thing i have "learned" along with my sister<br><br>
the boys will "get rid of toys" or clothes or whatever better with a REASON or CAUSE to it ...<br><br>
to a kid "we have too many toys" is utterly beyond words SILLY and false .....<br><br>
so it needs to to be "address" differntly .....<br><br>
a toy or clothing drive at church or school<br><br>
making room for something new<br><br>
making everything fit in to a certain area (maybe)<br><br>
but just to clean up is gonna be a hard sell .....<br><br>
maybe you could start a day or two before talking about "out grown things" in general ... or choose a really old zzzzzz toy you KNOW they don't really want to play with and talk about it and see if you can get the 8 yo to say "I am too old for that" or something .... kinda lay the mental ground work?<br><br>
Maybe a discussion of being old enough for this or that, or too old for this or that -- beyond toys -- or not old enough for this or that ..... then putting th toys into the catogories ....<br><br>
Not sure<br><br>
good luck
 

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All good points. Part of my motivation for doing this now is that Christmas is coming, so there is a reason to offer for getting rid of things - to make room for new toys and to pass these along to children who don't have as many and who would get more enjoyment from them.<br><br>
I like your point about how silly it is to tell my kids, "you have too many toys." It's like telling DH "you have too many bottles of wine" or someone telling me "you have too many books"!
 

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<table border="0" cellpadding="6" cellspacing="0" width="99%"><tr><td class="alt2" style="border:1px inset;">I like your point about how silly it is to tell my kids, "you have too many toys." It's like telling DH "you have too many bottles of wine" or someone telling me "you have too many books"!</td>
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Yep -- excately my point ....
 

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I am 100% in favor of involving children in purging toys. Organization is a skill, one that many adults are lacking, sadly.<br><br>
Nine year old DSS's mom is a purger, too (DD is under 2, so she's not really involved yet), thank goodness, so he's great about it. I don't even have to tell him why we declutter anymore. (To make room for new stuff- decluttering happens in early December- before Christmas- and early July- before his birthday- and so kids who aren't as lucky as he is to have a chance at getting good stuff.) If he doesn't want to do it, I tell him, "Okay, but that means I'm just going to do it when you're not here, so you won't get to decide". He never wants me to decide for him, so he steps up.
 

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Here's my suggestion (though I have a problem too lol.) We used to do this for toy rotation but just recently did it for real decluttering and as long as I accepted their choices it was ok - but I tend to think Oh can't get rid of that it's....<br><br>
Anyway, we play toy store. I fill the living room with all of their toys on display. They each get a stroller or grocery cart to shop with. They fill their cart then we go back and put them away. Once the bins are full they are finished shopping. (This time I collected up the things that I felt needed to stay and put them in the rotation bin - such as toys I see them play with a lot but just didn't make the first round draft yk?)<br><br>
It's a fun afternoon activity, and they've chosen their favorites so I use that to ward away the guilt.
 
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