Originally Posted by twins10705
DaryLLL -- I am married, but even when DH is here, he has issues and I cannot expect more than him maybe keeping an eye on them for an hour or so a couple of times per week so I can rest and take a shower longer than 30 seconds. He is away working a lot, and is almost never here during the daylight hours.
Wow! That is a really bad situation! Issues, huh?
Does he work 7 days a week? Can you get out for a 15 min walk with one baby at least on his days off if he has them? Exercise will really help with your stress. Can you both get out together for a walk with both babies in a stroller?
|About taking the babies down the stairs, one in a sling and carrying the other: sorry if the answer is obvious(I am slightly sleep-deprived these days), but what am I supposed to do once I get down the stairs? They weigh between 14 and 16 pounds each and with being so tired and having a sore back and knees, I wouldn't be able to carry them around like that for more than a minute or so and still be able to make it back up those stairs.|
Can you get medical help for your sore back? Chiropractic?
Do you have access to a car? Carry them down and put them in the car and go somewhere, like a park.
Or take them down and pop them in a stroller. Or sling one and push the other...
I attended a multiples LLL mtg for 5 yrs and the twin moms used strollers to get from the parking lot to the mtg. You could inform the leader ahead of time you are coming and maybe someone can be on the lookout for you to help you get inside. The socializing will make you feel so much better.
|No, I do not have a support person -- this has been suggested...but I am new to the area and have no friends or family here.|
You can find someone to help. Churches, girl scouts, libraries... A mother's helper once a week will be good for your sanity.
Moms of Multiples really need a support network! Do it for your babies.
|I am not able to go out and be social, the neighbors we have I wouldn't trust with a pet much less my baby. I was basically on my own throughout pregnancy, bedrest, c-section recovery, NICU hell, and ever since...I'm not complaining about this though, I feel lucky that my babies are healthy and alive today.|
I am really not a phone person either...I have no patience for phone conversation. I use the phone to pay bills, take care of business and that is it. This past year with the pregnancy and all has made me a bit reclusive, I am still working through PPD though it is not anywhere near as severe now as it was a couple of months ago.
Have you had treatment? Sounds like you are still struggling quite a bit.
|Dh brings home groceries once a week, so there is food in the house.|
Do you sometimes go shopping as a family? it will take longer, but it is not fair to you or the babies to be inside for weeks at a time.
|I haven't talked to the LLL leader since last November, I doubt she would remember who I am anyway.|
That doesn't matter.
|About my supply...I actually don't think milk production has ever been my problem. My problem is a slow letdown, my son who is still taking formula supplements just gets too frustrated that the milk is not coming out as fast as he desires. He will act the same way if I use stage 1 avent bottle nipple -- he needs stage 2 to be content, but I am trying to wean him down to the slower one so he hopefully will get used to an even slower flow. If anyone has heard of ANYTHING that improves let-down I am all ears.|
At 5 months, they are ready for cup feeding. Maybe you can start to cut bottles out all together, start to use a cup for drinks (start with water, then go to the supplement, artifical milk or your milk) and then he will forget about fake nipples.
|I would so love to be able to pump extra milk to be able to supplement ds with that, and maybe even build a freezer stash....but I have no luck with the pump, and very little with hand expression.|
What kind of pump do you have? Please call your Leader for pumping tips and support!
|I don't think I have "mothering multiples", but I do have a few books on the topic such as Dr. Luke's.|
Not familiar with Dr Luke, but MM is written by a LLL Leader mother of twins and is great for bfing and parenting ideas! I highly recommend it.
|Thanks for the replies, I am hoping it is just a little phase and he will start taking less and not more supplement soon.|
I will be thinking of you.