[treqi]

I wrote a post a couple of months ago about how I felt bad about leaving my dd to sleep alone(naps and the first part of the night) and I got the sense that I was 1 of very few. For the most part it has subsided(shes crawling now and I use he naps for dishes and little projects) but sometime I still get this HORRIBLE(I want to cry sometimes) sense of guilt that I am either not checking on her enough(every 5-10min) or that I'm just not there holding her like I should be.

: I dunno. I think I'm codependant mebe?

 

[JamieCatheryn]

As long as you're in hearing range and she's somewhere safe then it's absolutely fine. I did/do get a little apprehensive and listen closely for any sign of a cry, but not guilty.

 

[Jessie'sMom]

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Originally Posted by JamieCatheryn As long as you're in hearing range and she's somewhere safe then it's absolutely fine. I did/do get a little apprehensive and listen closely for any sign of a cry, but not guilty.

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[DBassett]

I've felt the same way. Logan naps in a pack n play and I've moved it out into the main living area so that I can see him at all times well...as long as I'm out here. That eliminated alot of the nervousness and guilty feelings (like I should be checking on him more) bc I could always see and hear him. When I'm not in this room, I'm in the kitchen washing ONE sink full of dishes at a time (our dishtowels disappeared so the dishes have to air dry) or I'm outside for a second in the garage starting the washing machine. So, I'm away from him for a matter of minutes. The rest of the time, I can hear him breathe while I'm in this room or I can see him when I turn around.

It has eased things for me. Is there a way you could do something similar?

It's normal to worry. It means you care.

 

[AbbieB]

I think it is a sign of your strong attachment to have these feelings. I did to with DD, and everyone told me I was being overprotective. Well you know what, she's my child and I will follow my instincts!

DO what makes you the most comfortable. For a long time DD napped/started her night sleep in the sling or in the living room with me.

 

[Heavenly]

I do think that's a little odd. If she is sleeping just fine why in the world would you want to change it? I see that you only have one child. The more kids you have the more you'll realize that as long as your child is happy do what works in regards to sleep.

 

[lurve]

DD generally won't sleep without me but for the few times that i have snuck away i have found that my VIDEO monitor is priceless. i swear it was the best baby shower gift i got. it has both sound and video and i can start to see when she gets restless so i get in there (usually) before she cries. and it is just such a relief. and this way i can "check" on her and not have to worry about waking her.

 

[MommytoHHH]

I've always felt similarly. I used to hold DD for all of her naps, but now that she is so mobile, nap time is often the only time I can get something done, and she often also sleeps better on the bed now than in my arms. I still feel guilty putting her down alone and not cuddling her while she sleeps.
I second the video monitor. It's the only way I can handle DD naping alone or going to bed before me. And now that she goes to sleep at 7pm, it's worth every single penny! I'm watching her sleep sweetly right now without disrupting her by going in every 2.2 minutes to check on her

 

[mamabear&babybear]

I can relate. I held j for all of her naps until she was 6 months or so. I hold K for 1 or 2 naps a day but certainly not all. I feel guilty all the time. I often feel like J got so much more from me that K does. The funny part is that for a long time K slept better on the bed. It's amazing how much you can love a person, isn't it!?!

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