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Okay, DH asked me to send this to his mom in hopes that we don't get bad toys for DS. I feel funny about asking for something specific, but he thinks it's a good idea to just be blunt (but nice) about it, in hopes we don't get silly and wasteful gifts. I really wish the email would come from him, but he has finals and stuff this week so asked me to send it. Here goes....<br><br><br><br><br>
Hi MIL,<br><br>
In the interest of time, DH asked me to send you along this link.<br><br>
<a href="http://www.magiccabin.com/magiccabin/product.do?section_id=0&sc=1004&bc=1004&pgc=913&cm" target="_blank">http://www.magiccabin.com/magiccabin/product.do?section_id=0&sc=1004&bc=1004&pgc=913&cm</a> value=MCD|CROSSSELL|PRODUCT|1085<br><br>
As you can see, it is a nice quality wooden playset that we would love to get for DS. We are trying to move away from plastic, battery-operated toys that might have lead and such, and this Natural Families group told me about Magic Cabin and how nice their things are.<br><br>
DS loves playsets now that he is getting older, and we would really like to start this one, since it has really cool pieces he would love like cars, roads, street signs, fire stations, etc.. all the stuff that he loves!<br><br>
Anyway, we will also be asking DH's dad and my folks as well if this is something they could help us with since it is not something we can afford on our own.<br><br>
On a different note, are you and (her DP) planning on visiting us anytime in the near future? We can't believe (her DP) hasn't been here yet and would love to see the 2 of you!<br><br>
Hope all is well. DS is napping and I've got a million things to do!<br><br>
Love,<br><br>
karina5
 

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I ended up sending a couple of links to my 2 SIL's telling them that ds is really into building blocks, but his aren't that great, so if they were still looking for a present for ds, wooden building blocks would be awesome.<br><br>
I would rather dh sent it, but he never ever would (he's just not communicative AT ALL, not that he has anything against wooden toys, or his sisters, or whatever). So, I figure that this way I might possibly be able to get something for ds that he actually WANTS.<br><br>
No one ever asks us what ds is interested in, they just give gifts. It's hit or miss, do I decided to take a chance!<br><br>
FWIW, I think the email is quite nice.
 

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I think it sounds fine too. I have sent an email or two like that.<br><br>
A little bit like a sales brochure though. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/duck.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Duck">:<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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I would remove "In the interest of time" from the beginning of the email, unless you never email your mother in law and you think she'd be surprised or confused by getting an email from you. Otherwise, sounds great <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I would remove "In the interest of time" from the beginning of the email, unless you never email your mother in law and you think she'd be surprised or confused by getting an email from you. Otherwise, sounds great <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"></div>
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Oh, good point. Thanks!
 

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I think it sounds great if MIL has brought up gifts already. If not (and this is me) I wouldn't send it cause I wouldn't want her feeling I was expecting her to send DS a gift. I wouldn't want her to feel obligated to get DS a gift after receiving the email.
 

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It sounds fine to me. That set was actually my mother's Christmas gift to my sons last year. It's still a hit!
 

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It sounds very gentle, and I'm only answering with this very picky comment because my in-laws are terribly oversensitive... I agree that "in the interest of time" is awkward, and the other thing that jumped out at me was "in the near future" because somehow that sounds a little snarky...maybe because I only use that phrasing when I'm feeling snarky, <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I'd say "We hope that you will be visiting us soon. We'd love to see you and your DP again, at our house this time!"
 

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Sounds great! Way to walk that line! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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My MIL actually asks what DD wants, or what we think she would enjoy, and does her best to comply even when it mystifies her, but I wouldn't go so far as to suggest a specific item and kill her shopping joy (she LOVES hunting around for deals/bargains/just the right thing).<br><br>
This year, DD said she wanted play money, so I told MIL this and since she expects to spend a bit more money on a gift than what just play money would cost, I mentioned that she has really been into playing pretend store lately and would probably enjoy a toy cash register. I also added a "but no licensed characters on it, please" because I saw this obnoxious-looking Dora cash register come through at work the other day and I shudder to think...<br><br>
Anyway, MIL was mystified by the reason for the no-licensed characters thing. My rather tactful (given some of her past gifts) reply was that because some things were cute (like the Scooby Doo and Disney Fairy puzzles she got DD for past Xmas and birthday), some were just really annoying (I believe I used Dora as an example of this), and some didn't match our values (here I used Bratz as an example, though could have as easily inserted Barbie), so it's easiest to just say none at all rather than sort out which might be okay and which not.<br><br>
Hopefully she took this as reasonable. I haven't checked for a reply yet.
 

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Sounds great to me! I think most people appreciate getting help with ideas, especially for kids! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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So I checked her reply, and she's trying to boycott MIC! Something about people bludgeoning animals and the pet food recalls sending her over the edge on the issue. (MIL loves dogs more than people, I suspect.)<br><br>
So I gave her a couple of leads on eco-friendly/fair trade and WAHM sites to shop on...
 
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