[lemontree]

Hi Everyone-

I need reassurance from people who have btdt please. I will be 13 weeks tomorrow. I had my first mw appt on April 1 (a week ago) and heard the heartbeat loud and clear. My midwife said the chances of a m/c at this point were small and so I told people - at work they surprised me with cupcakes during a staff meeting, it was lovely and sweet and new. I felt a little bit "on display" and it was...odd.

During the first 11-12 weeks, I had a huge uncomfortable bloated belly and a crazy appetite. I would wake up STARVING. NONE of my clothes fit. At my m/w appt she recommended that I start taking probiotics and flax oil for my omega 3s. I did.

Anyway, now my bloat is gone and by belly is smaller than it was last week.. I find this so disturbing that I can hardly express it. My appetite is back to the way it was pre preggo - I wake up with no desire for breakfast and have a bit of fruit or something. My boobs are bigger than pre-preg but hurt less. It's easier to sleep. I need less sleep. I'm pooping again (sorry tmi)

I keep finding myself reading about babies who stopped developing and it scares the life out of me. I woke up at 2am the other night overcome with worry (must...leave...internets...) I actually scheduled an ultrasound for the 20th which seems like ions away.

So my question-- do pregnancy symptoms stop around the second trimester? I've read of the mythic "energy burst" - is this it? Why doesn't it feel as great as everyone says? Without feeling movement or seeing a belly, how can I know everything is ok? I had a dream and the babies spirit told me that I need to learn how to cope, since there will be plenty of times in this persons life when I will be unaware of it - school etc...and I want to raise independent strong people I need to find a way to deal with this not knowingness. I know this is wise advice. But how do I do it?

There is a lot up in the air right now for me (looking for a new place to live, trying to figure out a new way of making $$ etc) and I know that may have something to do with it.

OK, boiled down:
-Have you ever stopped feeling pregnant?
-What do you do to be at peace with that sensation?
-Has your tummy gotten flatter in the pre-bump weeks?

I have no pregnant friends IRL and every time I try to talk about this, everyone says "stop worrying. just be happy." So, my final question:
-How can I "just be happy"?

Sorry for the novel, thanks in advance for any insight.

 

[HadhratKhadija]

ha! I am going through the samething! I started "pooping" regularly again this week, which funny enough is scaring the crap out of me.
i dont seem to get blooted anymore, and i am not as tired - but still tired - as i have been.

my boobs are huge but they arent sore anymore.

i dont have too many other symptoms left. i am sooo eager to hear the heart beat again next week to make sure things are still growing.

 

[AuntieLiz]

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Originally Posted by lemontree So my question-- do pregnancy symptoms stop around the second trimester? I've read of the mythic "energy burst" - is this it? Why doesn't it feel as great as everyone says? Without feeling movement or seeing a belly, how can I know everything is ok? I had a dream and the babies spirit told me that I need to learn how to cope, since there will be plenty of times in this persons life when I will be unaware of it - school etc...and I want to raise independent strong people I need to find a way to deal with this not knowingness. I know this is wise advice. But how do I do it? ... OK, boiled down: -Have you ever stopped feeling pregnant? -What do you do to be at peace with that sensation? -Has your tummy gotten flatter in the pre-bump weeks? I have no pregnant friends IRL and every time I try to talk about this, everyone says "stop worrying. just be happy." So, my final question: -How can I "just be happy"?

I'm a first-timer so I'm not an expert on this either, but everything you just described is EXACTLY what I've been going through for the past 3 weeks. It really is disconcerting, isn't it? But I think it's normal. Normal for all your 1st tri symptoms to disappear around 12-13 weeks and normal to freak out about it too. If you find a way to be at peace with it, I'd love to know! Hang in there.

 

[torybug]

Absolutely normal - welcome to the second trimester!!!

I haven't had that "burst" of energy yet either, but it's nice to feel human again.

It's super common not only for your icky symptoms to go away, but for your bloated belly to flatten again for a little bit before the baby REALLY starts showing itself.

I'm sorry you are worrying, but keep hanging around here (and/or other pregnancy websites) and you'll hear that almost all of us are going through the same things. Once you are exposed to enough people in the same boat, you'll naturally find yourself worrying less and "just being happy" more!

 

[Aufilia]

You sound normal. In my first pregnancy I had morning sickness for all 9 months but I know lots of OTHER people wake up one day in the 2nd tri and feel great. I'm really hoping I get to be one of them this time around! I'm still all bloated and I'm sure when that goes away my belly will shrink (and I'll be able to eat the burritos I have SO been craving!).

If you're really having a hard time with it maybe your midwife would let you have a quick visit to hear the heartbeat.

 

[BlueEyedLady]

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Originally Posted by torybug Absolutely normal - welcome to the second trimester!!! I haven't had that "burst" of energy yet either, but it's nice to feel human again. It's super common not only for your icky symptoms to go away, but for your bloated belly to flatten again for a little bit before the baby REALLY starts showing itself. I'm sorry you are worrying, but keep hanging around here (and/or other pregnancy websites) and you'll hear that almost all of us are going through the same things. Once you are exposed to enough people in the same boat, you'll naturally find yourself worrying less and "just being happy" more!

This. I'm at 14 weeks today, and for the last couple of weeks I've felt mostly normal again. I don't need to sleep so much, I'm not constantly starving, my clothes are fitting a bit better again, etc. I DO feel a little movement, but I felt DS very early also so that hasn't surprised me, plus this time around I know what to expect to feel, if that makes sense. Without the movement, though, I'd never know I was pregnant right now.

 

[threadbey]

Yes, I think you're normal. I remember being very disconcerted by the fluctuating size of my belly when I was pg with DS. This time, I haven't paid as much attention and also I know that happens. I have had a few moments the past few days when I've "forgotten" I was pg - I think it's just the unbelievable relief of having the bloat and most of the nausea go away. You could get a doppler for yourself if you want to shell out the cash - I'm holding myself off for that reason and because I think I'd probably start using it EVERY DAY and I don't feel good about that.

 

[eloise24]

I didn't get a burst of energy but I felt "normal" again. And in just the last few days my stomach stopped bloating terribly (and the gas/belching left with it!!!) . . . and now I can be a bit sneakier about this pregnancy a bit longer! It's definately hard during the inbetween months- you don't really feel pregnant yet and can't feel baby moving yet. But don't worry, soon you'll be huge and waddling, HA!

 

[mysticmomma]

Welcome to the second trimester! I think you are fine.

 

[lemontree]

Thank heaven for you ladies.

Thank you.

(I asked my husband if we should rent a doppler and he said ,"why? so you can sit and listen to it all day?" I was like, ''um...yeah?" haha)

 

[joyakshi]

I was just gonna post the same thing. Since getting this cold/flu, I don't feel anything anymore and my tummy is smaller. I'm 14.5 weeks.
I had been feeling the most disconcerting fluttering that kept me awake all night, and a few possible little kicks. Plus gagging and starving etc.
Since I got this head cold, no fluttering, I've been on a liquid diet and am not starving, and my belly seems smaller.
Is it coincidence, 2nd trimester calmness, or did my cold mess things up?

 

[brinalicious]

I'm 13 weeks and some days, and I definitely have a little "belly" but it really is just all my guts that are inflated and pushed up a bit by my growing uterus--it's not my uterus. That's probably the case for most of us at this point, so the fact that your belly seems smaller certainly shouldn't be taken as any indicator that there is something wrong with the baby. I think it has more to do with gas and bloating than anything right now.

 

[mom-to-jj]

I agree--you're normal and everything is likely fine! For me, I stopped feeling hungry/stomachachey at the end of 8 weeks. For three weeks now I have felt totally not pregnant. And yup, some days the belly is bigger than others. Last night I dreamed that I started bleeding, so I listened to the HB on my doppler this morning. The mind just plays weird tricks sometimes...

It is kind of a weird time, these few weeks when the symptoms die down but before you can feel movement. Just try to relax. Pretty soon you'll be getting lots of reassuring little flutters!

 

[threadbey]

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Originally Posted by joyakshi I was just gonna post the same thing. Since getting this cold/flu, I don't feel anything anymore and my tummy is smaller. I'm 14.5 weeks. I had been feeling the most disconcerting fluttering that kept me awake all night, and a few possible little kicks. Plus gagging and starving etc. Since I got this head cold, no fluttering, I've been on a liquid diet and am not starving, and my belly seems smaller. Is it coincidence, 2nd trimester calmness, or did my cold mess things up?

Try not to worry about your cold. So far in this pregnancy I've had a stomach virus (thanks to DS) that turned into a cold and then a super duper fabulously awful cold that I thought was killer allergies and took a bunch of antihistamines (all that my doc and midwife said I could) to try to save myself from the misery. Everything seems to still be ok, knock on wood. In your case it's probably 2nd trimester improvements and also that feeling sick tends to make everything else less noticeable.

 

[mom-to-jj]

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Originally Posted by threadbey Try not to worry about your cold. ... In your case it's probably 2nd trimester improvements and also that feeling sick tends to make everything else less noticeable.

: So far this pregnancy I have had the stomach flu and bronchitis, which I was on abx for to prevent it from becoming the pneumonia my DS had. Those two illnesses were the sickest I have felt in years, and I asked my doc how the baby could possibly be ok in there when I felt like utter crap. She reassured me that the baby is well protected and really has no idea you're sick at all.

Hope you feel better soon so you can enjoy the 2nd tri!!

 

[joyakshi]

Oh thanks, Thread & mom, for the reassurance about being sick and taking meds being ok for the baby, and sorry to hear of your illnesses as well. It sux not to be able to enjoy this good part of the pg yet. 1 week out of m/s and I got hit.
I just got some homeopathy that will hopefully work better than the allopathic crap, and will make me worry less.
I just want to enjoy this - and not get bronchitis like I did last year for 3 months. I'm going on vaca next week for the first time in over a year and I had bronchitis for that vaca.
I want a healthy, fun, happy, pregnant vacation!
I hope you're both feeling better too.

 

[Norasmomma]

Totally normal. My bloat has gone down and now I am all belly and not looking like I have a spare tire. This is my second, but even with DD I showed pretty fast(I have no torso). My babies just have nowhere to go, but out. I hit oh 12 weeks and was just a different person this time. Once your body is done building the placenta and major systems are in most women just tend to feel better. There are those who still feel like sh** and those who never feel bad to begin with. I never felt that badly with DD, except for my cooking aversion and only wanting to eat frozen pizza and being tired I really was pretty normal. This time I have had acid reflux(yuck), was sick and extremely fatigued. The fatigue was mostly because I just cannot rest because of my non-stop toddler.

My first pregnancy my Dr told me that I would soon enter the "honeymoon" phase of the second trimester at my first appt and when I hit 13 weeks I HAD to go to the store and loaded my cart with fruits and veggies and came home and made eggplant parm, greek slald, and risotto. I was starving again.

I still am not so into food, I just am not inspired to cook right now, but that's more of a mental thing than a physical thing. It sounds like you are right on track. Many women feel the same way, like oh no something must be wrong I feel good, but many women in the second tri feel great. I know I sure do. I'm glowy, round and beautiful, at least my DH and my DD tell me that I am.