Well, I'm in therapy, and I worry like mad about stuff like that. LOL. The way my brain takes over and just runs amok with horrible scenarios is very annoying. Reading Gavin DeBecker's Protecting the Gift helped, it gave me more faith in my own intuition and trusting that my intuition would notify me if something is wrong.
Is this normal?
This is about parenting, but it's my issue and not my ds's. I hope this is in the right place mods.
Anyway, is it normal to worry about your child dying or something bad happening to him? Every time I see something on tv (the Adam Walsh kidnapping/murder story for instance) or a drowning or an accident involving a child his age, I start thinking what if it was ds etc.... and I get panicky.
Lately ds has been questioning his own mortality "what happens if I die, will I be gone forever" and seems aware of the danger of beign hurt. Maybe that's why I'm thinking about it too?
I have spoken to him in the past about not going near pools, in the road without mommy or daddy, or how it's important he stay near us in a public place. I try not to scare him too much, but I think at 4 he needs to be aware of these things. I try to give him the facts without seeming too fearful or anxious about it, and to assure him that I will do my utmost to keep him safe. I wonder if he's picking up my vibes though.
So do you think I need therapy?
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Anyway, is it normal to worry about your child dying or something bad happening to him? Every time I see something on tv (the Adam Walsh kidnapping/murder story for instance) or a drowning or an accident involving a child his age, I start thinking what if it was ds etc.... and I get panicky.
Lately ds has been questioning his own mortality "what happens if I die, will I be gone forever" and seems aware of the danger of beign hurt. Maybe that's why I'm thinking about it too?
I have spoken to him in the past about not going near pools, in the road without mommy or daddy, or how it's important he stay near us in a public place. I try not to scare him too much, but I think at 4 he needs to be aware of these things. I try to give him the facts without seeming too fearful or anxious about it, and to assure him that I will do my utmost to keep him safe. I wonder if he's picking up my vibes though.
So do you think I need therapy?
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Okay, I get the hint, I'll read it
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The other day in the mall bathroom he told me that if anyone tried to take him that the space-blaster on his toy car would protect him.
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They are so sweet and innocent still.
The other day in the mall bathroom he told me that if anyone tried to take him that the space-blaster on his toy car would protect him.
I think it's fairly normal to worry like that -- I do too. Trust me, I understand!
Two things that may help...
(1) Maybe stop watching TV or reading US news sources
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Honestly, since we went TV free and I only get my news from international sources (like BBC online) you don't hear that day to day, sensational, out to catch an audience and scare the begeezes out of you stuff. No following court cases or missing kids or drownings to whatever. You hear the big global stuff, I think that help
(2) Also if I start to worry about "what if" with DS I try to take it SO far that I realize HOW silly it is to worry. Like "oh my, what if DS drowned? What if DS got cancer?" Then I go "What if we walked out the front door and a tree fell on our heads. What if we're sleeping in bed and lightening strikes and gets us? What if we're eating dinner and a drunk driver drives through our dining room and mows us all over?"
You get the idea, you realize that you can scare yourself out of doing ANYTHING - even eating, sleeping, and walking out of the house in the morning if you let yourself. But you still eat, sleep, and walk out of the house in the morning. So take a deep breath and keep going and enjoy the beautiful day to day you and your child share.
Two things that may help...
(1) Maybe stop watching TV or reading US news sources
Honestly, since we went TV free and I only get my news from international sources (like BBC online) you don't hear that day to day, sensational, out to catch an audience and scare the begeezes out of you stuff. No following court cases or missing kids or drownings to whatever. You hear the big global stuff, I think that help
(2) Also if I start to worry about "what if" with DS I try to take it SO far that I realize HOW silly it is to worry. Like "oh my, what if DS drowned? What if DS got cancer?" Then I go "What if we walked out the front door and a tree fell on our heads. What if we're sleeping in bed and lightening strikes and gets us? What if we're eating dinner and a drunk driver drives through our dining room and mows us all over?"
You get the idea, you realize that you can scare yourself out of doing ANYTHING - even eating, sleeping, and walking out of the house in the morning if you let yourself. But you still eat, sleep, and walk out of the house in the morning. So take a deep breath and keep going and enjoy the beautiful day to day you and your child share.
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