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My 11-month-old and I co-sleep. However, she starts off in her crib and then I bring her to my bed when she wakes up about the time I'm ready to go to bed. My problem occurs before this, though. From the time I put her in her crib (she is already asleep) she wakes up every 30-60 minutes crying. It is a kind of cry that sounds like she is terrified. When I go in and pick her up she immediately lays her head on my shoulder and goes back to sleep. I rock her again for 10-15 minutes and lay her back in the crib. Then, the whole cycle starts again until I finally give up and go to bed with her. There is a lullabye CD playing all the time and the lights are dimmed but not completely dark. I don't know what is going on. Is this type of cry and the amount of times she wakes up with it "normal"? I don't know if I am adding to her sleep problems some way or not. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
 

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Night terrors, maybe? How long between when she goes to bed and when you go to bed?
 

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I could have written your post! A few months ago my (13m/o) son did the same thing. I had to comfort him several times after putting him in his crib. I attributed it to teeth or something developmental. I'm happy to say now he goes down at about 8 and doesn't wake up to come to our bed till sometimes 12. So I'd say its a safe bet that your dc will readjust.<br><br>
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My DS does this even though I'm in the same room as him, so I don't think it has to do with the fact that she's by herself. It's important you comfort her right away and if you didn't, then she'd probably be scared witless to be sleeping alone, but if you pick her up, I wouldn't worry. Maybe it's a nightmare or night terror or something, but as long as she quiets down when you pick her up, I say it's not serious...
 

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Thanks for your responses!<br><br>
Hibana, By the time I get her to sleep and in the crib it is anywhere between 8:00 to 9:00. We start her bedtime routine (cereal, bath, lotion, nurse, rock to sleep) around 7:00. I will go to bed between 11:00 and 12:00.<br><br>
Anglea, I've wondered that, too, but will there be a day when she will be comfortable being alone? We are thinking about TTC again and I don't know what I'll do if this keeps going on.<br><br>
Lotus.Blossom, Thank you for the encouragement! This has been going on for quite awhile now. Her sixth tooth broke through a couple of days ago, but the night time trouble hasn't stopped yet. I keep hoping...<br><br>
Truemists, Thank you, too, for the encouragement. I do comfort her right away, but I just hope this doesn't go on for much longer. She has always waken up a lot, but the terrified crying has only been going on for a few weeks.<br><br>
On a similar note...I am concerned about the crying, but I would also like to know if waking up this frequently is normal, too? As I just told Truemists, this pattern of waking up has been going on since bith? Will she eventually just start sleeping longer stretches on her own or do I need to try to help her do it somehow (without CIO!)? Do you think our co-sleeping is making her not sleep well in the crib? She does take her naps in the crib but I'm lucky if she'll take a 45 minute nap. She still takes two naps a day and isn't showing any signs of being ready to go down to one nap.<br><br>
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We had the same issue and fixed it by putting him in our bed full time. we put our mattress on the floor so it's safe for him to be there alone.
 

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It sure sounds like she doesn't want to sleep alone right now. That age is prime time for separation anxiety, and it doesn't go away at night and at naps. But, it's a normal, natural phase for them and it will pass. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Anglea, I've wondered that, too, but will there be a day when she will be comfortable being alone? We are thinking about TTC again and I don't know what I'll do if this keeps going on.</div>
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Ummm.... around 2 yrs for us... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
-Angela
 
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