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My 3 yr, 4 month dd and nearly 2 yo ds came home 7 weeks ago (international adoption). My dd has started some regression. About 3 weeks ago, she started speaking baby talk (I know her language, so I knew it was baby talk). At the same time, she started wetting the bed (she came home potty trained). No problem. We just keep her in a diaper at night. A few days ago, she had 2 accidents during the day, but none since. I just went witht he flow (no pun intended). Tonight, she lifted my shirt while we were getting to sleep (co-sleep) and started suckling my breast (She was in a foster care situation where she would have seen at least 2 other moms I know of nursing their children). SHe did this for quite a while. Now, she has had an obsession with my breast from day 1. Both she and ds stroke them for comfort, which I allow. Tonight was new.<br><br>
Does anyone see a problem with me letting her go ahead and do this when she wants to?<br><br>
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In one of the adoption preparation classes I attended, they talked about letting older adopted children regress and then progress at their pace through the developmental stages they may have missed - that is an essential emotional need for them. They said that they tend to progress through the stages quite rapidly if they are not interfered with.<br><br>
It makes sense to me, but this is just what I have heard - I have no personal experience with this. I guess another thing to consider is, do you feel comfortable with it?<br><br>
Best wishes,<br><br>
L.
 

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thanks for responding L. I had read the same thing. I am comfortable enough with it and it does seem to be easing now.<br><br>
Actually, in a strange way, I feel like I am getting to nurse my daughter -- which is nice.<br><br>
Thanks for your input.
 

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that is beautiful, for you & for her. congratulations!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin">
 

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I know *nothing* about this, but I agree with joesmom that it sounds lovely. When I read your post, my heart and my gut just went "yeah, she needs this right now". You are a wonderful mother - this little girl is so blessed to have you!
 

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We are beginning the talks on adoption and I hope and pray I am as comforting of a new mother to my child that she feels able to do the same.
 

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As long as you are comfortable with it...it is a bonding and comforting thing for her. How wonderful for both of you that you can share this! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Thanks for your support. She continued for several weeks and then just slowly weaned. It really was nice to have that relationship with my daughter!<br><br>
Peace,<br>
Paula
 
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