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Sorry ladies but I just need to vent. I'm SOOOOO sick of being pregnant. I'm getting really depressed and tired and this didn't start until last week. I'm 35 1/2 wks and DD came at 37 so I'm hoping this baby will too but even that seems like forever right now. If he stays in there the whole 40 wks I may not survive. I almost started crying about it again last night. I've been thinking about using some do-it-yourself labor inductions I've heard about (walking, sex, castor oil, etc.) but I don't know which are safe and I don't want to force him out before he's 37 wks but if it would just start on its own.....? Sex is too uncomfortable now and walking too much gives me bad backaches so I'm not sure I could do either of these enough to help bring on labor. I just want this to end!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">: <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">: Please tell me I'm not the only one and horrible for feeling like this b/c I did plan this pregnancy and want the baby sooooo badly but ugh!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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I hear ya, mama.<br><br>
I don't really enjoy pregnancy all that much and the last four weeks or so are the WORST. I'm 36 weeks right now and I know *exactly* how you feel.<br><br>
The first thing I said to DH after DD was born was "I'm so glad I'm not pregnant anymore!" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngbiggrin.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="orange big grin"><br><br>
Personally I wouldn't do any induction techniques but maybe some visualization wouldn't hurt. Talk to your baby and let him/her know you are really ready to meet them!!!!!
 

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The end really is challenging. I agree with ChinaKat about not doing any induction techniques, especially since your baby is not yet term. Some babies have breathing problems if they are born before 37 weeks, and even at 37 weeks some babies still have billirubin, breathing, and sucking problems.<br><br>
Try rewarding yourself for each week you stay pregnant. Make up little cards that say "When I reach xxx weeks I will treat myself to a pedicure" or massage, or whatever else it is that you'd like. Reward yourself for staying pregnant instead of being upset about it. Your baby needs a certain amount of time to bake, and you can't force him/her out before then - unless you schedule a cesarean and have the baby taken out. Inductions before you are ready will just result in cramping and contracting that goes no where and leaves you even more tired and frustrated. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Hang in there mama. Feel free to vent to us, we completely understand.
 

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I am right there with you! This is my first and I am at about 35 1/2 weeks and just this week my irritability has increased tenfold! I cannot deal with anything anymore. My pregnancy has been pretty challenging mostly because I developed really bad SPD at 16 weeks so my mobility has been so limited.<br><br>
BUT, I also would avoid actual induction techniques and stick to more visualizations for now.<br><br>
-Joanne
 

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I'm just 35 weeks today, and a part of me would be happy if I were all done! (Most of me knows to keep hoping baby will stay in until it is safe and ready to come out.)<br><br>
I've been worrying about what to do with myself and my anxieties after my kitchen remodel gets finished. That has been consuming my worries and attention. I think, though practical daily life will get easier once my kitchen is ready, I will have too much time to obsess and fuss!<br><br>
I've asked DH to get a few of my friends to plan a tea party for me for a couple of weeks from now. Something at someone's house (comfy) with tea and sandwiches and cakes. I didn't want a baby shower for this (2nd) child, but I do think having a celebration to look forward to will really make me happier.<br><br>
I'm also going to acupuncture and chiropractic visits every week from now on out. While those are "medical" appointments, they don't feel as much like medical care as "self care" to me, but they are still supplemented by insurance. DH got me a gift certificate for a massage for our anniversary, and I am thinking about being really self-indulgent and scheduling a few more as we head into these last weeks. While I don't normally get them, I am also likely to do manicures and will definitely have at least one more pedicure during this pregnancy.<br><br>
I know, it is extravagant, but I also know it will help me a lot.<br><br>
If you can't afford the expensive stuff (not sure I really can either, but I may do it anyway <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/redface.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Embarrassment"> ), even making lunch dates with friends at least once a week could really help. Just tell whoever you're inviting how you're getting really sick of being pregnant and you need distraction and get them to agree not to talk about DUE DATES, just other stuff. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
It is so normal to get fed up by this point. Just keep trying to avoid asking for induction measures that will really only buy you a more painful labor and a baby who isn't ready...<br><br>
--willo
 

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I cried all the way home from the doctor's office last week (and that's a 30 minute drive!) because I was 36 weeks and there had been no progress from some dilating that had started around 35 weeks.<br><br>
I was SO SURE that things were moving along quickly (I have given birth to 3 babies at 37 weeks), and to find out that nothing had changed and that it was HIGHLY unlikely that I'd be delivering within the week just wiped me out.<br><br>
I cried.<br><br>
I totally understand feeling overwhelmed and anxious and sick and freakin' tired of being pregnant...but I've finally accepted that there is nothing I can do to make this baby come any sooner than she is prepared for.<br><br>
Try to relax and take lots of naps. Sometimes it's the only way...
 

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yeah well dd came at 37 wks so thats what i'm hoping for this time too. i'll be 36wks mon. I had some bloody show last night followed by a crampy feeling for a while so maybe.... but i'm just waiting it out. its just so exhausting sometimes. and now that everything is pretty much ready its hard to keep myself entertained.
 

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I am right there with everybody. I feel so miserable and am so tired of feeling this way. I had my first at 36 weeks, and on Sat I'll be 38 weeks. I had so conviced myself that this would be a May baby, but it really looks like it will be June. I have no progress everything is closed and tight and I dont' see it changing anytime soon!
 

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I keep jumping into other people's complaining threads so that I can complain too!! I was 40 weeks this past weekend and have been having false labours for over three weeks. My belly has reached ridiculous proportions and I cry every day because I'm so uncomfortable and it's so hard to look after my 19 month old who is always asking me to go out, the poor thing.. and it's too hot and I have no clothes that actually fit over my belly any more.
 

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i feel the same way.and my poor kids are being so understanding.they to beg to go outside.my dh has been taking them out in the morning,i take them out in the evening when it cools down.u guys gave me lots of ideas to hang in there...so yay...rewarding yourself for staying pregnant is a good idea.it gives us something to look forward to other than being done being prego!
 

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Feeling the same way here. I don't even want to go to my appt today because everytime my midwife says just hang in there everyone feels this way I want to lunge at her and screem. I've yelled at dh everyday for the last week because I am just miserable. I didn't feel this way with dd till about the last week. I'm way bigger, I've actually gotten stretch marks this week and I am mad. I want this baby out and well honestly I DON'T feel bad about it anymore.<br><br>
I really needed to put that out there. I don't know how much more DH or I either one can take. I've been home from work for two weeks and that's making me crazy as well but at this point I'm scared if I go to work I'll totally flip out on someone and lose my job. So I feel stuck at home, and stuck being pregnant. Walking sex and acupressure have all only resulted in me being more frustrated.<br><br>
OK I'll stop now. sorry again Hang in there momma's this can't last forever right?<br><br>
Oh did I mention the nightmares? every freakin night what's with that?
 
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