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I know we get asked this all the time. This is not to slam anyone who is or isn't on a schedule, I am really just curious. My sister also has a baby, she is very much on a schedule and we aren't, so it just got me thinking. She told me one day how many feedings her baby has (she's ff'ed) and it occurred to me that I don't have a clue how many times a day mine eats (bf'ed).<br><br>
Does your babe eat at regular times, whether bf'ed or ff'ed?<br>
Does your babe nap at the same times each day? In the same place?<br>
Does your babe have the same bedtime and bedtime routine?<br>
Do you have regularly scheduled outings and/or family activities?<br><br>
Any why are you or aren't you on a schedule?<br><br>
We kind of are, but it varies.
 

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Kieran naps everyday around the same time, usually in the same place, but that's his schedule, not mine. I have no clue how many times he nurses in the run of a day, but I offer solids around the same time each day.<br><br>
So, that's as close to a schedule as we get <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">.
 

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Yep, that's us, too. We want some semblance of a schedule for DD because I work part-time from home and having some consistency in our routine allows me to plan a little bit better for phone calls, etc. That being said, she has no real napping schedule.<br><br>
Our schedule, more or less, consists of her waking up to nurse when DH wakes up to go to work (between 5:30 and 6am). Then she and I both go back to sleep (hopefully!) until around 8am, usually with her in bed with me. Then she eats again and stays up for a little while, then will take an extended "nap" in her swing (next to me in the living room) for anywhere from 1/2 hour to 3 hours (totally up to her). That's when I try to eat, feed the dogs, *try* to get some work done, and, if I'm feeling really crazy, maybe get some dishes or a load of laundry done. Twice a week or so, I'll go to yoga class in the morning or some other out of the house activity, so she'll nap in her carseat or the wrap or my arms or wherever. The afternoons are all over the place as far as napping and nursing - it's different every day. Then in the evening we try to start getting her ready for bedtime at about 8 with a bath and diaper change, then I nurse her to sleep and she's usually asleep about 9 or so.<br><br>
I really don't know how many times she nurses per day - maybe 6? Sometimes 4, sometimes 10? And she naps either in her swing, her bassinet, or sometimes her papasan chair (she has reflux, so she usually needs to be at an incline).<br><br>
Personally, I think a basic schedule can be a good thing for consistency and being able to plan your day, as long as it is very flexible and can change to accommodate baby and parents' changing needs. I think being a slave to a schedule is counterproductive and not good for anyone. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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Us, too.<br><br>
Most days, he wakes up at 6ish. He naps around 10ish for 2-3 hours. If I had to guess, I'd say he nurses about every 2-3 hours or so, but I could be wrong about that, I don't really pay that much attention, just feed him when he's hungry. We usually walk the dog before his nap and then after his nap. We either go out in the morning or in the afternoon, that varies a lot, depending on who we're hanging out with and what day it is.<br><br>
He's been going to sleep around 8pm these days.<br><br>
But this is all general. Some days, it's REALLY different (wakes up late, gets a later nap, goes to sleep later). Like, Saturday he didn't get a nap until 1:30 b/c we were at a Bat Mitzvah (and our Rabbi can go on and on....) and he slept until almost 5! Got to sleep later that night, too. But it works out.
 

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I voted for loose/general schedule. If we're home all day, Aaron has a nap about 2 hours after he wakes up, and then he sleeps for about 2 hours. He and Joshua both have a nap around 12:30-1ish timeframe (Aaron goes down first while Joshua plays in my sewing room). Both kids sleep about 3 hours for their afternoon nap. Aaron's bedtime is around 7, although if he's tired at 6:30, I'll indulge him. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Joshua's bedtime is closer to 8, although I try to keep it on the earlier side (it was 7 until Aaron came along).<br><br>
Nursing... Aaron nurses about 6 times a day - he nurses anytime he wakes up and then before he goes to sleep. That's about it. He's a very efficient nurser and not really a comfort nurser.<br><br>
Now if we're going out, I try to schedule things for the morning, so it doesn't mess up Joshua's nap (if we mess with his nap, there will be NO NAP, and that makes for a cranky almost-3-year-old). Aaron recovers well from missing the morning nap - he just catnaps in his carseat and then takes a longer afternoon nap... a few times, his afternoon nap has been 6 hours! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/jaw2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="jaw2"><br><br>
We have some regular monthly outings, like various mom groups (Birthstories, sometimes LLL, NINO...), and I have chiro appt every 2 weeks right now. Then there is library day every 3 weeks (when Joshua's books are due), and we do grocery shopping 2 days a week (2 different stores), plus church Sun/Wed.<br><br>
Bedtime routine... For Aaron, right now, it's just change diaper and nurse. He sleeps in a crib in his own room. Joshua's bedtime routine is to change diaper, read 3 books (this taught him basic addition/subtraction, btw<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">), say a prayer, and then go to sleep. He sleeps in a "big boy bed" in his own room.
 

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Does your babe eat at regular times, whether bf'ed or ff'ed? not really, usually every 3-4hrs during the day, once or twice at night<br>
Does your babe nap at the same times each day? In the same place?lol, no..<br>
Does your babe have the same bedtime and bedtime routine?pretty much it dinner, bath, play for a while, then snuggle at around 9, asleep by 930ish, but that varies ALOT<br>
Do you have regularly scheduled outings and/or family activities?not all all, we're pretty spontanious
 

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Yes, we are on the EASY (eat, activity, sleep, you) routine and schedule. It worked really well with my first and I hope we are just as sucessful with the second. Our naps are also pretty much at the same time every day as is our bed time.
 

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Does your babe eat at regular times, whether bf'ed or ff'ed?<br><i>Kind of. Just lately she's starting to be very regular...usually 2-3hrs during the day</i><br><br>
Does your babe nap at the same times each day? In the same place?<br><i>Yes, usually in am from 9 - 11 in her crib, and pm 1-3, and a last nap from 4:30-6 or so. All in her crib...night time sleeps are beside me</i><br><br>
Does your babe have the same bedtime and bedtime routine? <i>No. That really varies from day to day. I aim for around 8 pm but sometimes it's earlier or later.</i><br>
Do you have regularly scheduled outings and/or family activities?<br><i>No, not all, I'm a SAHM and we farm, so dh is around too, and we are pretty splattered <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> Just mealtimes are regular. Priorities!</i>
 

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Only a self-imposed one. We don't use clocks for our kids under about 4 years old - when they're hungry, they eat; tired, they sleep. They tend to "self regulate" themselves after a few months, but we don't use the clocks to dictate a "bedtime" or anything like that.
 

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Seriously, the barista at my local starbucks asks me this ALL the time!! "Is he sleeping through the night yet?" blah blah blah! LOL<br><br>
Ethan is going to be a year old on Saturday and we have a general rhythm to our day at this point. it was months in the making b/c it was led by him which meant for months there was no discernable schedule whatsoever.
 

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Does your babe eat at regular times, whether bf'ed or ff'ed? No<br><br>
Does your babe nap at the same times each day? In the same place? Sorta, she's getting there... she does always nap in the same place (if we are home), but not always at the same time.... she has a midmorning 45 minute-ish nap, a midday 2-3 hour nap (I know!), and a late afternoon 45 minute-ish nap.... this is what she has decided she needs <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> ... my son had a completely different nap arrangement so I find this interesting<br><br>
Does your babe have the same bedtime and bedtime routine? Yes... she has an 8-9pm bedtime (whenever I get to her after David's in bed)<br><br>
Do you have regularly scheduled outings and/or family activities? *scratches head* What does this mean? I have a toddler, we do things with him like a tot's gym and go to the park and stuff<br><br>
Any why are you or aren't you on a schedule? Confused about this one as well
 

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I won't call it a "schedule" but my DD does have a little bit more of a predictable routine now. I at least have a general idea of when she will nap and about how long. Otherwise DS takes a nap at about the same time each day (it's his routine, but, I encourage him to nap before a certain time otherwise he's up pretty late, still wouldn't call that a schedule though!) and goes to bed about the same time each day. Meals are pretty loose because I never know when DH will get home from work.<br><br>
And, no, we don't have "scheduled" activities either! Nursing is totally out the window, she eats when she is hungry and that varies literally from day to day, it's always changing. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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i voted: <i>we are on a consistent schedule</i> b/c i am...his...iykwim...<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol">
 

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<b>Does your babe eat at regular times, whether bf'ed or ff'ed?</b><br><br>
She is exclusively BF. She eats when she is hungry.<br><br>
That said, I gently encouraged full feedings from very early on as to avoid constant nursing. It was mostly a practical thing, as I have three older children that have to be taken here and there throughout the week, and I didn't want her to scream non-stop if the boob wasn't available at all times.<br><br>
Thankfully, she responded very well to my attempts at a 'schedule'. It's not really a schedule like eat at 9, 12, 3, but more of a eat at a certain time and eat again 2.5 to 3 hours later. Of course, she's 5 months old, and it took some time to get to this point. And there are still days that she wants to eat an hour later, but it's not often.<br><br>
Generally speaking, she starts her day between 7-8am, and nurses every 2.5 to 3 hours throughout the day, with her last feeding between 7-10pm. She's actually gone 12 hours at night several times in the last couple of weeks, but consistently goes 10 hours or so at night. She just did that one day, it was rather abrupt and bizarre, not to mention hard on the boobs to adjust! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br><b>Does your babe nap at the same times each day? In the same place?</b><br><br>
She naps three times a day, and my personal goal is for two of those to be in her own crib. One ends up being in the car as we are inevitably out and about and she falls asleep. She naps so much better in her own bed, or I'll lay down with her in our bed and she does well with that too.<br><br><br><b>Does your babe have the same bedtime and bedtime routine?</b><br><br>
This is probably the most consistent part of our day. She gets bathed, dressed, rocked, and nursed. She's in bed between 7-8pm. We're at that awkward stage where I'm not sure if I should wake her to nurse again at 9-10pm or let her sleep since she seems to be going longer. But I'd rather nurse her again before I go to bed than have her up at 4am hungry.<br><br><br><b>Do you have regularly scheduled outings and/or family activities?</b><br><br>
Yes. I have three older children that are in preschool, we go to church activities, play dates, Bible study, etc. We also go to the zoo, park, run errands, etc. It is rare we don't have *something* outside the house to do each day, though I like to keep it to one thing per day if possible.<br><br><b>Any why are you or aren't you on a schedule?</b><br><br>
We sort of have to have some clue as to what we're doing because of outside activities and obligations. She is by far dragged around more than my other three were. She is also on the loosest schedule of the four since we're out and about more, she doesn't get naps at the same time every day, we're not home at the same times each day, etc.<br><br>
With my other three, they did more or less the same thing at the same time each day cause it worked that way. Plus it was the only way to get anything accomplished since I had 13 month old twins and a newborn. I find I can be a lot more flexible with this baby since I only have one baby to deal with.<br><br><b>We kind of are, but it varies.</b><br><br>
This is a good summary of all my babbling. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> We do what works for us, and it changes when it needs to for whatever reason. But we are all happier when we know what to expect, at least in general terms.
 

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I am very into routine and schedules, but the baby's only 6wks old at the moment so still very erratic! I'll definitely be introducing regular sleep/eat times (approx 3 hour intervals) in the next couple of months.<br><br><b>Does your babe nap at the same times each day? In the same place?</b><br>
She naps either in my arms/sling, on the bed with me or sometimes in her moses basket. I co-sleep with her, but I find it's important she learns very early how to fall asleep on her own so its not such a shock for her when she moves out of our bed.<br><br>
We all have 'quiet time' after lunch - the 2yo still naps, and the 4 and 8 yo's can do what they like so long as it's quiet and they leave me alone!<br><br><b>Does your babe have the same bedtime and bedtime routine?</b><br>
Baby doesn't yet, but the older ones do - I find a bedtime ritual (eg dinner, pyjamas, a story, each child has their own song I sing to them every night) is really good for winding them down and ensuring they go to bed uncomplaining.<br><br><b>Any why are you or aren't you on a schedule?</b><br>
I find it makes our lives soooo much easier, and the kids enjoy the comforting familiarity of routine. Especially since we lead quite unconventional lifes and often travel, we always make an effort to maintain routines so the children eat/sleep at their regular times wherever we are.
 

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I voted "other" - we have more of a routine than a schedule, and it depends a lot on what time we get up & what "must do" activities are planned for the day.
 

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I put "what's a schedule" because I'm not sure if you mean baby led or parent enforced, lol.<br><br>
My Moe is almost 8 weeks old and since day one she's kind of had a kind of routine that she's stuck with. It suits me fine, actually, and she's been fine tuning it so that she goes just a little longer without feeding, eats just a little more at each meal (more quickly and efficiently), sleeps just a little longer, is awake just a little more each day.<br><br>
She's EBF, and I let her decide in the beginning when those meals would be, and luckily she decided to be regular on that (except during growth spurts).<br><br><b>Does your babe eat at regular times, whether bf'ed or ff'ed?</b><br>
I wouldn't say regular times, but in a regular pattern - at so many minutes after she's woken up, at such and such intervals, etc.<br><br><b>Does your babe nap at the same times each day? In the same place?</b><br>
She's put herself on a very livable nap routine, it's pretty predictable. I know that after she wakes up she has about 45-90 minutes of play and then she will be wanting a nap, so I know to eat, shower, and dress quickly. Yes, I'd say her daytime naps are pretty regular.<br>
WHERE she naps depends on how long she will sleep though. She will sleep well in her sling and swing, so I try to put her there when I know it's "big nap time". It's touch and go with the bouncer, and I can get her to sleep in her bed or stroller only if I put her there when she's in deeper sleep. Except at night, after 8 pm. She will go to sleep in her bed drowsy, with the vibration and white noise on.<br><br><b>Does your babe have the same bedtime and bedtime routine?</b><br>
She's decided since last week that she's going to be fussy around 7 pm every night. So between 7 and 10 pm, it can change. But I am able to get her a bath, massage her, feed her, sing a song and then have her in bed by 10 or 10:30. Sometimes it just has to be when she's fussier than others.<br><br><b>Do you have regularly scheduled outings and/or family activities?</b><br>
We don't schedule outings, but we do take a walk every day to the park - not that she's old enough to play. Does saturday morning shopping count as an outing, LOL?<br><br><b>Any why are you or aren't you on a schedule?</b><br><br>
I don't want to impose a feeding schedule and disrupt my milk supply. I'd like her to be able to have what she needs when she needs it.<br>
Her sleep schedule isn't bad for a 2 month old. I put her in bed at 10-10:30, wake her up for a dream feed at 11:30-12 before I go to bed, then she'll wake up twice (maybe at 2:30 and 4:30) before we get up at 6;45-7:30. It works for us.
 

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<b>Does your babe eat at regular times, whether bf'ed or ff'ed?</b><br>
We don't have scheduled feedings. Now that she is getting older and more curious about her surroundings, sometimes especially when we're out she's too distracted to really nurse. So I find I am nursing her slightly more often to compensate. I'd say on average she nurses about 7 to 8 times a day.<br><br><b>Does your babe nap at the same times each day? In the same place?</b><br>
Pretty much. She usually is up around between 6:30 and 7 am and likes to take a first nap around 9am. Then depending on our activity she will usually take a second nap at 1 or 1:30pm. And on some of her busier days (more outdoors time, people interaction, etc.) she'll take a short snooze at the breast around 4:30 or 5pm. I try to put her down for the morning and afternoon nap at home in her crib, but I don't race home if we're out and she needs a nap. She sleeps better in her bed, but will usually doze in the sling, stroller, or my arms.<br><br><b>Does your babe have the same bedtime and bedtime routine?</b><br>
We do have a bedtime routine that we just recently started. I try to start it as close to 7pm as possible. I try to read her cues and some nights she's ready for bed a little earlier so we will abbreviate her nighttime ritual and get her down as quickly as possible.<br><b><br>
Do you have regularly scheduled outings and/or family activities?</b><br>
No, our days are pretty loose and I try to be accommodating when others invite us out.<br><b><br>
Any why are you or aren't you on a schedule?</b><br>
I started having more structure to our days because I noticed around 2 months of age that DD was not herself. She was much grumpier, fussier than usual. After doing some reading/research I realized she was probably not getting enough sleep during the day. Since I started getting better at reading her tired cues, we now have a fairly consistent schedule and she is back to her sweet exuberant self and we are both much happier.
 
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