My DD has been VERY clingy and on occasion, too whiney for my liking!
Is your older child/children testing you? acting out?
Oh man, dh and I are getting to the end of our rope with dd on certain issues. Up until a couple of nights ago, getting her to sleep was a dream. She doesn't nap, so we have an early dinner- like 5:30 or so- she takes a tub, has a quick nurse with me, and then she goes to bed with dh and is usually asleep within 10-15 minutes.
Starting the other night, she has been squirmy and irritable, wanting to just play around in bed and refusing to lie down. We can tell that she's exhausted, but she can't just lie down with us. tonight it took over an hour of alternating lying down with her and having her stay in her room by herself for 5 minutes until she finally fell asleep with me beside her.
She's also being more whiney, testing boundaries, doing things she *knows* are not ok (like writing on the walls!
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) etc...I'm trying to be patient with her and give her what she needs. I know that the birth of the baby is looming- we're having little talks about sharing mommy and daddy and the baby needing to nurse etc... Now we have birth supplies in the house. I imagine that everything is a bit overwhelming and scary, but it is *so* hard to deal with all of her behavior issues in addition to my own exhaustion and end-of-pregnancy grumpiness.
is anyone else experiencing this (or anything similar)? how are you handling it?
Starting the other night, she has been squirmy and irritable, wanting to just play around in bed and refusing to lie down. We can tell that she's exhausted, but she can't just lie down with us. tonight it took over an hour of alternating lying down with her and having her stay in her room by herself for 5 minutes until she finally fell asleep with me beside her.
She's also being more whiney, testing boundaries, doing things she *knows* are not ok (like writing on the walls!
is anyone else experiencing this (or anything similar)? how are you handling it?
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DD is whining a lot and it drives me insane.
She is also testing me and acting out a little. Yesterday I asked her to put away her toy blocks and she flat out refused. I dont really have experience with that, since she never really refused that type of thing before-she is very sweet by nature and LOVES to help me around the house with ANYTHING.
So yes, I definitely feel a change in her. She ended up cleaning up, because I wouldnt let her do what she wanted until the toys were put away.
I really hope that this will pass and that its not some sort of her "next stage" because she is growing up and has an attitude now. I just want to be the best parent I can be, and be able to discipline her properly and in a way thats effective and fair.
To be totally honest there are times when i feel insecure, because she has such a strong character and there are times when I, well, feel like Im not sure what to do or how to handle a certain situation...And DB just loves her SO MUCH that he lets her get away with stuff that I think he shouldnt. Which leaves me to be the tough one.
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She is also testing me and acting out a little. Yesterday I asked her to put away her toy blocks and she flat out refused. I dont really have experience with that, since she never really refused that type of thing before-she is very sweet by nature and LOVES to help me around the house with ANYTHING.
So yes, I definitely feel a change in her. She ended up cleaning up, because I wouldnt let her do what she wanted until the toys were put away.
I really hope that this will pass and that its not some sort of her "next stage" because she is growing up and has an attitude now. I just want to be the best parent I can be, and be able to discipline her properly and in a way thats effective and fair.
To be totally honest there are times when i feel insecure, because she has such a strong character and there are times when I, well, feel like Im not sure what to do or how to handle a certain situation...And DB just loves her SO MUCH that he lets her get away with stuff that I think he shouldnt. Which leaves me to be the tough one.
I wasn't sure if it was the pregnancy/baby coming or the switching of the clocks but she has been fighting her naps BIG TIME and then it's been a real workout to get her to sleep at night. She keeps popping up and trying to run around her room (in the dark)...jump on her bed etc.
The nap-fighting has been brutal because I SO count on that time to rest myself.
Oh and she also will ONLY let mama help her....put on her shoes, pass her something at the dinner table, help her get on the couch, read a book etc. DH has been so frustrated because she really used to be Papa's girl and now she wants NOTHING to do with him....it's all MAMA, MAMA, MAMA!!!
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I have a teenager who is on my last nerve-but I think that may be more teenager related than anything else. Well and of course everything is on my nerves since I am huge a pg right now.
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Oh yes - we are dealing with this. DD is refusing all sleep and the problem (like so many other problems) is only made worse when she is overtired. Even better, my big ol' mama's girl has decided to switch allegiance 100% to daddy and also feels that he is a playmate, not someone to listen to. He tried for 2 hours yesterday and couldn't get a nap out of her.
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Anyway, no advice, just a hug...
Anyway, no advice, just a hug...
Gosh, I wish I could offer some sound advice, but my usually lovely (although strong personality'd) 2 year old DD is driving me batty.
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She's refusing to eat, undoing all of her routines, testing out her vocal decible capabilities - usually with the words "NO NO NO!" and, worst(?) of all, getting up for her day at about 3am. She just lays in there and cries Mommy! Mommy! Mom! Mooooommmm!! til DH or I go in to see whats up, or on occation she'll just come right into our room and trounce on the bed like it's time to play. And none of this going back to sleep at 6 am stuff, either. She's UP til she absolutely crashes, usually about 2pm with MUCH mama coersion. She's not a napper, so I know she's just exausted. And usually spends most of those waking hours (After daddy goes to work) being pretty grouchy. Yesterday morning I just tried to snug her up in our bed while DH was getting ready for work, so we closed the door, and she just would go to the door and wail "I WANT DADDY!!" Which, in turn, just made me break down and bawl.
Oh man. I've been nervous about going from one kidlet to the two - but as each day passes I find myself getting a little more nervous. Bleah.
We'll survive, right Mamas?
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People have been having siblings since the beginning of time. Right? RIGHT?!
Oh man. I've been nervous about going from one kidlet to the two - but as each day passes I find myself getting a little more nervous. Bleah.
We'll survive, right Mamas?
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Oh yeah, getting dressed... one of my dd's favorite things to do right now is to take off all her clothes and refuse to put any back on... we wind up spending the whole day at home when we have a zillion things to do
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Just have to share my excitement with mamas who will understand!!!!
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My mom and aunt just picked up DD!! They are taking her for the whole afternoon!!!!
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OMG!! DD and I were seriously butting heads this morning and I was gearing up for another tough day. As soon as my mom and aunt walked in she was like a different little girl. She so happily went off with them and I have the house all to myself to clean and nest and maybe even relax a little!!!
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I can't decide what to do first (well after I get my but off MDC
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)....I guess I should start by packing my hospital bag!!
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My mom and aunt just picked up DD!! They are taking her for the whole afternoon!!!!
OMG!! DD and I were seriously butting heads this morning and I was gearing up for another tough day. As soon as my mom and aunt walked in she was like a different little girl. She so happily went off with them and I have the house all to myself to clean and nest and maybe even relax a little!!!
I can't decide what to do first (well after I get my but off MDC
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Kelly ~
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Hang in there mama....we're almost there.
We had a tough middle of the night incident. DD came into our room and asked for monnies. It was around 4 a.m. and I automatically said...no (I nightweaned at the beginning of my pregnancy) but that she could come up and cuddle.
She went balistic...screaming for monnies which aggrivated her cough and then we were all wide awake...DD screaming and coughing and me regretting that I hadn't just nursed her when she asked.
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DH went downstairs (um....yeah...I hear ya on the disappearing dads. Grrrrr) and I finally got DD to stop crying and then nursed her back to sleep but then of course, I couldn't fall back asleep.
DH is upstairs trying to put her to bed now and she is screaming bloody murder for me. I know I should go up there and comfort her but I am just SO tired and need a break.
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Hang in there mama....we're almost there.
We had a tough middle of the night incident. DD came into our room and asked for monnies. It was around 4 a.m. and I automatically said...no (I nightweaned at the beginning of my pregnancy) but that she could come up and cuddle.
She went balistic...screaming for monnies which aggrivated her cough and then we were all wide awake...DD screaming and coughing and me regretting that I hadn't just nursed her when she asked.
DH went downstairs (um....yeah...I hear ya on the disappearing dads. Grrrrr) and I finally got DD to stop crying and then nursed her back to sleep but then of course, I couldn't fall back asleep.
DH is upstairs trying to put her to bed now and she is screaming bloody murder for me. I know I should go up there and comfort her but I am just SO tired and need a break.
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My husband is currently putting both kids to bed right now too
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. Luckily, they both love when he does that. He took one look at me and said, "Sit down. I'll put them to bed tonight." I must have looked pretty bad off!
We had a tough day too. DS needed CONSTANT interaction with me and would not play independently at all. I did so much with him between noon and 4:30pm that I am just wiped out. DD napped for 3 hours, but was a giant fusspot all evening.
Three kids..... what were we thinking????????
We had a tough day too. DS needed CONSTANT interaction with me and would not play independently at all. I did so much with him between noon and 4:30pm that I am just wiped out. DD napped for 3 hours, but was a giant fusspot all evening.
Three kids..... what were we thinking????????
Kelly, my ds is just a month younger than yours. I really think that a lot of the stuff in this thread is really typical for that age and it's important to keep that in mind. And we also have to remember that we have changed a lot too - maybe more impatient, more guarded about our physical boundaries, more tired, more anxious - whatever. So that will interact with whereever our wonderful 2 yos are at. Those of us who have nurslings might even wonder if they are partaking in some funky hormones via breastmilk?
I have my bad moments of yelling and getting totally frustrated - dealing with toddlers is not exactly easy in late PG, especially if you don't have much support. The thing that helps me the most is to remind myself of what kind of parent I want to be. Here are some inspirational books that are guideposts for me:
Unconditional Parenting
Hold Onto Your Kids
Siblings Without Rivalry
How To Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk
Whole Child/Whole Parent
From watching other families it seems like it can be really worthwhile to focus a bit on how we want to parent our older children during this important transition time. I think we already know what newborns need
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I have my bad moments of yelling and getting totally frustrated - dealing with toddlers is not exactly easy in late PG, especially if you don't have much support. The thing that helps me the most is to remind myself of what kind of parent I want to be. Here are some inspirational books that are guideposts for me:
Unconditional Parenting
Hold Onto Your Kids
Siblings Without Rivalry
How To Talk So Kids Will Listen and Listen So Kids Will Talk
Whole Child/Whole Parent
From watching other families it seems like it can be really worthwhile to focus a bit on how we want to parent our older children during this important transition time. I think we already know what newborns need
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Ya know...I was just thinking about that today! I can barely handle my crazy hormones...I can only imagine what they are doing to my 20 pound toddler's body!
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| Those of us who have nurslings might even wonder if they are partaking in some funky hormones via breastmilk? |
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