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I need something to present to my MIL about the harm in giving too many gifts. We have imposed a limit this year for Christmas of four gifts per child from each grandmother and she is insulted by this. So, yesterday we received a package in the mail with at least 10 Hallowe'en gifts for my daughter! When did Hallowe'en become a gift-giving holiday??? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:
 

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If I come across anything like this, I'll let you know. I've never paid much attention to it, because it's never been a problem for us. My mom gives each of her 11 grandchildren two gifts at Christmas - one of clothing (often handmade) and one toy. Last year, the toddlers got an extra, because she crocheted them each a snowman - the three oldest got their snowmen in '96, and ds2 will probably get his next year.<br><br>
My MIL usually gets each of us, including the kids, one gift. Sometimes, she gets the kids two, but I've noticed that usually that's also one item of clothing and one toy. She lives a long way from here and rarely sees the kids (about once a year <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> ), so she's slightly more inclined to buy gifts than my mom...she sent my son new jeans for back-to-school, for example.<br><br>
Good luck with this! People who overload kids with gifts really get to me.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I need something to present to my MIL about the harm in giving too many gifts. We have imposed a limit this year for Christmas of four gifts per child from each grandmother and she is insulted by this. So, yesterday we received a package in the mail with at least 10 Hallowe'en gifts for my daughter!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> I totally, totally sympathize and I'm sorry this strange thing happened -- but I also have to thank you for making me laugh with your turn of phrase! That just sounds so crazy (TEN presents?!!) and I'm just laughing the laughter of recognition about how crazy grandparents go at this time of year! (Dude, will we suddenly lose it and do this when we get grandbabies? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue"> )<br><br>
I'm on the hunt for an article, maybe from somewhere else than Mothering too.
 

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Ugh, I'm SOOO with you on this one. I'll be checking this thread to see if anyone has any ideas.<br><br>
I'm so very fearful of Christmas. .. my MIL goes overboard with everything! My daughter has <b>27</b> outfits in size 6-9mos!!! All purchased by her! My daughter doesn't even wear that size yet! I've already tried telling her we really don't need that much stuff, nor does my daughter need a lot of gifts or toys, but she doesn't get the hint. She just says she'll buy them if she wants to. So I told her that we'll use what we can. Truthfully, I'll be giving a lot of it away. My friend is having twin girls in Dec and can use a lot of stuff, so I'll be sending her a bunch of clothes (all new with tags!). I'll do the same thing with toys if it comes to that.<br><br>
But hey, I told her and if she choosed to still purchase them, then that's her business. And if I want to give them away, that's my business. Hopefully she'll get the picture before DD is old enough to notice.
 

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I remember there being an article in Mothering this time of year either last year or the year before, but I passed all of my old issues on when we moved in January. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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I gave my sister about 15 things at her baby shower! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/blush.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="blush"> The organic diapers not included (and there were maybe two dozen of those, plus some really nice covers). Let's see, lamby fleece, Nordic naturals wool & silk t-shirt, silk cap, woolen socks, wooden baby rattle, plus I knit a little cotton roll cap. Then there was the woolen baby doll that picks up the mother scent, some little outfits that I bought in the MDC Basic Brilliance coop. A hardcover book, some oils for my sister, and two hanna pilot caps. (I'm a hat person). Maybe that's more than 15. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
All that to say this is 'only' my nephew. I have no idea what i will do when I (cross fingers) have grandchildren some day!!<br><br>
That said, I would give cool gifts, not be upset if the mother gives them away (I do that all the time! Someone else can benefit, which is great!) , and I would take the children to the theater, buy the family zoo passes, buy lots of books and really cute Oilily tights and Hanna hats. I also know i would buy them paints, easels, little wooden table and chairs--but not items that were junky- things that could be passed down.<br><br>
I am sure my children will probably marry minimalists...but then I will buy consumables--like museum passes and theater tickets, GC to bookstores & Whole Foods etc. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/nut.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="nut"><br><br>
I'll try to be respectful, i swear.
 

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I think that this is the article that you are looking for. God only knows that we have an extreeme need to pass this on to relatives of ours this holiday season too! Good luck!<br><br><a href="http://www.mothering.com/articles/growing_child/consumerism/junk_toys.html" target="_blank">http://www.mothering.com/articles/gr...junk_toys.html</a><br><br>
There are two sidebars to the article as well:<br><a href="http://www.mothering.com/articles/growing_child/consumerism/junk_toys_side1.html" target="_blank">http://www.mothering.com/articles/gr...oys_side1.html</a><br><a href="http://www.mothering.com/articles/growing_child/consumerism/junk_toys_side2.html" target="_blank">http://www.mothering.com/articles/gr...oys_side2.html</a>
 
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