[hcyr]

Im sure this may have been covered before but I want to bring it up again! We have been bedsharing with our 6 month old daughter since she was born and it has been working wonderfully-most nights it is just her and I since my husband works midnights but even the nights he is home, it seems to be working fine-however, he will be changing shifts this spring and casually brought up that fact that it will probably be a good idea to transition her out of the bed soon into her crib (which we got and havent used once!) but the thing is, I love co-sleeping and I love this arrangement for right now-I dont have the need to move her into her own space quite yet but I don't know how far to go as far as it turning into an issue with my husband- he doesn't seem to be ADAMANTLY against co-sleeping but would just prefer to have the bed be "ours" again-any advice? I'd appreciate it! Hannah

 

[SundayCrepes]

My husband randomly mentions getting a bed for our son and I tell him I'm not interested. I like co-sleeping with him and studies (by Jim McKenna, I think) show that boys who co-slept with their parents until at least age 5 were much more secure in college than those who slept alone.

They'll only be little once and I'm not willing to give up co-sleeping with my kids.

Before our baby was born, it used to be our son on the outside so my husband and I could still cuddle. With the baby being too little to sleep next to our son, it is baby, me, son, husband in bed. (Our 3 year old still night nurses and wants to be next to me.) We've tried putting our son on the outside of my husband so we can sleep, but when he wakes up, he crawls over my husband to get to me, so we really don't do that any more.

 

[lilianabyrne]

I completely understand this. My partner works nights three nights out of the week and the nights he works I am much more apt to want to sleep with my baby in bed with me. I admit sometimes when he is home at night I, myself, want to be cuddled, by him, with out disturbing baby. I think its natural for partner and partner to want to share the bed together alone. As I think it is natural for family to sleep together. I wish we could have the best of both worlds, where baby sleeps with us but also comfortable to sleep alone. The only thing i can think of that makes sense, that ive read here, actually is having a twin bed next to the big bed where baby can sleep and you or partner can go into easily. i havent tried this yet, only because of logistics of space and beds but it seems to make sense. what are the reasons your husband says he does not want to cosleep?

 

[rzberrymom]

How about a compromise and put a little mattress for her next to your bed? We got a super low bedframe at Ikea (but you could also put the mattresses on the floor), and my DD's mattress is just a few inches lower than ours--she's still right there, I can reach out and comfort her back to sleep, but DH and I have our space back. Maybe he would go for something like that instead of a crib?

 

[lilianabyrne]

at what age of your bubs did you start to do this?