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I was going to post about this earlier but I had a parent activity meeting and Alex has baseball and there was no dinner, and no laundry done and homework had to be done. I finally got his bath out of the way and some vaseline on the sore spots and got him in bed.. so now I can post about it.

After school today alex came to me and said... 'Mom.. Something happend to my penis and its differnt now, and its bleeding a little', he didnt even waiton my reaction before unzipping his jeans and showing me... and when he showed me all I could do was say.. 'thank god', but he looked at me like I was high on drugs.. I told him that thats why its been sore for the past couple of weeks because it was begining to come apart because he's growing up and becoming a man.

He still has a few parts that are still fairly adheased to the glans, but it appears as if about 80% of its now detached.. I asked him what hapend and he said he went to pee at school and was in a hurry and pulled the skin backlike I showed him but he did it quick and aparantly too hard and it just tore free and he said it hurt really bad for a few min, lol the boy did not even get to pee, he was holding it in until he got home to show me.

anyway we put some vaseline on his penis head with a qtip gently under the spots that still stuck to the head and then he peed... Then i asked him to let me look at it again, and the head of his penis is fairly sore and red as if its sore, but not infected. I had him go lay down on his bed and I got some neosporin.. I put the neosporn under his foreskin on the sore parts with a qtip again, but by this time he was showing that he was growing up and was fully erect, i asked him to just trust me and let me continue helping him.. I did notice that when he is erect that the opening to his penis head is small.. will this clear up? on the left side of his penis its still adhered about half way up the glans, but beyond that, around the part of his head thats the widest its still attached there, so it doesnt retract all the way...

Now questions... will the opening to his penis head get larger or what do we do? Should I teach him how to clean under his foreskin yet or can we wait until it completely detaches? Should I encourage him to tug at the remaning adhesions when he has an erection? (I read this somewhere else)

I asked him before his bath if he wanted to put the neosporin on himself he could, but i would still like to look at it.. but he said he wanted me to put it on him anyway, so im going to keep doing that until he tells me not to..

Wow.. I feel so excited... but.. he's scared.. I wish he could be excited the same as I am...

All I can say is... screw that doctor he saw monday. screw the people who wanted to cut it off him last year and when he was born... screw 'em all. My boys completely intact and healthy!

And sorry for that bit of language and sorry for not spell checking and sorry if i left anything out or said too much or sorry if I didnt do somethign I should have but... wow.. I still have to do the dishes from dinner YESTERDAY and laundry is still wet and needs dried...

Can anyone be my helper for a while?
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Originally Posted by Nikki39293
I put the neosporn under his foreskin on the sore parts with a qtip again, but by this time he was showing that he was growing up and was fully erect, i asked him to just trust me and let me continue helping him..
He's 11, right?



Jen
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Originally Posted by sunflower_mommy
He's 11, right?



Jen
Yes.. I know.. I know.. He coudlnt help it however, last week he wouldnt even let me see it when that happend. I actually woudlnt have mentioned that if i didnt notice that it was tight around the opening
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OK now i feel bad about this..
It just surprised me that you'd continue handling his penis to provide non-emergent care with him fully erect, at age 11. Especially when he's probably capable of applying the neosporin/vasoline himself.

I personally wouldn't have been comfortable doing that. Honestly, it sounds like a lot of looking at/handling/messing with for such a normal developmental stage. Adhesions will release in their own time, tugging and using Q-tips under the foreskin really aren't necessary at all.

JMO,

Jen

PS. Don't feel bad, I just don't think it needs to be messed with. Really, he's normal and fine and everything is happening as it should. I can totally understand feeling the need to help things along but to me it seems like a lot of hassle/intervention to go through when nothing's actually wrong. Does that make sense?
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Originally Posted by sunflower_mommy
It just surprised me that you'd continue handling his penis to provide non-emergent care with him fully erect, at age 11. Especially when he's probably capable of applying the neosporin/vasoline himself.

I personally wouldn't have been comfortable doing that. Honestly, it sounds like a lot of looking at/handling/messing with for such a normal developmental stage. Adhesions will release in their own time, tugging and using Q-tips under the foreskin really aren't necessary at all.

JMO,

Jen

PS. Don't feel bad, I just don't think it needs to be messed with. Really, he's normal and fine and everything is happening as it should. I can totally understand feeling the need to help things along but to me it seems like a lot of hassle/intervention to go through when nothing's actually wrong. Does that make sense?
I dont think it was 'fully' erect.. but thats what I said but.. well i dont think it really was, .. but it still has me thinking.. the vaseline was mainly so he could pee without getting urine on the sore spots.. if he would have said that he wanted to do it by himself alone, that would have been fine but he told me to do it.

With what happend at the doctors.. im just happen to prove them wrong... no im elated to prove them wrong.
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Originally Posted by Nikki39293
and when he showed me all I could do was say.. 'thank god', but he looked at me like I was high on drugs.. I told him that thats why its been sore for the past couple of weeks because it was begining to come apart because he's growing up and becoming a man.
I'm glad to hear my suspicions were right but I didn't expect this development so soon!


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He still has a few parts that are still fairly adheased to the glans, but it appears as if about 80% of its now detached..
That's the way it often happens, progressively instead of all at once. The rest of the adhesions will eventually release too.

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I asked him what hapend and he said he went to pee at school and was in a hurry and pulled the skin backlike I showed him but he did it quick and aparantly too hard and it just tore free and he said it hurt really bad for a few min, lol the boy did not even get to pee, he was holding it in until he got home to show me.
Yeowch! I can imagine it did hurt! But now that it's done, there shouldn't be any more pain.

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and the head of his penis is fairly sore and red as if its sore, but not infected.
If you're not used to seeing an intact penis, they are redder than circumcised penis because the skin is not keritinized. It'll always be that way. It means that the blood supply and nerves are closer to the surface and that's a good thing. It means magnificient sex when he's older.

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I had him go lay down on his bed and I got some neosporin.. I put the neosporn under his foreskin on the sore parts with a qtip again, but by this time he was showing that he was growing up and was fully erect, i asked him to just trust me and let me continue helping him.. I did notice that when he is erect that the opening to his penis head is small.. will this clear up?
Maybe, maybe not. Just like the opening to your vagina, it's supposed to have some tightness. It may get looser and it may not. It depends on how tight it is now. But, as long as it eventually retracts easily, there is nothing to worry about. If he prefers it to be looser, he can just use the retracting exercises I described.

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Should I teach him how to clean under his foreskin yet or can we wait until it completely detaches?
You can wait. Just like he will need to start using deodorant when he reaches puberty, he will have genital odors after puberty. He'll probably figure it out for himself. All he needs to do is retract and rinse like you do for yourself. Did your Mom have to instruct you on how to do that?

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Should I encourage him to tug at the remaning adhesions when he has an erection? (I read this somewhere else)
It's not necessary. I can imagine with this development and pending puberty, he will figure out that he likes to do it and it feels good.
Intact men use their foreskins for masturbation, if you get my drift.

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Wow.. I feel so excited... but.. he's scared.. I wish he could be excited the same as I am...
There's absolutely nothing to be scared about. He's just gone through a very normal stage and milepost. I guess you are excited after the worry you've been going through for the last few days.

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All I can say is... screw that doctor he saw monday. screw the people who wanted to cut it off him last year and when he was born... screw 'em all. My boys completely intact and healthy!
Give 'em hell, Mom! You were right all along and they were wrong! You deserve a little self administered back patting. Enjoy it!

Frank
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It so irks me to think that they would cut off part of your son for going through a normal physiological process. Insane.

Glad to hear that everything is normal.

And for god's sake avoid that Dr. if your son gets a snotty nose...he'd look a little silly running around without a nose!

Casey
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Originally Posted by sunflower_mommy
It just surprised me that you'd continue handling his penis to provide non-emergent care with him fully erect, at age 11. Especially when he's probably capable of applying the neosporin/vasoline himself.

I personally wouldn't have been comfortable doing that. Honestly, it sounds like a lot of looking at/handling/messing with for such a normal developmental stage. Adhesions will release in their own time, tugging and using Q-tips under the foreskin really aren't necessary at all.

JMO,

Jen

PS. Don't feel bad, I just don't think it needs to be messed with. Really, he's normal and fine and everything is happening as it should. I can totally understand feeling the need to help things along but to me it seems like a lot of hassle/intervention to go through when nothing's actually wrong. Does that make sense?

He asked her to do it the second time, he is obviously comfortable with the dynamic of their relationship.

Until he feels uncomfortable, do what feels comfortable. Glad to hear you didn't need an 'emergency circ'.... stupid doctors.

As for neosporin. I know you are applying it to ease the pain, but it really isn't needed. The soreness really wont go away, the cream will just feel nice.

But putting cream or neosporin underneath when he isn't cleaning it out might not be the best idea. Let god and nature do their work, Neosporin wasnt around thousands of years ago.
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i"m glad the issue resolved.

I would just encourage your son to apply the vaseline himself.

I also am allergic to neosporin, so that makes me cringe, I just switched to a generic triple antibiotic instead of neosporin.

Maybe when things calm down you can write that dr and explain that the doctor 'misdiagnosed' this problem and that you want to make sure that the doctor understands what happened and why a circumcision wasn't the answer. And mention that you are so glad you waited and didn't rush into something so drastic.

TAke care,
Jessica
Don't feel bad Nikki! I don't think you did anything wrong. I think it is a good idea for there to be a barrier between the sore spot and the urine.

I am just glad this whole thing is starting to resolve on its own. SCREW THOSE DOCTORS!
It sounds almost like the female equivilant of the Mom being all proud and happy because her daughter got her first period and became "a woman" and the daughter being just pretty darn embarrased about the whole thing.

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I am so glad you discovered that it was just nomal separation. Shame on the docs for NOT KNOWING what is normal for the intact little boy
. Do you think you are going to write what you learned up and inform the medical clinic you went to?

I am definitely going to leave in my will, as well as tell DH, everything about this stuff and to contact this forum if anything ever happens to me and he has a concern. I already have shared with him a lot of information, but he can never hear enough. He needs to know this stuff and what is normal. I just don't trust the medical community on this, and I need to make sure he has access to foreskin friendly medical practitioners...sigh.
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I am definitely going to leave in my will, as well as tell DH, everything about this stuff and to contact this forum if anything ever happens to me and he has a concern. .
Forget the will. if anything should ever happen to me and my husband, I will leave my babe to Frank.

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I am happy to hear that it was normal all along as i suspected. I would definatly sit down and write a letter the the clinic u took ur son to and tell them how much u resent the fact they made u worry needlessly and tell them u will be telling everyone u know to stay away from there. That may get there attention very fast since that will cost them $$.
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Forget the will. if anything should ever happen to me and my husband, I will leave my babe to Frank.


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Believe it or not, that is already in the will of one couple. It's been there about 5 years since the little guy was about 3 years old. Now, I suspect that if anything does happen to them, it will be a mell of a hess with the real grandparents. His step grand dad is a lawyer and it wouldn't surprise me if they don't know about this and will fight it tooth and nail. Hopefully, it'll never come up.

Frank
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