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It all started around cinco de mayo. I posted on here about some bloody show, later I was having some contractions that were stronger than the Braxton Hicks. As the night went on, they were stronger. At about 4 am on the 6th they were strong enough and spaced at about 4-5 minutes apart. I went ahead started using my hypnobabies tools. We called our hypno doula and told her what was going on and she felt things were moving along so she came out to assist so we could hang out at home as long as possible.<br><br>
We spent the whole day yesterday working with all sorts of hypnobabies tools and methods, as well as belly lifts and such. She did a really awesome job! I had the joy of getting sick (I hate puking) and really got in the groove with my hypno tools. My contractions (I know, pressure waves...) were running a minute and a half with 4 minutes between. They got down to a little less than a minute long and were three minutes apart. I even lost my dandy mucus plug We decided to head for the hospital.<br><br>
Got to the hospital around 7:30, got checked. 100% effaced 1 cm dilated - triage nurse starts hassling me about my birth and baby plan. My contractions slowed down. They wanted us to stay and walk the halls. We elected to go home.<br><br>
Got home around 10:00 pm. I freaked out because I had started bleeding - a lot, way more than a little bloody show. I figured out that was normal and broke out the good ole' horse pads. In the meantime, lots of contractions - feeling most of them in my back with some radiating to the front. I could not sleep, contractions were strong so DH and I stayed up working on keeping me relaxed through them and after they got back to 4 minutes apart and I started feeling less in my back, more in my front. Still bleeding so we decided to go back to the hospital at 2am.<br><br>
Got back, had a better nurse. Contractions slowed down again. Bad news, nothing has changed. She acknowledged that the bleeding was a good sign and told us that a first time mom usually has to get fully effaced before starting dilating and that it goes slow getting to 4 cm. We decided to stay and walk for two hours and see what would happen. 2 hours later - nada slightly more dilation but not much and tomato's head was at -2. Time to go home again. The nurse was very positive and said that she felt things would start rolling along before long. She really felt that I was in labor, just in the early stages and I was going very slowly.<br><br>
So, here I am at home. Managed to get about 4 hours of sleep and still bleeding, contractions are erratic but strong - if I move around they kick up. I am exhausted and tired of pacing, bouncing on balls, belly lifting, etc. I just want to relax and see what happens. I really hope that things will start to progress but have a feeling that I could end up hanging out waiting for days or even weeks. I can't go back to work because when I change positions or walk around the contractions ramp up and I can't walk or talk through them. I have to turn my switch off to manage them.<br><br>
I talked to my mom about how it went with my brother (her first) She said it took her three trips to the hospital before she was advanced enough to be admitted. After she had been there for a bit, she stalled so they let her eat. Once she ate - bam, it was on and she had my brother quickly after that. I wonder how much truth there is to daughters having similar birth experiences to their mothers? So far I seem to be on track.<br><br>
So, do you guys think I have hours, days, weeks, months, years left to wait????
 

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I have no idea! Sorry I'm no help. Just wanted to say I hope things get figured out for you. I'll be thinking of you!
 

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Wow! I hope thing start picking up for you too. I'm glad that they didn't just put you on Pitocin. Way to stick with your birth plan! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">
 

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I think you are close mama. If at all possible, eat a good meal, take a nice hot shower and try to relax as if you are trying to stop your labor. Even if things slow way down it may give you just enough of a break that they rock and roll when you wake up. For a couple of my labors we were into day's worth of what you are talking about and I "gave up" so to speak. I decided it was stupid and I would be pregnant forever. May as well eat and get some rest. Something about the mental change and letting go enabled things to take off on their own.<br><br>
Other than the above advice...hang in there...you are in that dark hour right before the dawn. Keep your mind and eye on the prize...it will come! Sending move forward labor vibes your way mama!
 

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crispie has some great advice!<br>
relax and hang in there! we're all <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/joy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="joy"> for you!!
 

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It sounds like things are certainly heading forward towards you meeting your LO! Remember that *any* progress, even slow progress, is still good. Your body is working at its own pace, in its own time, to bring your baby to you. It is working perfectly and doing everything right!<br><br>
Hopefully some encouragement for you:<br>
With both of my girls I went through a good 2-3 days of the same. Had ctx every 5mins apart all day long from the time I got up, and about an hr after getting into bed at night they would peter out. Sometimes they would wake me up for a couple hrs in the middle of the night, but I would get a bit of sleep only to wake back up in the a.m. to an entire day of the same. I was getting very frustrated, had lost my plug, bloody show, the whole 9, and just no baby. Like crispie said; I just kind of "gave up" at that point. I took hot baths/showers, relaxed and ate whatever sounded good (for one of the girls dh got chinese take out), had a glass or 2 of wine (with girl #2 it was a sombrero lol) and had what I thought was an emotional break-down. After that (with both of them) things started out the same the next morning, but we ended up welcoming babies to our family! (DD1 was in '99, DD2 was '06). I really think a lot of it has to do with letting go. Letting go of trying to be in control of birth, and accepting what your body is doing on it's own time-table. Talking to your LO may help too. Let him/her know what you are thinking and feeling. They are incredibly receptive to everything that you are experiencing and maybe he/she is just holding back until the "vibes" feel right.<br>
Wishing you peace of mind and hopefully a baby in your arms soon Mama!<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love">
 

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I think Crispie is right on. I think you're very close and I think you just need to let go completely and give up. Tell your body that you're done and go to sleep, have a glass of wine, eat whatever you want to, snuggle with your dh, watch a comforting movie or eat fabulous food. Distract yourself from the constant obsession and give yourself permission to have a break...I bet that will be the key to the walls breaking down and if not...who knows, maybe your body does genuinely need a little more fuel before heading and a few hours of rest is ideal. But, like I said....I think there's no way you have weeks or even days plural...I think you're into the hours range and you should keep your chin up! Excellent, excellent work so far! I'm so proud of you for sticking to your guns!!!! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/love.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="love"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/winky.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Wink">
 

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It sounds like you're definitely on the right track...I'm just sorry it's been so drawn out so far. I'd bet when things get going, you'll go quickly.<br><br>
Hopefully you're having that babe right now. Good luck! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 
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