I have this battle nearly every time my husband bathes our 2-year-old intact son. Hubby just thinks that something must be done with his son's penis. Should it be retracted? Is that natural? Should we use soap to clean in there? I just have to tell him, "Just leave it alone!" I point out to him that he did not insist on soaping down our three daughters vaginas or retracting anything down there! It is hard for those who are not educated and receive so much misinformation on this subject, that it can be very frustrating. Thank goodness for this panel! I feel like I am the only voice of reason in my community!
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Well this might be TMI, but I got female care instructions after my first visit to a GYN, b/c I had been cleaning too vigorously with soap, and it was causing issues.
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I know giving out these kinds of instructions might seem silly to us here, but in reality the US has a lot of personal hygene hangups and issues.
I know giving out these kinds of instructions might seem silly to us here, but in reality the US has a lot of personal hygene hangups and issues.
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UK mommy, did ANY personel ask you if you wanted your ds circumcised? I doubt they do, but wanted to know for sure. They'll ask here which royally ticks me off!
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ETA, to stay on topic:
I think the simple the better, "wipe like a figner and don't retract" should be the default, rather than soliciting circs. My MW gave me zero instructions on the care for my intact boys when they were born. They also didn't ask if I was going to circ either... Thats why I'm so partial to them. When my dd was born, they told me to wipe from front to back.
Originally Posted by Onemagicmummy im in UK, i had a son first, thena daughter, in two different hospitals in two different towns, 180 miles apart (and 27 months too) (i also have another boy and girl and a girl on the way) the care instructions i got give in both cases was the same "only clean what is seen" that was it, just wipe or bathe. Kiz |
ETA, to stay on topic:
I think the simple the better, "wipe like a figner and don't retract" should be the default, rather than soliciting circs. My MW gave me zero instructions on the care for my intact boys when they were born. They also didn't ask if I was going to circ either... Thats why I'm so partial to them. When my dd was born, they told me to wipe from front to back.
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Wow, thanks Kiz for your input. Very interesting.
Originally Posted by Onemagicmummy it was never even mentioned, not at all by anyone at all. untill i joined MDC all i knew about circ was that its was done for religious reasons or if there were medical problems such as tight forskin when a boy was "older" other than that it was a non issue, not ever mentioned by anyone. i know of 2 males that have been Circed DH's dad (eww i really could of lived a million years and not know that bit of info *shudders*) and my sons friend from school who was circed at age 5 due to repeat infections, tight forskin etc, at the time i was like oh well whatever, i later learned that his mum had been after getting him done for years and refused to do anything else to help him. she admited to hating forskins had asked her then bf to get done too (he refused) and said her son's future wife will thank her. i felt sick. i feel for that poor boy. other than that i have never met/seen/heard of circs being done in UK. Kiz |
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