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<p>I guess most of us won't have any for a few months.. but some might have early checks.</p>
 

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<p>I will meet with two new (to me) midwives in 1/13. It is earlier than normal, but I have had two first trimester losses since June, so I need a little reassurance.</p>
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<p>I'm meeting with a midwife this Th morning (at a birthing center, but she would come for the home birth) for the initial consultation, and then on 1/17 I have an early ultrasound scheduled that's just part of my HMO's normal process (my back-up option).  Still hoping to hear from one other midwife who might be another option for homebirth...</p>
 

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<p>I have an appointment with an OBGYN tomorrow, 1-04, at 1:15. I have not seen a gyn in over 10 years, and I have never, ever had any prenatal visits with one. I have some pretty serious doctor phobias. But, considering my history, I'm going to try and get over myself and go get care established. Still planning on having the baby at home via UC if everything is going well, but I'm going to try this OBGYN thing out for the prenatal stuff. Midwives are not legal here, so its really my only option. I could drive 4+ hours one way to the farm, and I have been in contact with them over the past few months, so that is a possibility if just can't make myself do the doctor this. We shall see. Y'all think about me tomorrow - I am so scared.</p>
 

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<p>My first appointment is tomorrow to get a pregnancy test done so that I can sign up for Medicaid.  I will then be referred to an OB to get all my bloodwork done, then I will probably have an appointment by the end of the month with the midwife I've been talking to since my last pregnancy.</p>
 

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<p>I've got my first midwife appointment on the 26th.  They won't see me any sooner and while I know she'll answer my e-mails I'm technically not their patient until the 26th.  So I booked an appointment with my regular doctor tomorrow morning, unusual for my doc, it usually takes a while to get in. </p>
<p>Laura what about a doula, are they allowed in your area?  I can't say I share the same phobia about doctors, but I do a lot of my own research when it comes to personal health and I don't always agree with everything they say, I'm quite stubborn about that too.  It's too bad midwives aren't allowed, personally I think all low-risk births should be attended by midwives, doctors don't do anything until the last minute anyways.  At least if you can have a doula they will act as a voice for you, making sure your questions are answered and your wishes are respected.  Either way, best of luck, hopefully your OBGYN will be super nice and understanding and willing to treat you the way you want to be.  Could be worse, in Canada you get who you get, no switching, and they work as a team, so the first clinic I was sent to, before I switched to midwives, you see any of 6 at your appointments, and there's another 6 you never meet that may be the one to deliver your baby.  You only get 15 min appointments so questions are a minimum.  With the midwives I have you get a half hour, and if you don't have enough questions they'll bring you some tea and just sit and chat. </p>
 

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<p>Smurfy- Same here. I have kaiser and they wont see my until 10-12 weeks! Instead they sent me an informational packet that was less than informative. I have been seeing and paying out of pocket for a naturopath and accupuncturist on a bi weekly basis and will discuss any concerns I have with them. Im going to see if I can get a midwife or birth center referral from them and start the process. Stinks to pay for all this out of pocket, but with Kaiser, its necessary. I feel running up stairs last march and thought I broke my wrist. They couldn't get me in for a week. Luckily, it wasn't broken. Im a total hippy (tie dye- a couple pieces *check*, granola - *check*, vegan- *check*, prescription free- *check*, thought I do use deoderant even its toms of maine all natural.) so the naturopath and accupuncturist is more of my mode anyways.</p>
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<p>Ill keep everyone up to date on both. Im debating ultrasounds, as there has been a study on a possibly link between ultrasound and autism. It bothers me. If you think about it, you are beaming ultrasonic sound waves against your babys developing body and brain.</p>
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<p><a href="http://www.ageofautism.com/2008/10/cell-division-a.html" target="_blank">http://www.ageofautism.com/2008/10/cell-division-a.html</a></p>
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<p>I had the same concern originally with ultrasounds.  The concern first came about when Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes bought an ultrasound machine so they could check out their baby every day!  The possibility is that the sound waves could create bubbles in the developing brain.  I talked to my midwife about it last time and her feelings were as long as ultrasounds are kept to a minimum with only the necessary ones then it's not a concern, and in fact sometimes they're needed more to ensure the health and safety of your baby.  Mine was breech so towards the end we needed them to check positioning and during the attempts to turn him.  Be forewarned though, at our 20 week ultrasound they told us our son had downs, no further testing, no second opinion, just here's the conclusion you have to go to the high-risk clinic.  After a 2 day nightmare our midwife got us in for a second opinion and it was normal.  I've heard a lot of ultrasound horror stories since, so if you get a "bad" test like we did, insist on a second opinion. <br><br>
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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>activealli</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1287550/it-s-a-little-early-but-does-someone-else-want-to-start-the-appointment-thread#post_16157408"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border-bottom:0px solid;border-left:0px solid;border-top:0px solid;border-right:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>Ill keep everyone up to date on both. Im debating ultrasounds, as there has been a study on a possibly link between ultrasound and autism. It bothers me. If you think about it, you are beaming ultrasonic sound waves against your babys developing body and brain.</p>
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<p> I went in today for blood work and will go back on Wednesday so they can check my 48hr Beta Levels.  Once my levels are high enough, the office will also do a early ultrasound to confirm inter-uterine pregnancy (I have a history of ectopic pregnancies).  Once it is confirmed that my pregnancy is not ectopic I will be switching over to see the CNM who will be doing my homebirth.</p>
 

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<p>Is anyone feeling overwhelmed with appointments already?  I have two midwives to meet with now, hopefully one is perfect <img alt="winky.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/winky.gif">, and then the HMO appointments (I'll end up having 3 this month, one down already) since that's my back-up...  I need to schedule with the dentist, too, but I'm going to wait for next month with that!!</p>
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<p>I think what makes it even harder is that we're not telling DD yet, and she's a bright little kid - if she didn't get it after 5 doctor's visits, she'd at least be concerned that something was wrong with me!  But I need DH with me at most of the appointments, so that means arranging care on top of everything else!!!</p>
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>L J</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1287550/it-s-a-little-early-but-does-someone-else-want-to-start-the-appointment-thread#post_16157065"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>I have an appointment with an OBGYN tomorrow, 1-04, at 1:15. I have not seen a gyn in over 10 years, and I have never, ever had any prenatal visits with one. I have some pretty serious doctor phobias. But, considering my history, I'm going to try and get over myself and go get care established. Still planning on having the baby at home via UC if everything is going well, but I'm going to try this OBGYN thing out for the prenatal stuff. Midwives are not legal here, so its really my only option. I could drive 4+ hours one way to the farm, and I have been in contact with them over the past few months, so that is a possibility if just can't make myself do the doctor this. We shall see. Y'all think about me tomorrow - I am so scared.</p>
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<br><br><p>LJ, hope it goes well this afternoon! <span><img alt="hug.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/hug.gif"></span></p>
 

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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>L J</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1287550/it-s-a-little-early-but-does-someone-else-want-to-start-the-appointment-thread#post_16157065"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>I have an appointment with an OBGYN tomorrow, 1-04, at 1:15. I have not seen a gyn in over 10 years, and I have never, ever had any prenatal visits with one. I have some pretty serious doctor phobias. But, considering my history, I'm going to try and get over myself and go get care established. Still planning on having the baby at home via UC if everything is going well, but I'm going to try this OBGYN thing out for the prenatal stuff. Midwives are not legal here, so its really my only option. I could drive 4+ hours one way to the farm, and I have been in contact with them over the past few months, so that is a possibility if just can't make myself do the doctor this. We shall see. Y'all think about me tomorrow - I am so scared.</p>
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Me, too - I hope all goes well!</p>
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<div class="quote-block">Originally Posted by <strong>L J</strong> <a href="/community/forum/thread/1287550/it-s-a-little-early-but-does-someone-else-want-to-start-the-appointment-thread#post_16157065"><img alt="View Post" class="inlineimg" src="/community/img/forum/go_quote.gif" style="border:0px solid;"></a><br><br><p>I have an appointment with an OBGYN tomorrow, 1-04, at 1:15. I have not seen a gyn in over 10 years, and I have never, ever had any prenatal visits with one. I have some pretty serious doctor phobias. But, considering my history, I'm going to try and get over myself and go get care established. Still planning on having the baby at home via UC if everything is going well, but I'm going to try this OBGYN thing out for the prenatal stuff. Midwives are not legal here, so its really my only option. I could drive 4+ hours one way to the farm, and I have been in contact with them over the past few months, so that is a possibility if just can't make myself do the doctor this. We shall see. Y'all think about me tomorrow - I am so scared.</p>
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I am thinking about you, today. I hope that all goes well. </p>
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<p>Went to get a pregnancy test done at my doctor's yesterday and they got a BFN.  LOL!  My tests are better than theirs.  Plus it wasn't a morning pee.  So, they took blood, which I needed to get another test done anyway.  I just thought it was funny.  I will get my results today, because you know, those home tests lie. <span><img alt="rolleyes.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/rolleyes.gif">  He's like well if you are pregnant.....</span></p>
 

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<p>@farmercathy- that is pretty funny. Let us know what they say today.</p>
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<p>LJ- How did it go?</p>
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<p>I won't be seeing anyone for a few weeks. I am considering getting one u/s at 9 weeks or so in order to determine twins or not. They run heavy in my family. As in 13 sets in 3 generations heavy. I have no interest in just waiting around to figure it out. It would be much better to get over that shock and prepare throughout the pregnancy. Here's hoping it's not twins though.</p>
<p>But other than that I have a mw and I don't know when we will check in. I'll be doing a lot of prenatal self care also.</p>
 

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<p>I have my first appt on the 20th. My CNM likes to see her patients between 6 to 8 weeks. My DH won't really let me tell friends and family until we get the "official" test from a dr's office. I also need the confirmation so I can start getting WIC - kinda stinks when your hubby works his tail off....</p>
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<p>FarmerCathy - that just about sums it up!</p>
 

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<p>I tried so hard to update from my phone, but I don't live in a 3G network and it just wouldn't work! I SO need my computer back from the shop!</p>
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<p>It went pretty well. I liked the doctor and her staff, a lot. They took my HCG and I went back in for a second draw today. My numbers from Tuesday were 2146, and I think that sounds awesome for 4w6d. She did a transvaginal u/s and saw a fetal sack measuring 5w, but no fetal pole yet. There was a very large cyst on one of my ovaries, but I'm not going to worry about that. I have always had symptoms of PCOS, but no problems concieving and no pain, ever. So, if I have cysts, I just don't see why its a big deal.</p>
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<p>Unfortunately, the doctor won't take me on as a client because I am too "high risk". I really hate having that label slapped on me. Its so hard for me to go to a doctor at all, and I'm not excited about the high risk maternal fetal medicine group she is going to be referring me to. One day at a time, though. Whatever it takes to get this baby here healthy.</p>
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<p>They are going to call me tomorrow and let me know what my HCG #s were from today, and assuming they doubled I will go back in either Monday or Tuesday for another u/s to make sure the fetal pole is there, and then the referal to the high risk group.</p>
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<p>Thank you ALL so very much for the support - you have no idea how much I appreciate it.</p>
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<p>Cathy - my DH and my dad won't believe home tests, either. LOL. I just don't get it. They won't believe I am pregnant until a doctor confirms it. So silly.</p>
 

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Cathy - my DH and my dad won't believe home tests, either. LOL. I just don't get it. They won't believe I am pregnant until a doctor confirms it. So silly.</div>
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<p>Well, it's official, I'm pregnant.  <span><img alt="lol.gif" src="http://files.mothering.com/images/smilies/lol.gif">  When they took my blood my number was 43.9 and that was 3 wks 6 days, which is perfect.  It's supposed to be 0-50 at one week.  So, looking good.  I have so many symptoms, its crazy.</span></p>
 

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<p>I had my first midwife consultation today, it was encouraging!  I learned a new term - "co-care"- to describe what I'll do, keeping appointments with my HMO for bloodwork, etc., to keep it less expensive, but probably starting to see the midwife as well around 25 weeks (if we go with this center).  Meet with one other midwife option tomorrow!</p>
 

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<p>Ok so I REALLY need to vent!  So this morning I notice a bit of blood, not much but just a small amount of bright pink on the tp.  I didn't freak out but this didn't happen with my first so thought I should probably talk to my doctor to get some reassurance and make sure I do the right thing and don't ignore something important, especially with the weekend coming up.  So I call her office, keep in mind I just saw her yesterday.  I'm told that IF she has a chance to talk to me today being I didn't pay for their extended care benefit package, which in 6 years I haven't used a single thing covered in that package, that it's going to cost me $50 for every 15 min.  In Canada we don't pay for doctor visits, this is a new thing that doctors are charging for "little extras" to make more money.  Or I could book an appointment and see her next week sometime, her office is across the city and she's always late, so any appointment can take 3 to 4 hours out of my day.  So I can't even talk to her for 5 min when she's supposed to be doing all of my prenatal care for the first 3 months, and I just saw her.  Absolutely ticked, and not wanting to pay now out of principle and due to the big "IF" she calls back, I decide to give my midwife a try.  I'm not actually a midwife patient until my appointment on the 26th, but I fire her a quick e-mail anyways.  Within seconds she e-mails me back with her pager and cell number.  5 min later I have all my questions answered and the reassurance I needed.  I really hate our health care system!  I wish my midwife could be my regular doctor instead.</p>
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