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I just wanted to see if others experience this too.<br><br>
Whenever I'm having some sort of interpersonal problem, it's always my own fear (of judgment, rejection, obligation, honesty) that screws things up. Remembering to trust is so hard sometimes. Being willing to let go of the fear and just be direct is hard too.<br><br>
What about all of you? What are some of the means by which you change fear into trust/love/willingness?<br><br>
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It helps me to kind of force myself to go down that "worst case scenario" path. It's a basic Cognitive Behavioral Therapy tool that can help you figure out what's really bothering you. For example, I think:<br><br>
I will tell my sister that I don't want her screaming at her kids when she visits with them.<br>
What would be so hard / so bad about that?<br>
She will either not take me seriously, or just get offended.<br>
What would be so hard / so bad about THAT?<br>
answer that... then<br>
What would be so hard / so bad about THAT<br>
answer that... then<br>
What would be so hard / so bad about THAT<br>
... and so on.<br><br>
Sometimes even when you arrive at the worst case scenario in your mind, you think "Oh, is that all I was freaked out about??" Sorry this post doesn't really explain the process well, but I hope you know what I mean.
 
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