[Ravin]

I swear, my childhood best friend has completely gone off the deep end. Or maybe it's me?

After several months of not speaking to me because I tried to talk her into breastfeeding, she started talking to me again when I was coming back out to our hometown for a visit.

She had the baby a week ago. Didn't even try to bf, just went straight to formula.

She came by today for a few minutes w/ her DH and 4 yo., leaving her DD2, at 6 days old, w/ her mother across town. When my DD was 6 days old I was reluctant to let others, including DH and my mom, even hold her. I wasn't about to let her out of my sight!!!

So then she's telling me today that they've already had to go to soy formula because her DD wasn't taking the dairy formula well.

This friend is allergic to soy, and she's feeding her baby soy formula.

I pointed out that her DD would probably wind up on the expensive hypoallergenic formula that's like thirty bucks a can, and her reply was, "So? I go to WIC."

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This is the same person who for years complained to me about how pointless the bf'ing videos they made her watch at WIC were since it was a little late w/ her DD1.

Obviously they were since she never heeded a word of them, or anything I said to her about it.

We've been friends for 14 years and I don't even want to talk to her now, but don't feel like I can just drop her as a friend. It's so wierd. And depressing.

 

[gingerlane]

Oh I hear ya! Most of my friends are fairly crunchy, but the few that are not... well, let's just say that after a point, certain topics become banned. But there is a large part of me that just feels like my time is too precious to waste on people that suck me dry emotionally. I've let a few people go because I'm just not emotionally up to all that DRAIN.

14 years is a long time... people change A LOT in 14 years. Maybe you've just grown apart.

It's up to you mama... hope that by gently showing her your truth she might be affected by it or simply walk away. We honor your struggle (and that's what this is) no matter what you choose!

 

[cjr]

Well, none of my friends or family members are crunchy. I am considered "wierd", and I'm not even that crunchy. I guess I would be classified as a wanna-be crunchy, but I'm getting better. They all think I'm wierd because I eat whole foods and changed my diet to vegetarian. My mom thought I was insane for not only wanting to cd, but actually getting so excited over my stash (which is very simple, but I love it). She was relieved when I stopped bf'ing Carter and well...lets just say less than supportive when I told her I was relactating. Her comment yesturday was "well, you must be keeping some of that formula in because you are doing lots of growing".

She completely misses the point.

I agree, maybe it's time to move on. I have two really great friends...one is old and one is new. They both support me 100% and those are the friends I need in my life. My one long time friend was very happy I am relactating. She's a doc in the only "baby friendly" hospital in Montana, which means they do not supply formula or hand out info or samples at all. If a mother wants to formula feed, they bring it themselves.