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just wanted to thank everyone for your support through my tumultuous relationships woes....but it's finally over. I've talked it over with H and although he doesn't agree, I plan to visit a lawyer this week. I'm done.<br><br>
Just wanted to say, that the "good man" thread has given me so much hope and restored my faith in men. It also made me realize how bad things had gotten with us. I used to feel all those great things about him and it's just impossible now.<br><br>
Guess I'll go visit the single mommas to get some tips - I'm terrified of my next steps!!!! How can I do the mommy thing alone? (Well STBX is still their father of course, but you know, the daily stuff!)<br><br>
but wanted to thank you all for your hugs and support....<br><br>
one thing I've learned - it's easy to say "leave him" but often you have to be in the right mental state to be ready for that step...I had to know that there absolutely wasn't a shred of hope, otherwise I would have always wondered....but now I feel strong.<br><br>
hth others!<br>
peace,<br>
robyn
 

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wishing you peace as you embark upon this next phase of your life's journey.
 

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Been following your threads. Good luck to you <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">one thing I've learned - it's easy to say "leave him" but often you have to be in the right mental state to be ready for that step...I had to know that there absolutely wasn't a shred of hope, otherwise I would have always wondered....but now I feel strong.</div>
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Oh - I remember that feeling so well. I'd gone through a few years of agonizing and trying to imagine life without my ex and just couldn't do it. And, then, I got to that right mental state, and...it just wasn't the overwhelmingly impossible thing that I'd thought it would be. It was hard - but not impossible. (For me, the hardest part by far was actually telling my ex...and you've done that already.)
 

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Thanks everyone....it helps now that I finally got the truth from him about the "massages".<br><br>
Now I shudder at the thought of him touching me.<br>
:puke<br><br>
So yeah, I'm strong.<br><br>
peace,<br>
robyn
 

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Sending you more support and strength vibes. This next phase of your life probably won't be easy, but it'll be worth it.<br><br><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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I'm sorry it's come to this, but glad you could do it knowing that you'd given your relationship every chance.<br><br>
Stay strong. It's a long road, but you'll make it . . . and be so proud of yourself.
 

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I am glad that you have made the decision and feel at peace with it mama.((HUGS)) to your new journey ahead!!
 

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I've been following your story and this post made me so happy for you. Sure, it's going to be hard, but in the end Mama you are SO making the right decision! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Be kind to yourself, and stay strong.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> It's an odd adjustment from being married to single-parenthood. In the end, I know I made the right decision. You can do this!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Thanks everyone....it helps now that I finally got the truth from him about the "massages".<br><br>
Now I shudder at the thought of him touching me.<br>
:puke<br><br>
So yeah, I'm strong.<br><br>
peace,<br>
robyn</div>
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I'm sorry there was something like that for you to find out...but glad you did find out.<br><br>
I know the feeling of shuddering at the thought of him touching you, though. Fortunately for me, the revelation that made me feel that way came after he'd left the house, so it was purely a feeling of relief.<br><br>
I'm sorry it ended like this, mama, but I'm pretty confident (based on my own experience and many others) that you're going to look back in a year or two and find it unbelievable that your life was ever this unhappy.
 

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Robyn<br>
I think you will be pleasantly surprised at the amount of energy you have, once all the negative energy is gone from the house. Conflicted relationships require TONS of energy IMO. You can do it!
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"> Good luck on the next stage of your parenting journey. I've been there twice.
 
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