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about how life has changed so much in the past 2 years. It's been a little over 2 years since I joined the single parent board. Taking a trip down memory lane tonight (woo-hoo for the search button!).

First I have to say that almost 2 years ago to the day I responded to someone else's post on here about not being able to make rent. Lo and behold.... I'm in that same position right now
How ironic. A check came back for NSF (it was a check someone sent to me, so they took that money back out of my account, plus a $25 fee. I NEEDED that money to make rent since I got less than half the child support this month (which has been happening all freaking year now)). Oh well. I'll pay it late, it'll be fine.

Anyway, just over 2 years ago I was freaking out because my ex took me to court. He was asking for joint custody (physical and legal). He wanted every other weekend plus every wednesday night. Also splitting holidays. I will never forget that feeling, when I was served those papers. That sickening feeling in the pit of your stomach just never leaves when you learn someone is trying to take your baby.

(Fast forward to court and we ended up with joint legal, I have primary physical. He has visitation "at my discretion")

One year ago ex had never taken Owen for longer than 3 hours and was missing about 1/2 to 2/3 of his visits. At that time I was po'd at him for coming and going out of Owen's life and just wanted him to make a decision one way or another- to be a father or not.

Today- I'm kicking myself in the butt for that because he's not around. Deep down I feel this is a good thing for Owen (his dad really is crappy to him and Owen doesn't need that) but at the same time I feel bad for Owen who doesn't know his dad. How sad is it that an almost *3* year old has never said the word *dada* (or *dad* or any other variation of that) and even if his dad was standing right next to him and you asked him "where's dad?" he would have no clue what you're talking about
His dad hasn't taken him on visits for about 8 months now. He's turned into the "holiday dad" (and he even sucks at that because he never even asks to see Owen on a holiday- if he happens to be at his parents house when I bring Owen to visit them then he'll walk in the room for a few minutes).

I really don't know what the point of this thread is (man, I should go to bed and get some sleep
) other than to say it's amazing how much can change in such a short time. Makes me wonder where we'll all be next summer
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