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Can I say that Childcare is not reasonably avalible in my situation?

  • Yes you can say childcare is not reasonably avalible

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Ok so I've been called for just duty for the first time in my life. I'm a SAHM to my 2 year old nursing dd.<br><br>
My state has this listed as an exemption.<br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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The only real options I have for child care are having her stay overnight with my parents for however long I have to be on jury duty. (they live about 45 min away or I would drop her off and pick her up.) I totally trust them and they would take great care of her. The problem is we co-sleep and dd nurses to sleep. She's never spent a night away from me. They aren't comfortable having her in their bed. Dad is a deep and active sleeper. They would put her in a crib right next to their bed. I worry that she would be up screaming all night (they'd hold and rock and care for her) I also worry that if it was several days that dd would wind up weaning and I'm really not ready for that.<br><br>
Or I could try to find a daycare type situation. Put I really don't want to do that or spend the $$.<br><br>
Normally my sister would be an option, but she'll be out of the country.<br><br>
So, finally my question. Do you think it's ok to say that other childcare isn't reasonably available and ask for an exemption. I really don't mind serving in theory, but trying to figure out how to take care of dd is really stressing me out.
 

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Yes, you can say childcare isn't reasonably available. I wouldn't even hesitate to just check the box and send the form back. No ethical dilemma at all IMO.
 

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You are TOTALLY what they mean when they say not reasonably available. You shouldn't have to send your DD away for perhaps a week or more, nor should you have to pay for childcare you normally wouldn't be doing. Danger of weaning? No way! Go right ahead for the exemtption; you are why there IS an exeption. Don't go into details if they require more info-- just say you are a nursing mother, sole care provider, and have no other reasonable care. They should let you right off, and you shouldn't feel bad about it! Jury duty can be rewarding but I'd never make my DD sacrifice for it, too.
 

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I voted for that you do not have reasonable childcare available.<br><br>
I wouldn't feel bad at all. You are what they mean when they wrote that.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">You are TOTALLY what they mean when they say not reasonably available. You shouldn't have to send your DD away for perhaps a week or more, nor should you have to pay for childcare you normally wouldn't be doing. Danger of weaning? No way! Go right ahead for the exemtption; you are why there IS an exeption. Don't go into details if they require more info-- just say you are a nursing mother, sole care provider, and have no other reasonable care. They should let you right off, and you shouldn't feel bad about it! Jury duty can be rewarding but I'd never make my DD sacrifice for it, too.</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up"> Yes to all the above. I wouldn't give it a second thought. I think you are abiding by the letter and the spirit of the law.
 

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File for the exemption and don't worry about it a bit! In my state, you can volunteer if you want to for Jury Duty, so when you're more available in a few years, no longer nursing, etc., you can always do that if you like.
 

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Definitely say you don't have reasonable childcare.
 

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I voted to say you don't have reasonable childcare. Some 'other's might be for you to sleep at your parents with DD (so you're only driving out one time/day instead of two) or for your mom to stay at your place.
 

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I am an obsessive rule follower, and I think you are totally OK. None of the options you presented were "reasonable" for your family.
 

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I would say it was not available. I don't consider a two year old who still nurses being away from her Mom overnight as reasonable.
 

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Another idea for you...<br><br>
I'm not sure if it is the same in your state, but in my state nursing gives you an automatic out. You simply do not have to serve jury duty if you are still nursing. I would check over the form and look under the "exemptions" area, to see if it's mentioned there. If it isn't mentioned there, then call someone (there should be a phone number somewhere on your summons letter). Mention that you are nursing (you don't need to give age, it's not relavent) and know that in some states this would grant you the exemption.<br><br>
When I was summoned 6 months ago, I simply put that my son was still nursing, and that if they had questions they could call me (and then included my phone number). But I didn't have to serve. I think that the logistics involved with a nursing woman makes you less... convenient. They'd have to give you pumping breaks, etc., which sometimes a court can't do. So I would check into a nursing exemption before you give thought to childcare...
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I am an obsessive rule follower, and I think you are totally OK. None of the options you presented were "reasonable" for your family.</div>
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Me too. I think it's perfectly ethical and reasonable for you to request exemption.
 

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I opened the thread to remind you not to shirk your civic duty. I'm a stickler for rules *and* folks who weasel out of jury duty is a big pet peeve of mine.<br><br>
That said, you're exactly the mama for whom that exemption is written. Send off your form and enjoy your daughter!
 

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I agree with everyone else. You are only exempted for 4 years of her life, she's only 2 so that's only another 2 years. The state has had years to call you to serve and they'll have years afterwards. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/orngtongue.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Stick Out Tongue">
 

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Yep, defer. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Your name will come up again when your child is older, and you're better able to serve.
 

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Your name will come up again. I would let it go this time.
 

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Defer until your child is older.<br><br>
Dh gets called every couple of years, always at the WRONG time (first it was finals, then we had a baby due AND it was finals, then it was traveling for work.) He feels awful because he WANTS to serve, but he just can't do it at THAT time. If it ever comes in when he's not so busy, then he'll take it in a heartbeat. Oddly, I've never been called.
 

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Off-topic, but where are the comments from all the people who voted "Go serve"? Are people just clicking that button for fun? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"><br><br>
I voted to go for the exemption - you're totally in the clear!
 
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