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My last pregnancy, my interactions with doctors were so negative that it forced me to look outside the box for a birthing solution, and at 32 weeks we started looking into unassisted birth, and had our daughter UC at 40wks and 3 days. I don't regret the decision, but the doctors and midwives were SO horrible to us that we nearly sued them, and I did multiple interviews about the situation with newspapers (online and paper) and was meeting with lawyers and legal advise people from women's rights groups about how to keep them away from me. I never asked for anything crazy either... it was all about the fact that I wanted to attempt a VBAC (no mention ever of natural birth and I did not decline a single pregnancy intervention). The area is not VBAC friendly and they used some pretty severe scare tactics to attempt to force me to schedule a cesarean.<br><br>
So this pregnancy, I have moved about an hr from where I was last time, and a local home birth midwife reccomended a CNM to me that works about an hour further from my home. I've been very skittish and have even broken down crying in their office at the thought of having a pap (can you say post traumatic stress? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> ). But we went in there yesterday after skipping an appointment last month, and she was totally cool with my declining the glucola test, declining pretty much any invasive interventions, having declined the pap after all of the drama that happened when they asked me to take it a few times in a row before and said she has complete respect for my desire to have no interventions at all. Other than discussing some possible NSTs if my blood pressure goes up over 160/105 and saying that they would want to discuss some interventions if it goes up to like 170/110 she was so very laid back, and even with those things, it was more of a "if it gets to that point we can talk about our options" than a "this is what we will do to you".<br><br>
Anyways, I am the biggest anti-medical establishment person in the world since my last pregnancy and I have very little patience or trust for medical people in general because of that... But this really made me analyze my prejudices against them, and gives me a lot of hope that not everyone in the medical field has their own agenda or is intervention happy. Just wanted to share, since it was SUCH a great thing yesterday, to go in and out of a doctor's office during my 3rd trimester without fear or tears for the first time in 3 pregnancies.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">s that's awesome! I too had a bad experience with some Drs and nearly died but oddly enough my experience having DS via c-section at a local hossy really made me feel better about Drs in general.
 

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That's awesome. I'm so glad you had a good experience. And it's nice when there are folks in the medical establishment who can bring you some confidence and trust again!
 

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I'm so glad things are going better for you this time around. I'm sorry you had such a horrible experience before <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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I am so glad you had a positive experience! That is great news!
 

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Oh, how fascinating and scary. And people call us NCBers birth nazis!!<br><br>
Glad you found someone who is reasonable and nice. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile">
 

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Thanks! <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> Its just amazing to me at how different providers can be, ya know? They both take the same actual data, and come back with totally different conclusions.
 
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