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Because I couldnt scream my head off there....<br>
Duncan and I went to a new art class yesterday - it was fun. We both had a really good time there. Its not often we can do things like that - but it was specifically designed for mothers and their babies/children.<br><br>
Well there was a mother there with a young baby - about 5 months of age. Everyone kept going on about how 'good' he was because he sat in a bouncer chair the whole time (we were there 2 hours) and didnt cry! He was a 'good boy' because he was quiet and didnt fuss or cry or anything - just sat there!<br>
ugghh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!<br><br>
and it was in a building we used to go to for another art class - that once my son became a toddler we were no longer welcome because he didnt want to go in the creche - he wanted to be with me. Which was fine when he was a 'baby'. They suggested I left him to cry in the creche! She was talking to me like I was a first time mother with no clue! She went on and on about how it was okay to leave him to cry because he would only be upset about it for a few mintues! Was she serious! It took a lot of my control for me to just walk out of there. Just going back there reminded me of that.... Sigh...<br><br><br><br><br><br>
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I had a baby who would sit like that. It was nothing that I did, it's just the way he was. He wasn't good but I will admit it was easy sometimes. He probably gave other babies a bad reputation though <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br><br>
He was my third. My first two were very different. No way would they have been separated from me. Especially my second.<br><br>
My first wasn't really ever separated from me or dh until he went to Kindergarten. (FTR he was fine and had no problems)<br><br>
I was very lucky that all the activities we did were accomodating. I hate it when people try to force babies to be "independent" or separate before they are ready.
 

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My DD's like that. I didn't have anything to do with it. . she's always been pretty quiet and content no matter where she is.<br><br>
I do refrain from calling her "good" because I don't want an association to be made between "content" and "good", ya know? As if her personality qualifies her worth -- kids are good regardless of their personality types. But she was and usually still is, pretty mellow and easy. I will say to other people that she's usually quiet and introverted, though, because it's true (and they need to know that) and I don't feel that I'm judging <i>her</i>, ya know?<br><br>
Calling an easy baby "good" just gets on my nerves. . just as much as calling a misbehaving child "bad" does.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">My DD's like that. I didn't have anything to do with it. . she's always been pretty quiet and content no matter where she is.<br><br><b>I do refrain from calling her "good" because I don't want an association to be made between "content" and "good", ya know? As if her personality qualifies her worth -- kids are good regardless of their personality types.</b> But she was and usually still is, pretty mellow and easy. I will say to other people that she's usually quiet and introverted, though, because it's true (and they need to know that) and I don't feel that I'm judging <i>her</i>, ya know?<br><br>
Calling an easy baby "good" just gets on my nerves. . just as much as calling a misbehaving child "bad" does.</div>
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Exactly! I had a 'quiet' son as well. Hes always been a content little chap! But I dont go cooing over babies saying how 'good' they are based on their personality - as if a baby was crying or fussing or moving about makes them 'bad'. Thats what gets me!...its that you have to be quiet and 'seen and not heard' to be a 'good' child in our society. Thats what makes me upset!
 
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