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I'm 39 weeks and due on Sunday. I'm seeing a midwife for a homebirth. I decided around 32-33 weeks that I want to have a UC. Dh is still not on board about it so we've compromised. The midwife is supposed to come and sit around in the living room when I go into labor. She agreed that she wouldn't bother us at all unless we asked for her help. I really wish I hadn't compromised. She's supposed to come either Saturday or Sunday for our first home visit. I really wish the baby would come before she comes. I complained to Dh about her coming. That I didn't want her to be here in the first place. Dh just doesn't understand. Sigh! Another thing is she'll be gone from May 26-28 and her backup is supposed to take over. I've never met her backup and obviously don't like that idea. Well, this was just a vent and whine.
 

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Hi mama ~ my feeling is that it's <i>your</i> choice. I've read so many stories of mamas giving birth in what they thought was their ideal situation, and they still have regrets. You're saying that you've already agreed to give birth in what you feel isn't your ideal situation, so I would worry there'd be a greater chance of major regrets.<br><br>
This is your birth mama.....yours and your baby's. You've gotta do what's right for you. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">
 

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i know your time is getting close, but i suggest you talk (beg, plead) with DH to just have a UC without a midwife lurking around. I agree with Mama in the Forest that it is your choice. I had to assure my DH that everything would be ok for our UC. He didn't fully believe me till after DD was born, but then, I think he was glad we did it that way. Best wishes!
 
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