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Just because you have passed the 35 week point does not mean your baby is ready to come out! If that was the case pregnancy would be 35 weeks and not 40.<br><br>
ARRRRRGHHHHH!<br><br>
(Aimed at nobody here, of course <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> )
 

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I offer my sympathies on your vent. I am on another more mainstream due date forum and have to fight back posting angry comments to moms who are pushing and pushing their OBs to induce them or re-schedule their c-section for 36 weeks. I feel like there's something wrong because I'm not asking to be induced at 39 weeks. Granted.... some moms are really suffering big time by the time they hit that 9th month and there is some sort of balance in that case.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I totally agree.<br>
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I know a woman who was scheduled for induction yesterday @ 36 wks, because she has two other children and needs to keep them on schedule...<br><br>
I really hope her baby will be okay<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:
 

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Yep…I could vent all day about this.<br><br>
I am also on another main stream board and it is so rare for women to get to their due dates. The induction rate is 64% on that board. I don’t even know the planned c-section rate but it’s high too. Most induce because “it fits their schedule and they are just so uncomfy”<br><br>
I can see being 9 months is uncomfy because I’m living it but I would never ask to be induced in a million years. People should do some research on the side effects or possible complications induction causes!
 

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Okay I can definitely AGREE with this vent!<br><br>
Having given birth to a 33 1/2 weeker after trying EVERYTHING we could sto stop it, I would give ANYTHING to have been able to carry her to term and get to enjoy those last weeks of pregnancy, knowing that she would come when she was good and ready and all done growing. I would much rather be huge and uncomfortable right now than sititng in a NICU looking at my baby hooked up to all sorts of monitors. I do not understand rushing this process or jeopardizing your baby for your own convenience. A friend of ours just got induced early to coincide with her husband's touring schedule. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">: Luckily the baby is fine.
 

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I am not in your DDC, but I saw this and wanted to comment. DH's cousin and his GF went in at 36 weeks to be induced because they have lived in Minnesota for a few months and could not get medical there so they came back to Missouri for the birth(medicaid). He did not want to use all of his vacation time from work so they tried an induction. It didn't work even when they stripped her membranes and everything. She went back to the hospital with every movement, contraction, and such and kept being sent home. She was just not ready, but they pushed for it. Their baby girl came out 2 weeks later after another try at an induction. They packed up and drove back to Minnesota about 4 hours after being released from the hospital. Luckily the baby is well and growing, but I cannot imagine what they were thinking. As for ours, she will come when she wants to regardless of what our schedule is like. I just hope she waits until our move to Jacksonville, NC is complete instead of coming in between places!!!
 

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I was just talking about this with a midwife the other day. She suggested that non-medically necessary inductions and c-sections not be covered by insurance. That might discourage some of these unnecessary procedures!
 

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I'm not in your DDC either but I pretty much had to leave another board because I couldn't handle the hormones and idiot people talking about inductions and c-sections to fit their schedules... also, the whole bf-ing is gross after 6 months thing but that is a totally separate issue!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">I'm not in your DDC either but I pretty much had to leave another board because I couldn't handle the hormones and idiot people talking about inductions and c-sections to fit their schedules... also, the whole bf-ing is gross after 6 months thing but that is a totally separate issue!</div>
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I don't think I could ever go to another forum besides MDC.. I think I'd be aggravated the entire time.. I have enough family in my life that are telling me how "good" c/s are, and that I should openly consent to a repeat for this babe..
 

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Some people are just... I don't even know!! Aggravating might be a good word?
 

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i really shouldn't talk because i have gone early 3 times now. but i don't think i would ever ask for an induction unless i was like 2-3 weeks overdue OR had a medical issue that neccessitated the baby coming out earlier than 40 weeks.<br><br>
i don't get the whole "i'm 36 weeks gets this baby out of me" thing. i've never been there, really. with my first my body was shutting down on me with pre e and by chance i went into labor on my own at 37 weeks. my OB was NOT talking about inducing at all. he said all women need to go into labor on their own! and i agreed. ( of course i'm sure that would've changed once i hit 42 weeks LOL) but that was it. otherwise, i've been really lucky at the ends of my pregnancies i suppose.<br><br>
with my 3rd, we went to the zoo the day before i went into labor. they were doing an easter egg hunt and we promised the kids. i wasn't quite 38 weeks, so we went. we walked the entire zoo and gathered eggs. it was FREEZING!<br>
the next day, sunday, i went into labor.<br><br>
i feel very lucky that i feel so good at the end. sure i am as big as a whale and life is hard, but come ON!!!! you KNOW that when you get pg that you are going to be enormous and uncomfortable and life is going to be very trying and hard. you won't be able to eat, you'll have heartburn, your feet will hurt, your hips will hurt, and your back will hurt. you'll feel like you baby is falling out of your crotch, and you will NOT want to look at yourself in the mirror <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> these are not SURPRISES at the end of the pregnancy! LOL
 

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this one i think becomes a mind over matter thing. like if you don't KNOW about how big the baby might be you can't use that as an excuse. but for some reason everyone wants to know "about" how big the baby is at certain gestations. even if you never had an u/s an ob or mw can "guesstimate" the size. and i think that freaks a lot of people out.<br><br>
i know with my second if i had known she was going to be over 9 lbs at around 38 weeks i would've freaked out BIG time. i was very glad i didn't know and glad that my OB didn't care to know either. i think i almost peed my pants when they told me the weight!!!!! i mean if i had gone 2 more weeks HOW BIG would she have been??? that's where the mind over matter comes in!<br><br>
so, maybe care providers need to stop guesstimating the weights <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"> and ordering late term U/S. ( which EVERYONE knows are OFF all of the time!) then there will be fewer of those types of inductions and csections.<br><br><br><br><div style="margin:20px;margin-top:5px;">
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<div style="font-style:italic;">I'm not sure what irks me more, this or, "I'm going to have a scheduled induction/c-section because my baby is too big..."</div>
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<div style="font-style:italic;">I'm not sure what irks me more, this or, "I'm going to have a scheduled induction/c-section because my baby is too big..."</div>
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Uuggghhhh I hate hearing that! This one co-worker came up to me one day and told me how great it is that we live in a world of scheduled c-sections because “back in the day” 50% of women died from giving birth because their babies were too big and wouldn’t fit through. I think I was so utterly shocked by her lack of education that I just looked at her and said “wow” <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">:<br><br>
My SIL is due today and she is only 5’-1”. She is already making comments like “oh if I don’t have the baby this weekend I’m going to need a c-section because it’s too big to come out now”. But that doesn't really surprise me since she has cut out all protien for her third trimester so "the baby doesn't get too big"<br><br>
Why don’t people understand that our bodies will only grow a baby that we can handle! Mother Nature isn’t dumb <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/irked.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="irked">:
 

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OP - AMEN SISTER!!!<br><br>
I had a woman tell me a few days ago "You must be due soon, you can't possibly get any bigger!" Umm, I was barely 38 weeks, and although I don't *want* to, I'm sure I *can* get bigger.<br>
And everytime I go to the hospital (dh works there, so sometimes we're just there to visit him) *everyone* says "Haven't you had that baby yet?" Again, I'm "only" 38 weeks. Yes, I would like to have this baby out, but it could very well be 3 more weeks. LEAVE ME ALONE!!!! At least the doc has not talked induction yet (even though dh asked her if she could give him some pitocin to bring home, because apparently *he's* done! Every time I wake up to pee he freaks out wondering if this is "it" <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/lol.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="lol"> )<br>
For my own sanity, I need to remember that it could be a few more weeks, and it is really hard when *everyone* thinks it should be *now*.
 

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At my OBGYN appointment a couple of days ago, my Dr. asked if I could please arrange to go into labor next Thursday (a little over 37 weeks for me), since she'd be in the hospital all day then. But she was KIDDING! As much as I hate the last few weeks of pregnancy, I can't imagine inducing just for convenience/ to get it over with. Intentionally bringing a baby into the world too early is much scarier to me than a few more weeks of discomfort.
 

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Wait, I have a story that fits with this:<br><br>
My friend was telling me how her sister just had her first baby. Sister was on bed rest for the last 12ish weeks of her pregnancy and went into labor naturally at around 37 or 38 weeks. She did great, no meds, vaginal birth to an over 9lb baby. I thought, wow, wonderful story of how capable our bodies are of birthing children. Then, friend tells me that the dr. said if she realized how big the baby was, she would have offered a c-sec. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/dizzy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Dizzy">: After seeing that this woman was able to birth an over 9lb baby, for the doctor to say something like that just boggles my mind. Apparently, it was not that mind boggling to my friend or her sister, but anyways.
 

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not read all the thread yet but half of me would LOVE to induce next week(37 weeks) but the sensible sid of me know that just stupid. as much as i am in pain,cant walk, cant lift/hug/play with my 3 kids the risk is just nor worth it. plus i HATE inductions i have had 1 and a half (ds1 wqs full blown induction gel/ARM/Pit Drip and i hated it but managed on Entinox, DS2 was a natural begining but i needed PIT to get things going (merconium in waters so he had to come out sooner rather than later) and it was horrendous.<br><br>
i would never in anyway ever ask my MW to induce me earlier than 41 weeks (my local MW units standard is 10 days over Due Date but im sure they are open to communication on that point)<br><br>
whilei can truly understand WHY woman wanna induce early i can not undersand them actualy doing it and risking babys health. baby will be out when baby is ready.<br><br>
i too get comments about "oh you not had that baby yet" "gosh your huge" etc etc adn its flipping annoying<br><br>
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