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  • My baby has never had a potty strike

    Votes: 16 33.3%
  • My baby had a strike before age 6 mos.

    Votes: 5 10.4%
  • My baby had a strike at 6-9 mos old

    Votes: 4 8.3%
  • My baby had a strike at 9-12 mos old

    Votes: 11 22.9%
  • My baby had a strike at 12-18 mos old

    Votes: 15 31.3%
  • My baby had a strike at 18+ mos old

    Votes: 6 12.5%
  • The strike coincided with learning to crawl or walk

    Votes: 14 29.2%
  • The strike coincided with a major change in routine or family dynamics

    Votes: 10 20.8%
  • The strike did not seem to have any reason, it just happened.

    Votes: 11 22.9%
  • My baby eventually got over the strike and went back to EC full time

    Votes: 19 39.6%
  • My baby got over the strike partially but never went back to full time EC

    Votes: 4 8.3%
  • My baby never got over the strike and went on to PT in the typical manner

    Votes: 2 4.2%
  • My child potty trained at a very early age (before age 2)

    Votes: 18 37.5%
  • My child potty trained at the average age (around age 2-3)

    Votes: 4 8.3%
  • My child potty trained at a late age (after age 3+)

    Votes: 2 4.2%
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I am just curious about this. My dd1 was EC'd from 6-12 mos and then went on a potty strike after that. She continued to use it first thing in the AM until she was PT at <b>age 3.8 years</b>, but never went back to true EC with signaling and all that. The strike happened because in the same month she learned to walk, and then we went to India for 2.5 mos and traveled around a lot there. It was just too much for her. I was so grossed out by older kids still in diapers and swore I would never have that going on in our house, but I was wrong.<br><br>
I started to EC dd2 but her health problems got in the way big time so she is just going to do child-guided potty training.<br><br>
I hear a lot about potty strikes so please humor me with this poll and any input you can give.
 

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I voted that my baby never had a potty strike, because even during our most difficult periods we were still doing EC pretty successfully - successfully enough that we didn't need diapers. She did go through a period of being more resistant to using the potty and having more accidents. That started around the time she was learning to walk (11-12 months). There were times during that period when she had 3 accidents in a day, but that didn't happen every day. Things were starting to get better by 15-16 months, and by 18 months EC was going better than ever before.<br><br>
I also voted that she potty trained at an average age, but it was on the low end of average - by 26 months she was consistently letting us know when she needed to go and pretty much stopped having accidents.
 

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my DS had a strike at 10 months. i was very involved in studying at the time and didn't make enough of an effort to get back into it
 

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I answered for 2 children. DS at 3 mos of curse has not had a strike yet. DD was in underwear at around 19 or 20 mos and I think I recall about a month of many many accidents and my DH wanting her back in diapers but I refused. I don't know if that was strike or not.
 

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It just occurred to me that we all might have different ideas about what being "potty trained" means. I considered my daughter potty trained when she would let us know she needed to go (before that, she would have accidents if I didn't take responsibility for deciding when I should try to get her to pee), and when she basically stopped having accidents. But I suppose I could have said she was potty trained at 8 months when we stopped using diapers, or at 18 months when she got over her difficult EC period and we started having very few accidents.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">It just occurred to me that we all might have different ideas about what being "potty trained" means. I considered my daughter potty trained when she would let us know she needed to go (before that, she would have accidents if I didn't take responsibility for deciding when I should try to get her to pee), and when she basically stopped having accidents. But I suppose I could have said she was potty trained at 8 months when we stopped using diapers, or at 18 months when she got over her difficult EC period and we started having very few accidents.</div>
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Good point! I meant that the child can walk over to the potty and undress, sit, and go with no help from parents. The child may still need help with getting dressed and wiping. Also to have very few accidents. (My dd1 still has an occasional accident but she's been PT for over a year.)
 

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Darshani,<br><br>
my son is about the same age as Nitara. he was pretty much trained around 20 months or so?? we started ec late. then some changes in routine happened similar to yours, we went out of town for an extended amount of time and then came back (sans daddy too). now he is doing ec like half of the time. maybe we have 2-4 wet diapers a day. it is frustrating b/c i know he can do it ugh. but he is doing the best he can. when his diaper is wet he says, don't pee in the diaper. i'm never really sure if we are EC or traditional potty training. kind of a mix i guess.<br><br>
i want to ditch the diapers again when we get our new place in a couple of months. i hate to go back and forth but i think he was feeling too much pressure.
 

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My dd is 4.5 mo old and has had a few several-day periods where she will not pee in the potty, I was lucky if I caught 2 pees a day during those times. They did seem to coincide with periods of increased physical activity - rolling over, lifting her head and body off the floor while on her back. I didn't select the option on the poll for crawling/walking though since she isn't doing those yet<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"> but it's along those same lines.
 

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My DD is 13 months, and we started EC at 7 months, when I found out about the process.<br>
She has never had a *potty strike*, but when she was getting her first top 4 teeth, all of them in 10 days, she was *potty resistant*. She really didn't like using the potty for anything other than wake-up pees and poops. Every couple of days(during this two week period), she would surprise me and sit when offered the potty.<br>
She has learned to crawl, stand, cruise, walk, get 10 teeth, and say her first words since we have started EC, and those first top four teeth were the only resistance we have encountered.
 

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Well my dd has done the above but usually she expects me to help her and I never refuse. If I were to wait till she did all this regularly I dont know when she would be PT but we were down to avg 1 miss/ day by 9 or 10 months and switched to underwear, using diapers only rarely (like when spending the night away from home). misses were way way down by the time the strike hit without warning at 15 months, but resolved within a couple of weeks. We were down to 1 miss / month by about 18 months and that is when I started giving away my diapers.<br><br>
Of course at 9 or 10 months my dd could not even walk much less undress and sit down on the potty by herself. But she was diaper free. And we were late starters, too.
 

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We started late, just as Ben hit 12 months. We worked in stages as I learned more. First we caught nearly all poops but almost no pees. then at 18 months we got pees down at home. He was just about 2 when we got the hang of going in public, and graduated at 26 months.<br><br>
I don't recall Ben ever having a potty strike. He still prefers the little potty to the big one, but he's pretty easy to work with.<br><br>
ETA: Ben was cruising at high speed at 7 months and continued till 13 months. He could walk, just didn't want to let go. He started walking freely at 13 months, but it didn't seem to effect his pottying at all. He was essentially already walking well by the time we started EC.
 

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Not really sure if I should have voted (no strikes) because we have only been doing it for 1 month, and my baby is only 6 months old. It is going very well though. I always offer the potty when he signals (have one in the car and diaper bag as well as at home) and have been very consistent since the day we started. We have had only one poop accident per week since starting, except the first three days where he pooped every morning upon wakeing
 

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We started at 2.5 months and were pretty much accident free by 4 months. We successfully EC'ed until 18 months when he refused to pee in the toilet any more. (he still had BMs in the toilet consistantly though) He stayed this way until he was just over 3, he was aware when he needed to pee, he just didn't want to. Then one day he decided it was time and he has not had an accident day or night since then. I don't know what his reasons were, though I am sure he had reasons.<br><br>
I tried EC with ds2, but ds1 would freak out whenever I put him on the potty. We were successful for the 6 weeks we did it, but it just wasn't worth the fights with ds1. He mostly "potty trained" himself at 18 months, though he has regressed to peeing in his trainers again now that it is too cold to keep him naked. He was very consistant for nearly 6 months though.<br><br>
I didn't even bother EC with dd. With 3 kids 4 and under, ds1 starting therapy for ASD, ds2 and his constant energy, renovating our house, countless food issues, and a billion other things I just didn't want "one more thing".
 

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My answers are complicated.<br><br>
My first potty trained early- before 2, I'd say, though we had lots of misses when out and about for about 6 months.<br><br>
My second- EC'd from 3 weeks. We had a strike/ give up around 10 or 11 months. Coincided with a trip across the country and learning to crawl/ walk. However, there were several issues that cotributed to our lack of success. I would ALWAYS jump when she pooped as a newborn, and as a result, she (mostly) stopped signaling for poops and waited to poo until I put her down. I was also not very consistent. We started EC again several times, but with only temporary successes. Finally 3 wks before her third birthday, I said no more. I'd rather just deal with poopy pants, this is clearly a HABIT because she has demonstrated again and again that she has the ability to use the potty, for weeks at a time on occasion! So we've been 98% miss free for about 6 months, but she's in aphase where she "needs" me to accompany her to the bathroom EVERY SINGLE TIME she goes potty. I had a huge epiphany about that recently, which made the whole EC process much more valuable to me.<br><br>
My third- EC'd from 1 month. We've never had a "strike" per se, though we've had times where I just put EC totally on the backburner. DS is 11 months and I would say we've never had a strike with him. (Pauses, maybe, but they were mama initiated, not baby initiated.)
 

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My dd is almost 10 months and has never had a strike. I voted in the "strike for major milestone" although she never refused to potty, but I did step back from ec because she stopped signalling in a way that I could understand during the day.<br><br>
If I went on timing during the day she did really well (45-60 min between offering in teh morning, 60-100 min in the afternoon) and she has always signalled LOUD AND CLEAR at night (vocal signal that wakes me) even on vacation and in strange places and when we used sposies for a long vacation once.<br><br>
Actually, that's probably the worst part of EC. No matter how badly I need to sleep she's going to signal and wake me and then INSIST on at least a dry dipe before going back to sleep. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br>
Generally we use cloth w/o a cover at home, semi-waterproof (unlanolized wool usually) when out and waterproof when we take trips longer than an hour drive in the car. I've been collecting training pants and undies and plan on making the plunge while at home (using the 3 miss and back in something absorbant rule) pretty soon... probably as soon as I finish the fleece pants for her that are cut on my sewing table.<br><br>
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