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ugh.<br><br>
I watch the kids all day, seriously. When hubby gets home, he "watches" the kids but that means he lets them run around screaming and jumping on things and crying...<br><br>
I never get any quiet time to do schoolwork... ive failed 2 tests recently because of lack of quiet and ability to concentrate.<br><br>
honestly. why cant he take them for a walk or something... <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">: Oh because hes "been gone all day"
 

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Will communicating with him about how you feel help at all?<br><br>
Is there a local library near you that you can go to study at for a couple of hours when he comes home?<br><br>
I only have one child, so it was much easier for me when I was finishing my last year of study... I would wait until the little one had settled for the night and then hit the books. Is it possible to wait until the little ones have gone to bed? I realise that you shouldn't have to do that, because your partner should be supporting you more, but it might be an option.<br><br><br>
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you have to leave the house. i'm serious! I can't work at home (working on my PhD) because the whole family will "pop in" my study to ask this or that, show me this great piece of kid art, ask me quickly if we have any sugar left [um, *look* in the cupboard where it always is!!!!], etc. Also, if you're out of the house, your DH has to do something with the kids. You being there is a crutch. Go to the public library, a friend's house, etc.
 

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I'm on the opposite end. I help dh find research materials for papers and arrange for me and the kids to be out of the home so he can study. However, I'm constantly on him about when things are due, when tests are due, etc. This weekend we'll be going to my mom's so he can get a paper done.<br><br>
I'd second talking to him (if you haven't already.) If you have stressed the importance of you getting some quiet time, reiterate it and then leave home. Go to a library, a book store or even a local Starbucks. Even just going out to the car in the street, driveway, etc. might make a difference in your study time. It might help keep your sanity and grade. Sometimes it's best to remove yourself from home to get things accomplished.
 

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That's what I was going to say. Either the library or a coffee shop or something.<br><br>
Also do you have any preteen girls in your neighborhood? If so you could hire them to come play with your kids while you study. We have done that before and the kids *love* it. It does cost something but we have paid them far less than the going rate for babysitting.
 

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the thing is, i leave, and then come back to my apartment torn to bits, hubby at the computer, and the kids not fed/changed. see my problem.<br><br>
ugh. Sorry... but just ugh. No matter how much I talk to him about it, I get, "they are fine" and "i do watch them" *rolls eyes*
 

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I honestly think you'd do better hiring a 10yo than trusting your DP. He or she would actually play with and engage the kids and keep them from interupting you in your locked study room- but you're still the adult in the house in case of a true emergency.
 
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