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Ok, not literally. I am not going to care for him anymore. That was one of the hardest phone calls I have ever made. I have been working 6 days a week and about 55-60 hour weeks, and am starting to lose my mind. Now, I will be working about 40 hours a week and only making about $45 less a week.<br><br>
I feel like I ruined this mamas holiday. She now has to find childcare for her DS in the next month, as I gave her a month's notice. I am pretty sure she was crying when I got off the phone with her. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad"> I know it is not my responsibility, but I feel so horrible about ruining her Christmas. If I had waited, though, I wouldn't be getting a day off until February. As it is, I am going to be working these insane hours for four more weeks before I finally get a break.<br><br>
Dang, this just stinks...
 

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First off, let me tell me that I am glad to hear that you didn't acually drop the baby and second let me say that I am sorry that you are feeling guilty. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2">
 

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Aww, I am so sorry to hear that you are feeling so bad. I'm sure it won't be so difficult for her to find child care, you have given her plenty of notice! Just think of it this way, it wouldnt have done her child or you any good to push yourself past the limit. You gotta take care of yourself before you can take care of a child. Hugs!
 

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You have to care for yourself if your going to be able to really care for children. A full month notice is awesome and very considerate. It's hard to separate business and emotion in such a caring occupation, but I think you did the right thing. Beyond that, it sounds like you handled it in the best possible manner. I'm sure once it soaks in to the mama a bit more, she'll recover just fine. Hopefully she's in a position that slows down a bit over the holidays, which would even give her more flexibility in her search.
 

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Terminating a family is never easy. But, not to be harsh....it is just a business decision. You are making a business decision based on the fact that if you continue to work these crazy hours you will not be able to care for anyone let alone this child. You have to do what is best for you and your family and the dckids.<br><br>
Hugs. Don't stress. everything happens for a reason.<br><br>
Honestly, I have been in this business for a number of years and have terminated children for various reasons. And, the first day without that child is usually blissful and you will wonder why you waited so long to do it anyway. We all have limits. But, being in a 'caring' business it is hard to decifer between what is a business decision and what is being un-caring. KWIM?<br><br>
Hang in there. The guilt will pass. I hope the seperation with this family is amicable and they find alternate care soon.
 

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Thanks so much for all of the support. I am feeling a bit better about my decision. I am dreading tomorrow when he comes with his dad, but at least I know in my heart that I am doing what is best for everyone. I really do need to care for myself and my son first and then my daycare children can get the best possible care from me.
 
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