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Just feeling so low right now...

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dd2's dad still hasn't seen her, its been since the begining of Feb. Still won't help, he finally stopped harassing me (about us, not the baby of course) only because he shut my phone off w/o any notice. Actually he didn't shut it off, he transfered my number to his old phone, so now him and his gf take my calls (how lovely). i can't take this, I am so behind on bills, my bank account is sitting at NEGATIVE $545, and I don't get paid til friday. Its been like this for 7 weeks now (yes I'm counting). Every paycheck brings me back at 0. And all over again all week going neg and getting tons of NSF charges that ends up taking it all. while I watch him leave work to go to the bar atleast 3x a week, comes in late or leaves early, new clothes and gadgets, while I bring pb&j sandwhiches for lunch everyday, every week. It is absolute torture to have to see him 5 days a week for atleast 8 hours. Especially when his gf (or should I say wife, since that is who he is back with, his ex wife) and their kids come up for lunch.
But he wants nothing to do with our sweet baby girl who is only 6 months old. Could care less if she has the things she needs. How can someone be like that? So cruel and cold? I hate him so much.
I called the friend of the court today, about our support case and they have the paperwork, but they said it could take up to a YEAR for a court date!!!
I hate Wayne County!!! I feel so helpless right now, I have never felt like this before, things are so hard. I can't even try for overtime cause I go to school full time also.
Please say a prayer or nice thoughts, or crossing your fingers or something that things will get better. I don't know what else to do.
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I know how you feel, and I am so sorry. I know it is tough. Cry.... Cry.... and cry somemore. It does make you feel better, and then you can laugh at all of this when you are on top of everything again. Best wishes and prayers are with you.
oh katt, i so so feel ur pain!!! my ex wasnt as heartless as yours but the emotional and mental torture of the two years of me trying to work on our marriage while he went off to 'party' with his gf and friends (at least he was poor too, they paid for him) and left me to take care of everything was the lowest point EVER in my life. i have NEVER endured such pain in my life - and i have gone thru a lot more than average. even his family was pissed off at him.

is there any way you could move out (it sounds like u guys are still sharing quarters)? stay with a friend for a while to get back on ur feet? ANYONE u could borrow money from to break even? ANYONE?

i know how hard this is gonna be but stop focussing on how little u have and how much he has. that is gonna do u no good. it took me 3 1/2 years to get out of that negative thinking mode. and i couldnt start to heal while i kept focusing on all the negatives around u.

katt the reason i say this is because my situation really didnt start improving in miniscule amounts untill i took matters in my own hands and started thinking positively. small example. i so focussed on getting rid of my constant fixing car that i never focussed on what my new car would feel like, drive like. i got into an accident last year, my jalopy was totalled and i have been without a car. not knowing how to ride a bike has made my life sooo miserable. main thing it has taken time away from my dd.

can you not go on welfare? sorry if i sound pushy but i am trying to think of getting u out of ur situation. i mean that is the reason why it is there.

katt you deserve soo much better.

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Sorry things are so hard for you right now. I hope things get better for you soon. I agree that you should try applying for WIC and Food stamps, take all of the assistance that you qualify for. My child support is taking a long time too, I filed in November. BUT, when you do get approved and an amount is set, you can get back payments for up to TWO years. It all depends on your seperation date.
hang in there mama, stay strong.
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I don't have any advice, but I wanted to offer my support.

I realy don't understand how he could be like that and it is horrible. You are strong. Hang in there.
Katt, I am soooo sorry that this is happening....
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Thanks guys. We don't live together, but we work at the same place. and I don't qualify for any assistance, even WIC. I've already tried. they I say make too much. But if I was on anything, they would def get us in to court alot quicker, so they could get their money from him, but since I'm not we are last priority.
Oh Katt - I'm so sorry you're having such a rough time. I've been there, too - the bank account, the ex, the "make too much to get help but not enough to live properly" - I know how frustrating it is being right on the edge of disaster all the time. It will get better, I promise. Keep working hard and going to school and loving the little ones. You're doing the best you can and it will work out.
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I don't have any good advice, but know you'll be in my thoughts and prayers. Relief will come soon.
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