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Well I just got off the phone with DH, who called the doctor's office himself to try and get them to give us the results of the SA. I'm <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/mecry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="crying"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/bawling.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bawl"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">: right now because everything was really low. The chances of us conceiving without an IUI or something more invasive are so low they're pretty much non existent. I'm so sad right now. And it wasn't just the count. It was the count, mobility, AND morphology. I guess I'll be posting more on the infertility side now <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:<br><br>
My DH wasn't very helpful at all. he thought it was good news...I think that's just because it was a male ego thing and he's just glad he can sa he's not sterile. He wasn't understanding at all of how hard this is for me. he didn't understand why it wasn't "great news"!
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Well I just got off the phone with DH, who called the doctor's office himself to try and get them to give us the results of the SA. I'm <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/mecry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="crying"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/bawling.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bawl"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">: right now because everything was really low. The chances of us conceiving without an IUI or something more invasive are so low they're pretty much non existent. I'm so sad right now. And it wasn't just the count. It was the count, mobility, AND morphology. I guess I'll be posting more on the infertility side now <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:<br><br>
My DH wasn't very helpful at all. he thought it was good news...I think that's just because it was a male ego thing and he's just glad he can sa he's not sterile. He wasn't understanding at all of how hard this is for me. he didn't understand why it wasn't "great news"!</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug">: I am so sorry to hear that but try to stay positive, You do still have a chance even if it is a little more invasive. Good luck with everything I'm sure you will have your baby before you know it,and who knows you could get a little miracle, it has happened before!
 

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I'm so sorry...take some time for yourself, let your emotions run their course, and then you will move forward. It takes a lot of courage to go though with testing, you did it. And you will be able to use what you learned to move on in your journey.<br><br>
Many women DO get pregnant with fertility treatments (my mom)...Don't give up hope...we'll all be here for you if you need to vent or hear kind words,
 

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Been there done that, <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I thought my world was crashing down when I heard the results of DH's SA. It was horrible. Basically the doctor looked at us and told us it was IVF or nothing. It was so hard, but gradually it got easier. We let a couple of days pass and then we sat down and made a plan. We wrote our plan down on paper and figured out when we could do an IVF cycle. It was so hard to do, but we made it through. And now we have our miracle IVF baby. Best of luck to you.
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> I'm so sorry. You have every right to be upset and to feel angry. Take time for yourself. You need to let out the emotions so that you can move on and be able to accept the solutions (even if they aren't the ones you wanted). You will still get your baby, even if the path there isn't what you'd hoped it would be. We are all here for any venting you need to do.
 

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*lots of hugs* <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"><br><br>
I am so sorry. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">
 

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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Just to make you feel better, my uncle was told he was completely sterile. NO sperm at all. When he got married to his second wife and was 42 and her 40 they got pregnant with my cousin. She had children from her first marriage but my uncle had none. They call my cousin their "little bous." It can happen. Don't despair and give-up hope.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">Well I just got off the phone with DH, who called the doctor's office himself to try and get them to give us the results of the SA. I'm <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/mecry.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="crying"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/bawling.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="bawl"><img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">: right now because everything was really low. The chances of us conceiving without an IUI or something more invasive are so low they're pretty much non existent. I'm so sad right now. And it wasn't just the count. It was the count, mobility, AND morphology. I guess I'll be posting more on the infertility side now <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/gloomy.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Gloomy">:<br><br>
My DH wasn't very helpful at all. he thought it was good news...I think that's just because it was a male ego thing and he's just glad he can sa he's not sterile. He wasn't understanding at all of how hard this is for me. he didn't understand why it wasn't "great news"!</div>
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<img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="/img/vbsmilies/smilies/hug2.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="Hug2"> So sorry.
 

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I'm so sorry, what disappointing news.<br><br>
I just wanted to say that, as a queer woman who got pregnant using IUI and frozen sperm, I understand your reluctance to want an invasive procedure. One of things I had to "mourn" in my ttc process was the fact that for me, conception and sex would always be separate, and that I'd never get pregnant "by accident." I'm sure that if you have a male partner, and have assumed that you'll do things in a more traditional way, this is an even harder mental adjustment to make.<br><br>
I was very lucky in that I was able to do my IUIs at home with the assistance of a midwife. My girlfriend was there for most of my inseminations; my friends were there for others. And one of the things I learned through that process is that just because I wasn't having sex to get pregnant, it didn't mean that the process of conception wasn't full of love and intention.<br><br>
And now that I'm finally pregnant (after six tries), I can tell you that I honestly don't remember or think about all the ways in which ttc was less than ideal; I'm just really, really thrilled to be becoming a parent.<br><br>
One other thing that I really appreciated by the end of the process is that my sex life never got tied up in the tensions of ttc. Many of my straight friends who have tried eventually found that sex became an exhausting, timed ordeal. For me, my intimacy with my partner became a really special, positive space that remained relatively immune to the pressures of the conception.<br><br>
As PPs have said, I think it's important to take the time to feel sad, and indeed, let yourself feel whatever you need to feel. But know that this isn't the end of the world, and the baby that's waiting for you out there is going to find you at just the right time, you know? <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> Good luck.
 

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Oh honey I am so sorry for you. Could not read and not reply since I could have written your post a few months ago. Similar very discouraging news, I cried literally for days.<br><br>
I don't have great words of wisdom, just <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/hug.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="hug"> and I am sorry you are dealing with this.<br><br>
I know exactly how you feel. Wish I could just give you a big ol hug.<br><br>
Also - you'll find a lot wise gals and support here, I have found.<br><br>
Diana
 

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I'm so sorry you had to hear that. I have to just tell you that 6 years ago I heard the same thing from a fertility specialist. My DH's sperm was so low in everything, that it was IVF or nothing. I was devastated. We tried every natural way we could, nothing. We were even foster parents hoping to adopt, no luck. A month after our first foster baby went home, I got pregnant with my DD and was pregnant every year after for two more years. I don't want to give you false hope, but the only way I have ever gotten pregnant (even this last one) was while DH was taking Tri-Aminos. It has L-Arginine, L-Ornithine, L-Lysine, and we use NOW brand in case you want to try. He has always taken it at least 3 mnths or more before we are able to conceive. The best of luck to you.
 

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How many tests has he had? To give a clear picture he needs at least two tests three months apart. One tests is not necessarily indicative of a fertility problem.<br><br>
The tests should also be done by a fertility specialist.<br><br>
In the mean time encourage healthy eating, he should cut down on alcohol and give up smoking, if he indulges.<br><br>
Good luck!
 

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well, the count wasn't as low as DH made it seem on the phone. It was 18 million. They said 20 million or under they don't like to see. The motility was fine, but the morphology wasn't good. I didn't find out the numbers on the morphology. i didn't know to ask.<br><br>
DH is now taking vitamin E, vitamin C, a good multi-vitamin, zinc w/copper, and B12<br><br>
We are scheduled for an IUI on Monday.
 

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<div style="font-style:italic;">How many tests has he had? To give a clear picture he needs at least two tests three months apart. One tests is not necessarily indicative of a fertility problem.<br><br>
The tests should also be done by a fertility specialist.<br><br>
In the mean time encourage healthy eating, he should cut down on alcohol and give up smoking, if he indulges.<br><br>
Good luck!</div>
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He's just had one test so far. We will definitely do a retest, pending we don't get pregnant, in a month or two. He does eat healthy, doesn't drink at all (anymore), has never smoked, and the test was done by a fertility specialist.
 

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So, I was told by an OB that SA's need to be done by a Urologist.....is an RE a better option? And, is that the same as a fertility specialist??
 

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Sounds like you're already moving forward. Good luck with the IUI!!!!!
 
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