[franklinmarxmom]

Ok, DS (27 mos.) did something yesterday. And I think it's pretty cool, but it blew me away. I don't have anyone to share it with who would get it. So thank you for indulging me.

He was sitting on the couch petting and snuggling one of our cats, Ringo. Here is the conversation that unfolded:

DS: "I'm so sad." (making a sad face)
Me: "Why are you so sad?"
DS: "Because I love Ringo."
Me: "You are sad because you love Ringo?"
DS: "I just love him so much I'm sad."
Me: (dumbfounded silence)
DS: "I love him, I want to hold him, it makes me sad."

The next time he repeated it (which he did several times), I muttered something about sometimes when we really love someone it can feel a bit like sadness in our heart, but it's ok--it's just because you love them so much. Still searching for what to say, if there is anything that can be said. And I'm in the business of finding things to say (or not) in these kinds of conversations with adults!

 

[daytripper75]

What a sweet, sweet boy! My lo is the same age and can't even say all of those words let alone the feeling behind them.
Snuggle that boy!

 

[harmonyhobbit]

That is sweet. I know that feeling well. I think you are on the right track. I would encourage him to savor that feeling or loving so much it hurts. He will feel it again (hopefully many, many times) in his life. It sounds like he's a deeply emotional child (as I was). Those feelings can be overwhelming and even painful at times. He needs reassurance that it's ok, and even a blessing to have those kind of feelings. He will continue to have these feelings, and it's important for him to make peace with it.

ETA: I have to admit I'm a little jealous. My very intense, hyperverbal 6yr old does not have the ability to express his emotions at all (spectrum kid). It's so hard to see him hurting, or at least feeling, and not be able to express himself at all. What a blessing that your child can articulate his feelings so eloquently.

 

[Mizelenius]

That is so sweet!!!

 

[Tigerle]

They can bowl you over completely when they do that, can't they? It makes you want to hold them and protect them from this world forever!
I am still chewing on the conversation my little boy initiated recently at bedtime, at about a month older than yours:
"Mama I'm not feeling myself when you're not there." (I work FT four days a week).
"You mean you're not feeling right? Not feeling good?"
"Yes. That's it. I'm not feeling myself when you're away."
"Oh. Do you feel alright when Granny is there?" (Who he sees infrequently and who was staying over at the time).
"No, only when Mama is there."
"With Granny alone it's not alright?"
"With Mama AND Granny".
"Do you feel alright when Papa is there?" (He's the PT SAHD).
"Yes. When Papa is there, it's alright."
Whew. I was about to quit my job! Sometimes I still think I should...

 

[St. Margaret]

These are so sweet. I totally know that feeling, and I remember having it as a kid and not having anyone to talk to about it. These are lucky kids!

 

[Bird Girl]

What a sweetie!

 

[alexsam]

Awww....!

My 4 yr old loves John Denver

. JD often sings about how "sunshine makes me cry". DS said "Sunshine makes him cry because its so beautiful and it gets so big inside him it comes out in crying because he is happy."

Its amazing how emotionally aware some kids are!

You've got a keeper

.

 

[2bluefish]

I had to have the death and dying talk with dd yesterday. We were talking about family and that led to great grandma who died when I was a baby and that lead to where you go when you die and that lead to what is heaven like and that lead to where is God and why can't I see him. Whew!