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Hi mama's!<br>
I am planning a VBAC with my baby due here in about 6 weeks. I am having some complications and am getting nervous. I dont want to discuss these and I don't want my post to be about that. BUT, I want to be prepared either way.<br>
If I find the safest route for my situation is a repeat C/S. Can any one you offer some tips for me? And what you have found your hospitals allowed?<br>
I hate the fact of my baby being rushed off into someone else's arms.. I saw one gal who slept with a blanket the night before and had the baby wrapped in that right away so her smell was on it.<br>
So, if I HAVE to have a C/S, what would your tips be to have the best experience.<br>
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For our c-section, which was unplanned, but non-emergent (i.e. baby wasn't in distress), my DH went to our son the second he was out, and brought him to me within minutes of his birth. He put DS on my upper chest (I was still draped from the armpits down, so I couldn't nurse yet), and our new baby latched onto my cheek. ;-) Our MW (who stayed 2 hours late from a 24-hour shift to be there with us through the surgery) helped me hold him while DH went and told the grandparents the good news. He stayed right there on my chest until we were installed in our room, except for being passed around to various family members and stuff. (Actually, they probably had DH carry him or something when I was wheeled to recovery... I don't remember... but I don't think he had a bassinet assigned until we had our post-partum room.)
 

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Although my perception was altered because of the anesthesia, I enjoyed watching my dd's birth in the overhead mirror.<br><br>
I also was separated from my dh when first entering the surgical room, and being extremely frightened, and shaking I became fast friends with those nurses. If someone can stay with you the whole time I think that would be optimal.
 

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A doula might not be a bad idea. If it's not emergent (and get your doc and his/her anesthesiologist's permission well before the surgery!!), you might find that your doctor will allow her to be gowned and ready, so that when the baby is born (if they will not allow baby on your chest, which the hospitals around here do not, and there are several of them <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/greensad.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="greensad">), your dh can go with the baby and the doula can come in and be with you, to talk you through the shakes, vomiting (if that happens), and telling you what's going on with your baby.
 

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Firstly, keep your chin up! I found that in my intensive preparation & planning for a VBAC, I healed so much emotionally - that when my VBAC didn't happen, I still felt like I had a successful birth that went as well as could be expected, I felt safe, comfortable, in control, informed, and a full participant in my son's birth.<br><br>
Breifly, my son was born via unplanned, semi-emergent C-section - don't know if that's an "official" classification - but I too had complications at the end of my pregnancy, primarily that my placenta had limited function, and my fluid levels were extremely low. As I croseed into my 36th week, during my routine non-stress test, it was determined that my baby was in non-imminent danger-but-soon-to-be-distress, my fluid levels had dipped below two, and combined with DS still being in a breech presentation (fluid levels disallowing an ECV), my VBAC & breech status conterindicated any kind of induction, so my pregnancy ended in a C-section within hours. Fortunately, I had enough time to call my doula to attend, call my mother to take my daughter, and help me to prepare mentally & physically for what I needed to feel good about this delivery.<br><br><br>
Here are the things that were really important to me (which may or may not be requirements for you - remember, it's YOUR birth, no one else's), to help me feel like I still was able to have the birth I had planned on:<br><br>
1) The decision to proceed to C/S was confirmed by more than one doctor. In my case, it was confirmed by 3 different doctors (my OB, and two perinatologists), and we asked them all about "alternatives", and "what ifs" before consenting to the section.<br><br>
2) I insisted on having my husband present in the OR during anethesia (and throughout the birth, of course!). Having the spinal during my first birth was one of the hardest parts for me - painful & frightening, and I was not about to do it alone, even though it was against hospital policy. I made it clear to my nurses, the anethetist, and pretty much everyone I or my doula could talk to, that my husband WAS NOT GOING TO LEAVE MY SIDE WHEN THEY INSERTED A NEEDLE IN MY SPINE. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/smile.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="smile"><br><br><br>
3) I insisted on my baby being placed on my chest as soon as possible (i.e. not being cleaned, etc.), in the OR, while they sewed me up. This was probably my NUMBER ONE request, er, insistance <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/thumb.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="thumbs up">, and I didn't budge, even though it was against hospital policy. We talked to a lot of people to get this to work - and only had a couple of hours. The HARDEST part of my first birth, the one that caused me the most emotional difficulty to heal from, was the fact that after 31 hours of laboring with my daughter, I was sectioned, and she was taken away for nearly an hour before we were reunited - and she was already washed/scrubbed, goopy-eyed, etc., and I was a wreck, and felt so alone, and out of touch - didn't know who had her, though I knew my husband was with her, didn't know what was going on, when I'd see her, etc. Yuck. This time my baby wasn't going anywhere. And it was WONDERFUL. The most amazing experience, and I'm so forever grateful to myself for insisting, and for the hospital staff for cooperating.<br><br>
4) I requested my husband AND doula to be present in the recovery room. Typically only spouses are allowed, but by that time I think they already knew I was one of those "difficult" patients, and they allowed it. <img alt="" class="inlineimg" src="http://www.mothering.com/discussions/images/smilies/wink1.gif" style="border:0px solid;" title="wink1"><br><br><br>
Just remember that whatever happens, the preparation you've put into this VBAC is NOT wasted, it's NOT a failure. You have become more illuminated & educated in this process about yourself & birth, and regardless of the outcome, that is worth so much to your piece of mind.<br><br>
Good luck to you mama!!!
 

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My c/s with my son was scheduled (breech) and I created a c/s birth plan. I suggest you do the same JUST IN CASE and discuss with your MW/doc. See what policies are in place and what they will and will not bend on.<br><br>
I was able to have my son right after he was born. My husband was in the OR with me. I held my son in recovery and was able to breastfeed. This was a non-issue for me. Rooming in was also a non-issue. They bathed him right in front of me - also a non-issue. I have my birth plan posted on a few previous threads about preparing for c/s - you should be able to find it if you look and are interested.<br><br>
Keep a positive attitude - hopefully the VBAC will go through and you won't have to worry about this! But I agree - it doesn't hurt to be prepared if things don't go as planned - and knowing what to expect and getting some small thigns you ask for can make a huge difference between you having a positive vs. negative experience.<br><br>
Good luck!
 

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If I had to have a c-section, the first thing is that I would make sure that I could get a private room and that my husband or someone could spend the night with me. When I had my daughter, the hospital had semi-private rooms and so my husband couldn't stay the night and I had a hard time getting the baby in and out of the bassinet so I had to send her to the nursery at night, would have preferred to have help. I would ask to be able to nurse in the recovery room, that's what we did. The hardest part for me after was that the hospital policy was that the baby had to be in the nursery for "observation" and to raise her body temp, and then they gave her a bath, and then back in the baby warmer to raise her body temp. So it was like 3 hours before we got our baby back. I would ask for skin-to-skin contact with a warmed blanket to keep the baby warm after birth rather than the baby warmer and then for dad or someone to be there during the bath and a second support person to stay with me. Finally, during the surgery I would respectfully request that the staff limit their conversation to stuff pertaining to me and the baby, while they were prepping me for surgery, the doctor was talking to the nurses about taking his boat out over the weekend or something and they weren't talking to me, so it was like I wasn't even there, I was just the thing being operated on.
 

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These are all great suggestions. I had an emergency c-s in 2001 (baby was in distress, I only dilated 1.5 cm), and my DH held our baby right away and brought the baby to the recovery room. I recommend getting a 100% cotton robe, wearing it before the birth so that it has your scent, and wrapping yourself (or your DH) with the baby in it...the idea is to keep your baby AWAY FROM THE HEAT LAMPS and close to the parents! I demanded a cot for my DH to stay in the room with us, and that was a huge help. My DH stuck to the baby during his trip to the nursery for tests. Focus on attachment, and things will go much better for everyone.
 

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These are all great suggestions and I want you all to know I really appreciate your time in telling me your stories! I feel all of your support.<br><br>
My last C/S my DH was able to be with the baby right away and had him in recovery and they never took him away from me. Thank goodness...<br><br>
But I had my daughter naturally and there was nothing like the feeling of having that warm new baby right on my bare chest and feeling her warmth and SMELLING her.. I'll never forget that scent!<br><br>
My C/S I was shown my baby after he was wiped off and I gave him a kiss and he was off with my DH and I laid there in the cold, alone, yearning for my baby...<br><br>
I want to be able to have him right away! I want to smell him and hold him or at least have him ON me or NEAR me.. I just always feel I'm fighting with the hospital, they always wanted to "take" our kids away to "check" them. And we never let him out of our site, and we were probably labeled the "problem" patients ( like I really care )<br><br>
So do you mama's think I should handle this before hand? Even if I don't know if I'll VBAC or not? I will discuss it with my Doc next week. I mean, It's MY baby, why can't I do what I want? How tough are hospital policies? My DH will be with me? Why can't he hold him if there are no complications?<br>
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i would have a birth plan for both eventualities (VBAC or c-section). you should clear both with your doctor beforehand.<br><br>
i just want to tell you that my second c-section (a much planned for VBAC turned emergency) was A LOT easier to recover from. i bounced back quickly and left the hospital a day early. i just want you to know that in case you don't get your much wanted VBAC.
 

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I have a birth plan for both...I also have a doula and know that the hospital I will deliver at will allow my husband to remain with the baby at all times and the doula can stay with me.<br>
Here is what I have written down for my birth plan in the event of another c/s<br><br>
1. Husband or support allowed to be with me at all times during surgery and recovery<br>
2. Husband and I able to observe surgery and birth (no harm in asking)<br>
3. Arms to be left unrestrained (again, no harm in asking)<br>
4. No separation if baby is healthy, baby to be placed on my chest immediately if possible<br>
5. BFing as soon as possible after birth<br><br>
Good luck, it is wise to be prepared for either outcome. I wish you the best.
 
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